Me 29(f) partner 30(m) have been together on and off for about 11 years.
We moved away two years ago from both our families which cause us a lot of pain and healing.
My partner has been working in the trades of woodworking mostly and in the past year, he left one company to go to another company.
In June he switched over this newer company seemed to make him much more happier in a sense. He would come home and be so eager to tell me how his day went and I loved hearing every single story he told me. After seeing how much his previous employer treated him. After work talk became my most cherished time of the day.
Note fast forward to a week ago. He was home and got a text from his boss saying he was being let go cause he wasn’t really fitting in the role. Which is weird…. To me at least cause of all those stores he has told me about him and his boss getting a long great and they all have been so welcoming and showing him the ropes… so I’m not sure what he was feeding me for months. Got his boss to just let him go like that.. just seems very off and out of place.
Anyways, I’m trying to be their for him but I have this overwhelming feeling that this odd going to go sour.. we talked for a couple of hours on the couch and decided together that he should take some time to gather what he wants to do in life.
I’m maybe I’m just afraid with inflation going up I won’t be able to do it on my own.
The parents of Zayn Bin Nabeel Abdat, a baby suffering from Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA) Type 1, previously started a crowdfunding campaign to raise money for their infant’s $3 million treatment for the disease.
The fundraiser managed to raise $1.5 million from their family, friends and the public, before an anonymous donor donated the remaining shortfall of $1.5 million for them to hit their $3 million target.
Former Member of Parliament Amrin Amin shed light on the donor’s generous donation.
Amrin Amin’s update
This is an update on Baby Zayn.
Baby Zayn was given Zolgensma, a gene therapy medication used to treat spinal muscular atrophy, on Tues (29 Nov).
I was in touch with Zayn’s dad, Nabeel, today. Baby Zayn is responding well. Let’s pray for his recovery.
Recently in Sep, I shared about Baby Zayn. Zayn has a rare neuromuscular disease (SMA Type 1). Treatment cost $3 million. If untreated, the muscles weaken, movement and breathing will soon stop.
Nabeel’s updates fill me with hope and inspiration. Nabeel and family raised about $1.5 million with your help and friends.
The shortfall – Nabeel shared an anonymous donor topped up about $1.5 million so Baby Zayn can get treated. This is very touching. Such kindness reminds us there’s still so much compassion and positivity in our community, even during this difficult time.
Nabeel asked me to convey his heartfelt thanks to all of you for walking this journey with his family.
Baby Zayn’s fundraiser
At 5 weeks old, Zayn was diagnosed with Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA) Type 1 – a genetic neuromuscular disease that causes muscles to become weak. People with SMA lose a specific type of nerve cell in the spinal cord called motor neurons that control muscle movement. Without these motor neurons, the muscles will not be able to receive nerve signals that make muscles move.
SMA Type 1 – Symptoms appear at birth or within an infant’s first six months of life. Infants with SMA Type 1 have difficulty swallowing and sucking. They don’t meet typical milestones like holding up their heads or sitting. As muscles continue to weaken, children become more prone to respiratory infections and collapsed lungs. Most children with SMA Type 1 die before their second birthday, if left untreated.
We have been informed by doctors that the available treatment for Zayn is Zolgensma, a single dosage which would cost close to SGD 3 million and is a prescription gene therapy used to treat children less than 2 years old with Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA) and Risdiplam, a daily dosage drugs which cost SGD 15,167.50 per bottle (which lasts 64 days).
Given Zayn’s current condition, we are faced with the difficult decision by having to proceed with a temporary treatment of Risdiplam while working towards raising sufficient funds for Zolgensma treatment. While the amount of SGD 3 million is monumental to us, we are hopeful in working towards it as it gives our son the best chance of survival and a better quality of life growing up.
Follow us on instagram (@walkwithzayn) and Facebook (@Walk With Zayn) to stay updated on our journey. We would appreciate if you could share this fundraising link with your family and friends who might like to help us.
Should any of you may have any links to community groups, potential individual/ corporate sponsors or others who might be able to help, kindly reach out to us via email at [email protected]
Thank you for your prayers, help and support.
Fighting on.
Zayn, Syahirah & Nabeel
Update
Dear Donors,
We have good news to share. Baby Zayn’s campaign has received several large anonymous donations to reach the target goal of $3,015,167.50. Therefore Ray of Hope is closing the campaign before the target closing date at end November 2022.
The hospital is in the process of getting Zolgensma to Singapore for Baby Zayn. We will update donors again on when Baby Zayn will receive the treatment.
Here’s a thank you note from Baby Zayn’s parents Nabeel and Syahirah.
“We would like to humbly thank the community that has come together from different walks of life to help Baby Zayn in his journey. We are very touched by the spontaneity of how the community responds to Baby Zayn’s story.
A million thank you will never be enough for your kindness and generosity. The journey to recovery will be long, but you have given us hope that Baby Zayn can grow up and lead a healthy life knowing that the community has come together to support him. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.”
Why does my boyfriend going out make me feel so horrible?
I completely and utterly hate this feeling. When your stomach just drops and everything feels completely still. I don’t even know why i feel like this?
Whenever my boyfriend says he’s got a party on or he’s out at one i just get that horrible gut wrenching feeling?
He has never given me any reason to not trust him which is what i’m confused about? Why cant i just be happy for him?
I don’t know if i’m insecure or if i’ve been hurt in the past or if i’m just a jealous and controlling freak but i can’t stand this feeling.
I try telling myself that ive got absolutely nothing to worry about but no matter what i tell myself i cant shake this feeling.
I love my boyfriend to utter bits and i don’t know if this is something i should breakup with him over so i can work on this and not drag him into this miserable hole with
I (22F) have been dating my current boyfriend (22M) for about 4 months now. We’ve been friends for almost 8 months. Initially, I didn’t want anything serious because i had just gotten out of a relationship but eventually I decided to just follow my heart and be with him.
In the beginning, it was really fun, we’d just make out all the time and then we decided to hang out at one of his friend’s places around 1 week into the relationship. We made out and stuff and then he asked me for a BJ. I thought it was way too soon so i refused and i wasn’t in the mood either. He kept asking me again and again and again. After some time, i got a little mad at him and then he apologized.
After that everything was smooth for a while, we both fell in love. We’d have fights but we’d resolve it in day or two.
Things got a bit weird after the last time we stayed at a hotel. We stayed, we madeout, we did oral the first day.
I think he came thrice in my mouth. I cannot have S because it is too painful for me, I have an imperforate hymen so S has always been out of the picture and he knew this.
The next day, when we were planning to leave, he asked me for a BJ then got mad when I said I wasn’t in the mood. He got so mad he wouldn’t even talk to me. We sat down and talked about it, he said that we can only do oral here so I should blow him, we had a huge fight over this because I thought that demanding for head and saying this, as if the only reason we stayed at a hotel was because he wanted head. We resolved it within a day.
I was once talking to him excitedly about the things i had planned for an event, i was so excited, and he just said “can you stop talking about it and shut the hell up?” in a very rude tone. I have a very emotionally abusive dad and him saying that just made me remember all those years of my childhood I kept crying because I didn’t know why my parents didn’t love me. I told him this and his first response was “Well you wouldn’t shut up”.
This happened again a month later.
A month later, we were sitting in a park and we made out and he fingered me. I then started to give him a hand job. It was dark and secluded so nothing was visible. He then asked me to blow him. I refused because it is way too riskier than fingering.
He kept asking me again and again and again. I kept saying now. There was a point at which he held my wrist and was trying to drag me to give him head. I got mad and then he got mad and called me selfish and what not. He said that i only think about myself, etc etc.
I just kept quiet the entire time because I couldn’t believe the irony of it. He then got really mad and threw whatever was in his pockets which was a lip balm. TBH, I was scared for my life so I told him i was not in the right mindset to talk and asked him to let me go. He refused. I apologized to him, started crying then I just ran away.
The next day I told him everything, and his first response was “When i dropped the lip balm, you didn’t even pick it up for me” I was shocked, because if someone told me they were scared of me, I honestly wouldn’t be able to even look at myself and his lack of empathy just surprised me.
AM i in a toxic relationship?
I don’t know how to end this because we have the same group of friends, we live close, we study in the same class, I can’t just end it. I know we’ll keep going back to each other.
My standards are so low that i will admire anyone who treats me with basic kindness, and that’s dangerous
I’ve been thinking about it recently. For context, I have always been self conscious. I’ve always assumed that people dislike me, even if they’re my friend.
I’ve always had a mindset that is so toxic and negative towards myself. So, when someone is even slightly nice to me, it seems like a big thing.
It doesn’t help either that I’ve never been popular, usually left out and not spoken to. When people as much as bother to speak to me at school, and seem nice, I immediately want to be their friend, or worse; I develop a crush on them.
This has happened multiple times, and usually the crush only lasts for a bit, but in doing this I’m starting to realize how vulnerable that makes me.
I could be emotionally manipulated SO EASILY.
My friend actually pointed this out recently, saying that I could even be groomed easily. And I hate to say it… but she had a point.
After living in a world that I think is against me, I will take any and all kindness I can get; I will treasure it, but not in a healthy way.
More in a way like I’ve been deprived of it. And I really haven’t. I think that I’ve been living inside my head so much that my whole world view has been twisted. Honestly, I just wish I knew why.
Am I wrong for refusing to invite my dad’s sugar baby to my wedding??
I’m 23F.
My parents split up when I was 4 because my mom was having an affair with my dad’s brother.
After that went down, my dad went back to uni and got another degree, and is now working a very good job that he got through a friend and is very wealthy.
My relationship with my parents was very strained as my mom didn’t let me see my dad until I was a teenager because she wanted to avoid talking to him.
In recent months, my dad has started having a “girlfriend” who we’ll call Sarah, 24F. Sarah is obviously a sugar baby. She doesn’t have a job and my dad pays for everything, and Sarah is always bragging about the expensive stuff that my dad buys her. All of her friends live a similar lifestyle (I have them as friends on social media). The fact that my dad is “dating” a woman who’s a year older than me makes me cringe to the core.
I’m getting married to my partner 24M next June and I’ve decided that I don’t want Sarah at my wedding. She’s not his girlfriend or partner, she’s his sugar baby.
My dad obviously didn’t take it well and said that Sarah is just as part of the family as my mom’s new husband, and said that I don’t get to decide which relationships are acceptable and which aren’t. He said I’m being self-righteous and continued to deny that Sarah is a sugar baby, and accused me of trying to manipulate him. He said I have my mom to thank for the fact that they aren’t together anymore.
My future MIL and FIL even got involved and said that if Sarah comes to the wedding they won’t be going as they think my dad’s relationship is disgusting.
Facebook user Ng Shei Kee, shared that she went to New Zealand for a holiday and booked a hotel reservation via Booking.com.
However, upon reaching the hotel, she found out that there was no booking made in her name and ended up trying to find a hotel at the last minute, fearing that she might end up sleeping in the streets.
The hotel was kind enough to provide them with one night of accommodation while they sorted out their accommodation issues.
She added that she eventually managed to find accommodation for the next two days, and alleged that Booking.com had agreed to compensate her for her additional hotel costs.
However, Booking.com allegedly refused to pay her mobile’s international roaming charges of $588 that she racked up while calling for help.
Here is what she said
Booking.com has really gone to the next level in their horrendous service rendered. We had made a booking for our trip that commended on 30th August 2022 and was due to last for 11 nights. Prior to our check-in date, we have been constantly receiving email reminders from Booking.com on a weekly basis that our trip is near, even up to 1 day before our check in date.
Upon arriving at the hotel, we were then presented with the news that there was no booking in our name that had been made from Booking.com as the hotel had no longer worked with them. Booking.com did not even provide us with that information.
We were dumbfounded by this and had to actually clarify with the assistant once again, along with trying to figure out how on earth we were able to find a hotel at the 13th hour within our allocated budget.
Fortunately, the staff at the hotel was nice enough to provide 1 night of accommodation for us. They left us to our own devices, while they sorted out the issue with booking.com. The hotel then sent an email to us (because it’s near to their knock off time where they are about to end work) explaining that they had contacted Booking.com and also left the contact number for us to call so that they can assist us on our bookings (email correspondence as attached).
This number was located internationally, and we attempted to make contact with them immediately for fear of having to sleep on the streets of New Zealand. Alas, after 2 hours of being placed on hold and pushed around between the different departments, we were then informed that they couldn’t assist us and had instead sought to proceed with a refund.
While they tried to provide us with different hotel options, many of them were hours away from where we needed to be, or the prices were eye-watering and exorbitant. Throughout the call, we were frequently being placed on hold for long periods of time, and when we suggested that they give us a call back when they have updates to save on the cost, they refused.
In the end, they shared that they could not resolve and clear up the mess they caused and stated that we were on our own… We then frantically tried our best to search for an alternative accommodation or else we were really running the risk of sleeping with the stars over our head in the winter climate of Auckland. With a stroke of luck after all the bad fortune, we were able to secure a roof over our head for the next 2-3 nights.
Once we settled down, we then went to lodge a complain with booking.com. They had assisted us (albeit taking 4-5 days of their time) to book another hotel and compensated us on the hotel difference. However, they had refused to compensate us on the international call bill that we had incurred to contact them to seek their assistance for the crap that they had put us in.
If the bill was along the lines of SGD 100-200 bucks or maybe even abit more, we would have just swallowed it and moved on and blamed our misfortune to ever choose Booking.com. However, the bill amassed to a staggering and eye-watering SGD 588 (phone bill as attached)!! When we seeked an explanation from them on this, they lamented that they have already compensated us on the hotel differences and hence they could not process the phone bill which was caused by them messing up the booking at the hotel we booked in the first place.
If booking.com had not dropped the ball on the hotel booking, none of this would have happened, and there was no need to incur any of this added expenses at all.
Imagine spending 10 hours on an airplane, alighting in New Zealand all tired and dazed to have a rude shock that your hotel does not have a room for you because Booking.com had screwed up..
This is one of the worst experiences that a traveller can go through!
And now, Booking.com has made the decision to ignore our email for compensation and to just sweep it under the rug, and literally told us to “Suck it up”.
Maybe SGD 588 does not mean much to this platform, but it is a good chunk of my paycheck for just a phone call.
Does anyone have any thoughts on how I am able to seek recourse on this as Booking.com seem to have left me in the lurch..
Thank you in advance!
Booking.com responds
Booking.com spoke to AsiaOne and said that Ng had contacted a third-party accommodation partner.
They added that they have since reached out to the customer to clarify the situation and apologised for the distress caused to her.
They further added that customers are advised to visit their help centre on the website or through the local numbers on their booking confirmation.
Carousell reportedly laid off about 110 of their employees, cutting off 10% of their total headcount, according to The Straits Times.
Quek Siu Rui, the CEO and co-founder of the company, announced the news to the company on 1 December, apologising for the decision.
The company also added that the workers who are retrenched will be receiving a minimum of 3 months’ salary as compensation, along with other measures.
ST reported that the retrenchment comes amidst the slow growth of the company.
Quek purportedly said that this move will only affect some business units, but stopped short of mentioning the number of workers in Singapore that were retrenched, according to his letter to his employees.
Employees who were retrenched reportedly received the news via an email, where they were invited to a meeting with their team leader and an HR business partner.
On top of the three months’ salary compensation, the retrenched workers will also get cash in lieu for their remaining paid time off, and their medical benefits will also be extended until 30 June next year.
Quek reportedly told his employees, “I am deeply sorry for this outcome, and I take responsibility for the decisions that have led us here.”
He said that he made several critical mistakes, with one of them being too optimistic about the company’s impact on their increase in investments.
He added that they were too quick to grow their expenses and hire, but the returns took longer than expected and that he had underestimated the impact of growing the team size too quickly.
50 year old Caleb Joshua Chai Shanmugam, a renovation firm director who fled Singapore after allegedly killing his business partner, 27-year-old Rachael Ang Qi Ying, was discharged from Changi General Hospital on 30 November, according to The Straits Times.
He will be remanded at the Central Police Division for a week, and he will be taken out during his remand to assist the police with their investigations.
Chai requested to speak to his wife during a brief court mention yesterday (2 December) but was rejected by the judge, who said that it was up to his investigation officer’s discretion.
Recap
50-year-old Caleb Joshua Chai Shanmugam, is being accused of killing 27-year-old Rachael Ang Qi Ying at a ground floor unit at 2 Beach Road, on 9 November at about 7pm.
Ang was reportedly missing for 4 days before being found dead at the shop in Beach Road, where she was pronounced dead at the scene by paramedics.
Shanmugam and Ang were co-directors of a renovation company called Smart Click Services, which is registered to an address at Peninsula Plaza and the two were listed as directors from 1 October 2021, according to The Straits Times.
The police were alerted to a case of unnatural death on 13 November, and identified the 50-year-old in connection to the case after a missing person report was made on 10 November.
Shanmugam had left for Malaysia on 10 November and the Singapore police then sought the help of the Royal Malaysia Police, and he was then arrested in JB and handed over to the Singapore Police.
He is being represented by Suang Wijaya and Sophia Ng from the Eugene Thuraisingam law firm and he was charged at Changi General Hospital with murder.
A woman shared how she was at the Rumbia LRT station when a guy followed behind her up the stairs and peeped up her skirt.
The guy then walked up to her and told her that he saw her panties, as well as the colour of her panties.
Here is what she said
if you stay in sengkang and take the LRT — Beware of this guy!!!!!!!!
I was at Rumbia LRT station this morning and he followed behind me as i was walking up the stairs. I turn and saw that he was trying to look under my dress.
After that he walked up to me to tell me he saw my panties and what colour it was.
He board the same LRT train as me & i saw him whisper something to another lady. i went up to the lady to ask what he said, she told me HE SAID THE SAME THING TO HER.
According to the police and CCTV, He alighted at compassvale LRT and jumped over the gantry. There is no way of tracking him because he doesnt tap in/out
