My friends always complain about their partner using their things or irritating them in many ways.

For me, I see things from a different perspective and I would always encourage my friends to do so as well.

So usually my day starts early in the morning. I would be at work at 6am while my wife only wakes up at 7am to prepare for work. I share an account on Spotify with my wife and I will start listening to it at 6am. Usually at around 7am my music would get cut off as my wife would wake up and tune into our account to prepare for her work while listening to her favourite songs.

Thereafter, she would leave the house and arrive at work at about 8.45am and I would get my music back. I have never told my wife that she is interrupting my music. She doesn’t know that I am listening to our Spotify account at work as well. I enjoy knowing that she has woken up and she has already reached her workplace when I get my music back. It is something simple but something that I look forward to everyday.

It is a bonus that she does not check her Spotify history to know when I am using it. So I use spotify history to look at the songs she had played to gauge her mood and try to cheer her up by getting something on the way back home on days that I think she feels down.

Some people would complain and quarrel with their partners for constantly interrupting their music. But to me I see it as a joy and it is a pattern in my life that I look forward to every day.

So to everyone out there who have such disagreements with your partner, do try to look it another way and take things postiviely, who knows you may enjoy the process when you look at things differently.

Working adults, how much money do you spend on food per day?

I recently started working and set a limit for myself to not spend more than $8/day on food. But then I realised that $8 unable to make me feel full plus since everything has increased nowadays, so stuffs are no longer cheap.

So I then increased my limit to a maximum of $10 per day. I told myself that I work hard and work long hours daily, so I can’t just spend much money on food drinks.

Netizens’ comments

• I tend to overspend on food lol. Usually in the morning omw to work I’ll buy a fruit of some sort or bread and green tea. For lunch I’ll spend $6 and and then i go home and buy dinner which would be about $6 as well but this is sometimes when I’m hungry otherwise I just don’t eat dinner lol. So total about $9 if I dont buy dinner and about $15 if I do. But it’s not fixed because I also tend to buy random chocolate and sweets a lot when I go out buying lunch lmfao. So could be more.
• About $3 for breakfast (usually beehoon or nasi lemak), $5-$7 lunch(including drink), dinner will be cooked at home.
  I would rather you not save on food. Penny wise, pound foolish if you skimp on food and got yourself all sorts of problems especially gastric issues.
• I spend less working from home.. 200 dollars extra when I’m required to work in office due to a few dollars difference in the office area. Well.. The cost does accumulate.. I m pondering to make a sandwich but then will miss out on the team bonding and opportunities to make small talks..
• About $10-$15 per day. I’m doing one meal a day (intermittent fasting). Lost weight, save money. Best of both world.

To many people, I would suppose owning a car is a dream that they always wanted to have.

I have the chance now that many would have wished for but to me it is not a dream but rather a nightmare. I am lucky enough to come from a well to do family and my parents wanted to buy me a car for my birthday this year.

The issue is that I cant seem to pass my driving tests at all. I have taken over 30 lessons so far and had taken and failed 3 tests. 2 of the tests I had an immediate failure while I chalked up above 40 points for the last test. I had spent about $6000 so far on driving which I feel is such a waste of money. My dad has been encouraging me to continue and that I will pass one day.

Yeah sure I may pass one day out of luck after 10 or 20 tries maybe? I feel so stressful whenever I am sitting behind the drivers seat now. To me, I would rather not have any car and just take public transport everyday to and fro work where its so much more relaxing.

I am not even confident of driving on the road or changing lanes even if I pass. I feel its so hard to change lanes when there are so many vehicles around. I almost got into accidents few times even when there is the instructor around me and I can feel that the instructor is also very stressed when hes teaching me. I am probably the worst student he ever had. Singapore traffic is so bad with so many vehicles, what for add to the stress with driving when I can sit on the MRT or bus and just watch my netflix shows.

I am thinking of giving up driving entirely but I am not sure how do I break it to my parents. I am sure they will be disappointed with me as they really had hoped for me to be able to drive them around. At the same time I also feel bad that I had spent about $6000 of their money yet not achieving anything in the end.

I can’t tolerate my friend who cancels plans last minute any longer

My boyfriend came over last minute. My parents ate having guests over. Shiiii I forgot I was working can we meet up 2 hours later?. Actually I’m hella tired can we do this tomorrow. Hey can my work friends come with us I completely forgot I was supposed to hang with them as well.

“It’s okay we can meet up next time❤” is my usual response.

Today was the last straw. this friend said she forgot and actually overlapped plans with other groups of friends after I got ready, cancelled a part time gig, and even got a rental car to go out. This is after two weeks of planning around heavy schedules. I left the friend on read and I just don’t want to be around someone who does thus all the time.

And when she does make it to plans she’s incredibly late and NEVER apologises for being late EVER, my other friends who are also mutuals with the always late friend said it’s normal for this person and that they just ignore it and let them come late to plans etc and I should just ‘go with the flow’ when it comes to this late friend.

Maybe I’m just someone whose overreacting and being dramatic but I just can’t understand how unaware someone can be! Like I literally go to hell and back to make sure I’m there always! If I’m ever running late I let you know before hand. Is it so hard for you to do the same? I feel disrespected like I’m not worth remembering. I’m so tired and over it. Rant over.

Me and my wife have been staying at a rental unit as we are waiting for our HDB to be ready by early next year. We are currently staying with a couple in their 40s as the landlord.

Both of their jobs have flexible working hours.

My wife has recently taken up studies sponsored by her company so she is at home most of the time if shes not having lessons. The husband would occasionally ask my wife if he wants to buy anything or needs him to help get anything whenever he is going out.

We thought that he was just friendly and was grateful that he was looking out for us.

Things started getting weird when he started to invite himself to our room and started chatting with my wife when there were only 2 of them around. He would talk about his relationship issues with his wife and asked my wife if she has any issues with me. Strangely enough, we do not observe that they have any tension towards each other in their daily lives, as such I am not sure if he is finding an excuse to get close to my wife.

He would stay in the room until my wife had to tell him politely to leave. Things got really creepy the past week. Sometimes we would hang our clothes and towels on bamboo and hang them out to dry. Being a bit of an OCD, my wife would always hang her clothes in a specific way. There were times she would also place her worn socks in her shoes at the shoe rack.

She had told me for the past week she suspected the husband had taken her clothes and socks and placed it back thereafter as it is not how she would arrange her things. So god knows what he had done with her clothes and socks.

My wife is so paranoid now that she locks her room whenever I am out and I have been calling her every 2 hours while at work to check if everything is okay. We also kept all our things including our shoes inside our room and have to resort to using hair dryer and fan to dry our clothes.

We had paid for 3 months deposit but we only stayed for 2 months so far. So leaving would mean we would have to forfeit our deposit, but we were being ‘forced’ to leave under such circumstances so we felt that we should be getting our remaining 1 month deposit back. However, to do it, things would definitely get ugly and we would have to tell them our suspicions and what we suspect her husband had been doing. The wife has been very nice to us and we wouldnt really want to end it this way and we dont really want to harm their relationship in the end as after all we do not have any proof of what that has happened.

Anyone has any advice on what to do in this scenario?

Today marks the first anniversary of me moving out of my parents’ place.

Life has not been easy but I’m definitely a lot happier. It’s always been a goal of mine to move into a place of my own before I hit 30.

I didn’t manage to hit that goal but better late than never right? I’m currently renting a shoebox unit near my workplace and although the place is really small, it’s cosy enough for me and I can use that as an excuse not to have friends over hahaha.

If y’all think that I’m some high earner in the bank and tech industry that’s why I can move out then you’re wrong. I am an average worker earning about 4k a month. I spend most of my salary on rent and don’t have much for leisure as I try to squeeze out some savings for rainy days.

But I guess it’s a small tradeoff for better mental health.

Back home, I share a room with my two brothers and apart from the toilet, nowhere else in the house where I can have personal space. Even in the toilet, if I spend more than fifteen minutes inside, people will come knocking on my door and asking me to stop hogging the toilet. I don’t understand why everyone always feels the need to use the toilet when I’m in it and aren’t there two toilets in the house?

I feel very suffocated at home and there were times I stayed outside even though I had nothing on just so I didn’t have to go home.

But now I have a space of my own it really feels different. I can enjoy peace and quiet and I don’t have to accommodate to anyone. My relationship with my family has also improved since we don’t meet one another so often and the time we have tgt now are too precious to fight over.

I would really encourage all of you who are thinking of moving out to just be brave and do it. The first step is always hardest but once you start, everything will fall into place.

What should I do in this situation

Hey everyone, I don’t have any much friends or a marriage couple friends for an advice on this, what would you do if you find out that your neighbour is asking your wife on a text to be his fling, FYI he’s married and has kids.

I’m pretty disappointed that I thought he would be a good neighbour and things just got awkward and I’m mad about it.

My wife on the other hand rejects on what he asked for and it’s good she opened up and tell me about it. What should I do to him and her as a support as a husband?

Update: so basically the situation was him asking for a screwdriver from my home, my wife doesn’t know what kind of tools he needed as he was locked out of the house so she let him in first since she’s holding my 1 years old kid.

When he returned, knowing my wife holds my kid and my gate wasn’t locked, he let himself in the house without our permission.

Afterwards he then let himself comfortable by sitting on our home to start a conversation and start ranting to my wife about his relationship problems… telling her she wants to have revenge on his cheating wife by having a fling with other women.

My wife smells trouble for sure so in order to kick him out of the house since she’s feeling all uncomfortable, she then told a lie that her dads coming over so she passed her number or he asked for her number ( couldn’t recall) hence he then started to ask her question about her being his fling.

Netizens’ comments

• Tell his wife.
• I would say confront him but only if you’re confident enough to be intimidating and tell him off straight, otherwise he might go after your wife instead and blame/hurt her for ratting on him. Also try not to let your wife be alone too much. I see that he’s even forced his way into your house before, he smells like trouble ngl
• Time to put camera in your house for your safety sake and your wife too.

My [26f] vegan friend [27f] has started attacking me for eating meat and I don’t know how to address it

As the title says, my friend turned vegan a few years ago. It was hard for her but I told her I supported her choice and never judge her. Throughout the years she has wavered slightly and occasionally eats fish or cheese but it’s her choice and I’ve never made any comments on it.

Recently she’s been critiquing my food choices more and more. We were out for dinner a few days ago. I ordered chicken and she called me a murderer and asked how I could eat it. It got to the point where she will bring it up without any real trigger.

She farted the other day and said “don’t worry, it doesn’t stink because I don’t have rotting meat in my stomach like you do” which then led to a conversation about how we aren’t genetically made to eat meat and it’s morally and ethically wrong.

Don’t get me wrong, I do not have a problem with vegans and I even believe that yes, perhaps the entire world could do with being vegetarian but I do eat meat and don’t plan to change that any time soon. These conversations are becoming more frequent and I’m worried I’m going to snap and ruin our friendship.

Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this when it next comes up? She is a very close friend so I don’t want to upset her or ruin our relationship.

Thank you!

I (42f) told my 19-year-old daughter who currently lives with her fiancé (36m), that she must either choose us or her soon-to-be husband, unfortunately, who she met when she was newly turned 18 at her father’s (49m) business conference.

He has made it seem like we are the bad guys who don’t want them together but that is not it.

So I’m a 26-year-old girl who works as a healthcare assistant, and I am doing part-time uni, so I work part-time and go to school part-time.

I don’t talk to my neighbours because the ones up front sit out front for hours and invite their family over, and they gossip about me right in front of me when Covid was happening to go, like, where is she going? What was she doing when I was going to get my nursing license?