‘1993 friends who are joining the 30’s club, how are you guys doing?

30 is a strange number. At 29, I feel young still but once 30 hits it’s like wow, I’m old.

Work wise seems like everything is going well but tbh I’m having sleepless nights the past couple of nights. The thought of being 30 and unmarried, parents aging right infront of your eyes , you being a whole lot closer to death, you hear friends who suddenly fell sick.

You’re sitting there in your room, the same room you’ve been in since you were 10 and as you scroll insta, you see your ex-classmates in their fully furnished BTO happily with their children and you’re like hmm.

Guess it’s just the first few days of the new year but it’ll get better ahahahahahaha

How about you guys?

Netizens’ comments

1. if 30’s is old… then how about us in the 40’s club….
2. I don’t feel 30 at all 🥲🥲 Sometimes I’m a bit stressed cause the things I enjoy aren’t exactly befitting a 30 year old LOL. I’m still bumbling around like I am in my early 20s, I still don’t feel ready for kids (or feel that maternal fire that I’m supposed to feel, according to the older folks lol), still want to just enjoy my life…
   … then I’m like f it, I’m going to be 40 in 10 years time so I might as well enjoy the things that I like right now to the fullest lol
3. 33M here with muscular dystrophy so basically in a 70YO body. Live life on your own terms and never let society dictate it. There is no age cap on most things you want to do/accomplish in life.
4. gonna appreciate being 29 til April hits lmao
   i was watching something the other day and the person mentioned she’s 28 while doing something spectacular. got me thinking – i didnt feel like i was 28 when i was. i was so focused on stuff i wasn’t achieving – heck even right now i’m focusing on the things i didn’t achieve by 30.
   but honestly if i were to ask 25 y/o me if i’m happy with where i am rn, honestly she wouldn’t even dream of being where i am today. As many things i have not achieved, there are many things i have achieved before hitting 30.

My boyfriend got upset after I wish another guy a happy birthday

It was an actor from my favorite movies birthday yesterday,, so I went on instgram and wished him a happy birthday and told him to have a good one. He responded to me a few hours later and of course I freaked out and got super happy

I started almost crying in my room because, I mean, who wouldn’t? This dude is my all time crush AND favorite actor, it’s only natural for me to respond that way.

I told my boyfriend afterwards, which might not have been the best idea but at the time Im just so happy, and he didn’t take kindly to it.

He said I’m only doing this to upset him, and that I say I love him, but then I “go act like this with other guys”.

It really confused me because of course I love my boyfriend but I wanted to wish him a happy birthday, it was the perfect time to be able to talk to him and it made me so happy that he texted back to me

He wants to break up now and say we should “take some time away from eachother” I really don’t plan to stop talking to the actor, I really am not sure if I should reach out to my bf or not?

Got called a turn off tonight. I (29f) slept with this man (28m) once a while back. Didn’t hear from him again but have him on social media.

He contacted me tonight to say my laughing and giggling in bed was a major turn off and also stated that I am a turn off due to this.

I just feel really upset now. I don’t do this often. I don’t get intimate with men often.

When I was in my early 20s it seemed most “came back for more”. Now it doesn’t happen.. I don’t enter the bedroom with intent to make anyone uncomfortable.

Being told I’m a turn off is a bruise to the ego..

Netizens’ comments

• He probably just got self conscious trying to figure out what was so funny. It’s just a misunderstanding. Can’t please everyone
• Love laughter. Good vibes only. Keep bringing that joy and openness to the bedroom. Don’t let one guy take that from you.
• Can’t tell you if he is telling the truth, but how does it make any sense at all that he came talking to you after a long time without contact, just to tell you something hurtful? It means he was thinking about you, and felt self conscious.
• There’s nothing wrong with laughing or giggling while having fun. He just seems immature and self conscience and just projecting them into you too make himself feel better.
• It sounds like he misinterpreted your giggling, let it fester, living rent free in his noodle until he HAD to lash out and try to make you feel as bad as your giggling made him feel. So many issues are the result of miscommunication.

[32M][58M] Accidentally got into bed with my father in law

Extremely embarrassing! My father in law is staying with us and he has our bedroom while he’s here.

My wife and I were drinking and watching TV tonight and she went to bed earlier in our other room. I’d had a few, and accidentally went into our room where her dad was sleeping.

He had the covers on so I could only see an outline of a body.

I took off my clothes and got into bed. Rolling over, I spooned who I thought was my wife..he then turns around, switches on the bedside light and yells my name loudly.

I panic and leap out of bed, trying to put my boxers on as I trip over them and fall down. Ultimately I ended up crawling out of the room.

I’m now on the couch too embarrassed to go anywhere near the room. Yikes!

I 23M am considering leaving my 23F girlfriend for repeatedly clogging the toilet.

My (23M) girlfriend (23F) has this habit where she uses so much toilet paper every time she goes to the bathroom, regardless of it being a number 1 or number 2. Literally uses a roll or more a day. (Completely understand women use more TP than men. Not what my issue is)

My problem with this, is she uses so much that I end up having to unclog the toilet maybe 5 times a week. When it first happened, it was a bit funny, we joked about it but god damn I’m taking a plunger to that toilet almost every day now.

I’ve spoken to her on numerous occasions and she just says “oh, well I need to make sure it’s clean before I stop wiping”. I suggested she either flushes halfway through wiping, or unclogs it herself. But as we share one toilet, as soon as she leaves and I need to do my business I’m left with no choice but to do it.

Today the toilet is officially broken and I’ve had to call a plumber. I’m fed up with it.

I just don’t know what to do. I’ve told her so many times to not use so much toilet paper but to no avail.

Is this a stupid reason to leave someone, if she can’t change?

My fiancé (28m) told me(24f)I was ugly during an argument and fat.

We had an argument around Halloween and he said “Yeah well.. You’re ugly and fat af. You let yourself go”

We’ve been together for four years already and engaged for 2 years ( I wanted to get married after I got my degree).

He apologized for it and I haven’t slept with him since. I’ve lost weight since then and now I’m back to my original weight when we first started dating ) My heart is broken still and I do love how I look now but I just can’t seem to get over his comment. Like it’s true that words hurt especially when it’s from someone you love..

I don’t love him like I used to and I hate him actually. I still make his lunches, cook for us, do laundry and clean like if nothing happened. I haven’t even kissed him in weeeeks.. I hate his touch and back away whenever he wants to cuddle.

He swears he just said it out of anger back then but tbh I feel like he really meant it. I can’t quit thinking of it and I think I’m going to move back to my parents house soon.. I just feel sad cause I really thought he was the one. I feel like this isn’t such a big deal for others but as a former fat kid it is.

Even when I was slim I had body issues like I always felt like I was the fat. Maybe I’m the one who needs help but I can’t keep living with him anymore.. I know I’m not the prettiest but I think I’m pretty okay when I get dolled up lol

this is our biggest fight in our 4 years. We truly never fight and we’d enjoy each others company -I am sensitive and I’ve always held grudges -i called his aunt a b word before he called me that but never called her fat or ugly -he’s begged on his knees for forgiveness the next day after our fight

Thank you for all the comments. I’ve decided to move out this weekend while he’s working. I’m packing up most of my stuff tonight and I’m going to look into getting help for my own issues too.