‘Royal family’ in the team.

Very suay kena parachute a royal family in the team. He is some brother or cousin of the big boss, seriously don’t know the real relationship but definitely quite related.

Not sure their closeness but he seems to be able to do whatever he wants, made personal attacks and complains all he wants without having to fear anything. You know a bit like those family drama.

We have 4 persons in the team, excluding him. He seems to be quite clueless about what’s going on but seems to enjoy criticising and turning down proposals because they’re “troublesome to implement” or he simply enjoy his “traditional is good” way of doing things.

We have a senior person in our team who was the leader previously and he is the only one with “the level” to talk to him, as he seems to think the “juniors” (our youngest member also have been with the team for 2 years) are inexperienced and “brats”. (Xiao pi hai)

What he failed to see is that these so called xiao pi hai are handling the clients and work better than he does. Not only did he not know how to read the atmosphere, he also seems to does things in his stubborn and very hierachical way. But then he just wants the authority but not the responsibility that comes with it. When we OT, he always MIA or “dog/pet/llama falls sick”. But when it comes to celebrations, he suddenly very free and offers to help book restaurant or catering. Of course all to his taste only. Imagine booking a Chinese restaurant knowing there are Halal colleagues.

So obviously when there are screw ups, he just appear to vent/rant without giving useful directions or solutions. It’s our ex leader doing all the work and sometimes without his approval (because he will MIA or just be there as an annoyance, honestly he not suitable to be working lah). A few times we have to go to our boss (boss son) for approval because we have no other choices.

I think our boss (at least the younger boss) knows about something that is going on but probably nothing is going to change as of now.

He is lucky, his decisions didn’t really caused too much loss to the company as most of our clients are “old customers” and are still willing to give us chances. The newer ones of course walked away without even thinking.

I don’t know how long he is going to be here but it’s definitely inefficient and we doesn’t feel safe working with him, not knowing when the problem will be thrown to us and we becomes responsible for his bad decisions again. Worst is don’t know when we will be fired because of him. It’s not like we can do anything as he is obviously not receptive.

My cheating husband

I’ve been married for 28 years, 2 young adult kids and in 2018 I found out my husband who owns his own company is cheating on me with his secretary.

What started of as weekends in the office to “OT” then from another colleague i heard of their business trips together.

He has always traveled on his own and when I suggest to tag along he makes excuses so it’s clear to me now.

We fought very badly when I dug out more proof of his cheating! I even confronted that mistress of his but she denied everything and even mock me, she’s almost 20 years younger than me and I can’t compete at all as aged.

This mistress of his is even married herself and I even spoke to her husband but she is very good at denying everything so the husband is thinking I’m the “crazy boss’s wife”.

Fast forward to today my husband is still a good family man, he provides for the family but deep down I know they are still together as he still calls out her to her when he’s asleep. He is not as secretive as before but he is my husband I see through him.

I thought all was good and I was willing to live through his mistakes but a church friend recently texted me to say she saw my husband checking in to a hotel in town with a young woman(it’s obviously the same mistress as described ). I broke down secretly for hours but when he’s back home I just went about my day per usual as I can’t afford to lose him.

My kids encouraged me back then to divorce their dad but I couldn’t, he’s part of me I really am at my wits end knowing they are still doing funny things behind my back.

What can I do?

Here are what netizens think:

• Honestly, if you can’t swallow it down, gather enough evidence of his affair and file for a divorce and get all the alimony you can. There’s no such thing as can’t live without someone. You will manage and get through it. Just give yourself enough time to heal. With your kids all grown up, it’s actually a good time.

• 28 years. You’re too comfortable. He’s no longer secretive because you knew and yet didn’t leave him. Of course life will no longer be the same. Either continue to close your eyes and have him continue his affairs. (As long as he still has money, it won’t be just 1 affair, there will be more to come.) Or leave him. Choose 1.

• You should have maintained yourself better so your husband isn’t chasing younger women. Best to do the right thing and divorce him so he can marry his secretary.

• I feel sad reading this post because I think you can have a better life and one with dignity instead of putting up with this kind of pain n disrespect.

disappearing act

does anyone else have friends that completely disappear off the face of the earth when they have a partner?

i have a friend who got a new boyfriend after about 4 months of being single.

When she was single, she spent most of her time with our friend group & her other friends. she’ll also actively text in our groupchat and ask us to go out together. however, ever since she got a boyfriend, i can go not seeing her for weeks or months! she will skip classes sometimes to hang with her bf, and when our friendgroup suggests to meet up, she always says she’s not free. in between lessons, she’ll ditch us to go find her boyfriend too. nowadays, i need to wait 2 working days for her to text me back and it’s always short answers before she goes offline again.

our friend group used to go to dinner almost everyday after class but now that she has a boyfriend, she ditches us everytime for him.

i understand that she wants to spend time with her boyfriend, but isn’t it unreasonable of her to brush us off everytime we ask her to hang out? yes, your bf is important, but your friends are important too. will she start hanging with us only after she breaks up?

can someone tell me if you have this friend/experience too?

Here are what netizens think:

• You seem to be very needy. Just be happy for your friend and stop letting your jealousy consume you.

• Normal…. Wait until your friends get married and have kids. They are likely to disappear for good.

• Young time not enough love from father loh, u see those girls who cling to their husband, u will notice they come from family with inactive fathers

• btw u must be from secondary school or poly, and to be honest life will go on with or without friends, u should find a bf too…

• That’s very normal and it happens to everyone. You don’t sound matured enough to understand and back off. Either accept her situation and be supportive or find new friends. Life is simple. Don’t need to kaopeh.

Sent my 24 hours notice after company lowballed me.

Few months ago my company asked me to take corporate photos for their database, and to be used on their website and company profile. They asked me cause they know I’m a photographer outside of office hours.

I clearly told them to discuss the price with me and all they said was “We’re pretty rushing to get this done. We’ll discuss the price later”. So fine, I complied.

I brought my own equipment (DSLR, lenses, tripod, etc) and took their corporate photos. From corporate portraiture, to outdoor site photos. I had to edit all of the photos via Lightroom and Photoshop. They say to use my own creativity and so I did. So I had to research on the kind of edits and preset suitable for the company.

I had about 18 sessions. So the editing took me longer to get it right and they pushed me to rush it but make it nice. I spent nearly 3 weeks editing about 600+ photos , one by one.

Months passed and none of them came forward to discuss the price with me. And so today, I put on my invoice. Per session I charged about 100 SGD x 18 sessions = 1800 SGD. That’s considerably very very cheap for corporate shots for each sessions. I normally put higher for corporate shots. Also, I told them I’m up for negotiation.

And you know what they gave me after a week receiving that invoice? A token of 30 SGD, with a note that says “Thank you for your hardwork”.

I’ve worked in this company for 3 years. Never taken MC, almost always OT, gave up on my time to finish up the work they all left to me, even worked during my vacation. I’ve been so patient with the company’s unfair treatment and rulings. Probably cause it didn’t affect me too much. But..this is the line. 30 SGD for all the photos I’ve taken.

It’s my equipments.

It’s my skills.

It’s my time.

And all that cost 30 SGD for all 18 sessions. None of them came forward for negotiation and they decided all of those work I did is just worth 30 SGD. I got paid 150 SGD for a whole day simple wedding and this company didn’t bothered to pay me 100 SGD for 1 session.

I didn’t take the 30 SGD. I told them that I rather my work got stolen, at least it shows that my work is that valuable that it was stolen. I’m not gonna take such insult of 30 SGD. That’s just a spit to my face.

Put my 24 hours immediately. Left the building immediately. I deleted all the photos from the company’s server.

Now, I’m free from the toxic company. They tried to talk to me into staying cause I’m one of their best employees. I refused. I will never trust the “do first talk later” again. I learnt my lesson.

As a Singaporean, I have always been proud of nasi lemak — the fragrant rice dish served with a variety of sides.

It’s a staple of our cuisine and a beloved national dish. But lately, I’ve been thinking that maybe it should be renamed to sound more atas so that tourists will be more likely to try it.

Nasi lemak is an incredibly simple dish. It’s rice boiled in coconut milk, and it’s usually served with anchovies, peanuts, hard-boiled egg, cucumber and a special chili sauce.

It’s simple, yet incredibly flavorful. It’s also a very affordable dish.

But despite being so popular, nasi lemak isn’t very well known outside of Singapore or even Malaysia.

It’s something that tourists rarely try. I think that’s a shame, because I think they’re missing out on a delicious dish.

Recently, I’ve been thinking that maybe nasi lemak should be renamed to sound more high class and sophisticated.

I think that if it had a more upscale name, it would attract more tourists and make them more likely to try it.

I think it would also be a good idea to add some more descriptive words to the name to make it sound even more interesting.

I think a name like “Fragrant Coconut Rice Delight” would be a great way to draw attention to the dish and make it sound more enticing.

It would also give tourists a better idea of what they’re getting – that it’s a fragrant dish made with coconut milk and served with a variety of sides.

I also think that it would be a good idea to offer a variety of flavors, so that tourists can try different versions of the dish.

For example, some restaurants offer nasi lemak with different types of sauces or with different toppings. This would make it more interesting and give tourists more options.

I think that by renaming nasi lemak to sound more high class and making the presentation more attractive, it would be more likely to attract tourists and make them more likely to try it.

It would also be a great way to show off our national dish and share its delicious flavor with the world.

I still remember the day when I served my last day in the army, it was finally ORD after two long years!

I felt a mixture of emotions as I am excited to be starting the next chapter of my life, but I am also sad to be leaving behind my fellow soldiers who have become like family to me over the two years.

I had packed most of my stuff home a week prior and so I decided to leave camp in my army uniform as I was lazy to carry my boots.

I had also wanted to get a haircut as my sides were getting a bit too long for my comfort and so I went for a haircut, in my army uniform.

I had kept considerably short sides during the previous two years, and was used to it and so I decided to just opt for the same cut.

Little did I know, she had other plans in mind.

Without asking me, started to cut my hair vigorously, a little too much and too short. I caught by surprise, but thought that she knew what to do.

After she was done, I took a look in the mirror and I couldn’t believe my eyes. I was botak and it was not what I was expecting at all.

I confronted her about it and she apologised, saying that she thought that I had just enlisted and was still a recruit which was why she cut my hair botak.

But what is done had already been done and there was nothing I could do to save back my hair.

My friends all laughed at me when they heard the story, and I was the only botak one in my group of male friends during Uni orientation.