I fell in love with someone who is 40 yo, still lives at home. I have recently found out alot about him that gives me doubts. He takes money from his parents.
Every 3-4 months one of his parents’ FD accounts matures and they ‘give’ him the interest. It’s over $8k each time, all of their savings.
He works part time, 30 hours a week cos he wants more time for hobbies. He takes home around $2k per month. He doesn’t give his parents any money.
His almost 70yo mum buys everything for him including vitamins, daily food and snacks, all his meals, soap, shampoo, etc. He doesn’t do any chores. His parents even gave him the master bedroom cos he is now ‘grown up’.
Parents are middle class, his mum still works but wakes up early every morning to make or heat up a huge breakfast for him and usually buys his dinner. He will skip lunch so he has more disposable income for hobbies.
Personality wise he’s fun, easy to talk to and we have a similar sense of humour and hobbies. I’ve felt so comfortable with him compared to any other guys I dated. I enjoy his company alot. But long term?? I don’t know.
He is not generous with me. Forgets to pay me back for meals, etc. He doesn’t have any plans to move out of his parents flat anytime soon cos he said it’s quite comfortable. How can there be a future with this guy?
Netizens found out that YouTrip could be used to reveal the full legal name of a person who uses Youtrip with a phone number.
He reported his findings online and netizens are appalled by the lack of security features..
Here is what he wrote:
I happened to use YouTrip’s send money function and was appalled to find out that the “send money to unsaved number” function easily revealed the full legal name of any individual whose phone number was registered with YouTrip. I feel that this is possibly in violation of the Personal Data Protection Act (PDPA) and can and probably would be easily abused by unethical parties.
Unlike other p2p money transaction services that allows a username to be linked to one’s registered phone number, youtrip straight up shows your full legal name.
YSK if you have an account with YouTrip your full legal name and phone number are probably on some scammer’s excel sheet ready for the next fake job, fake parcel, fake china official scam.
TLDR: Youtrip app can be exploited to show your phone number and associated full legal name. A goldmine for scammers.
Here are what netizens think:
That is if you sent your username! Whereas on youtrip I can enter random numbers and get their associated full legal names. Pretty alarming for privacy standards in Singapore eh.
For PayNow, by default they use your full name as nickname when you first signed up, but you can change the nickname to whatever name you want.
No, when you send someone money via Paynow or ibanking transfer, the recipient will see your FULL legal name in their bank statement, regardless of what nickname you set. The nickname is only for a payee to set, and for the payer to see.
Deeper into adulthood and learning that friendships dwindle overtime.. so grateful for those that’s still stay. There’s this group of friends that I have still continues to gift birthday presents to each other yearly; someone will suggest something and everyone else just fork out the amount. which is a good idea to remain updated with one another and I feel there’s something to look forward to. But here’s what on my mind:
(Is this being calculative or I need to find better friends?)
The gift we got one another is usually small and that’s alright. each time we prepare a gift for the person, I always make it a point to match the amount we each spent on the prior person. While I didn’t state this out obviously but will push the choice towards the one that best matches, a few dollars off is alright. I just didn’t think that one should feel shortchanged. However I can’t help but notice that for the past few years, the items I receive could be almost less than half the amount we spent total on the prior persons…
Disclaimer- I wasn’t the one to initiate this whole gift exchange. Though this is one of my top love language.
It’s small gifts so it’s not that im calculative about the amount but I am dumbfounded how no one else could’ve thought to get something around the same range? Like check the chat history. Isn’t that how budgets for Christmas exchange exist too?
Tbh I didn’t mean to search up the amounts until once my mum commented why I received a certain present when she knew previously how much (value) of the item I sent the birthday girl before.
Im someone who would surely fill up 90-101% of the budget given in my gift for someone even if it’s not someone close..
Do you guys who still do gift exchanges try to keep to the same budget for each person? Or you just get whatever?
Sometimes I can’t help but feel under appreciated in the group. I wonder if I should also try to halt this gift exchange thing… or try to broach the topic, what do you guys think?
I used to be a high flyer during my studying years.
But I don’t think I am living a successful life right now.
My ex-bf cheated on me, and my current one has wandering eyes. I got bullied at work and had a panic attack and subsequent anxiety attacks.
I don’t know where I got wrong. Maybe, my personality or my social skills are not on par. Or I am making bad life decisions or just have really bad luck. I now have a stable career in a new company, but my self-esteem gets very low due to recent events.
Any advice for me to have a happier life again?
Here are what netizens think:
Think of this way. Life is a journey. These lessons will make you a better person and help you to make better choices in the future. Hopefully you learnt something from each setback instead of repeating it again and again. Do realise that being good at studies is not everything. Having someone is not everything too. I hope you won’t settle with a guy when he has traits that you cannot accept. Everytime you think about something bad and wish you could change, list down 5 things that you are grateful for.
There are no fixed “Attributes” to define successful. Although in the current context, having good relationships with parents, married happily, have a good career making decent money, accompany by group of good friends, colleagues, etc seems to be the barometer.
Rid yourself of anything that is toxic and does you more harm than good. You are your own hero. Jia you
A large age gap is something many consider a deal breaker when it comes to relationships.
But not for this couple in Thailand.
19-year-old Wuthichai Chantaraj recently engaged to his fiance 56-year-old Janla Namuangrak. Thai media reported that Chantaraj met Namuangrak when he was just 10 years old.
The couple met in Sakhon Nakhon, the older woman initially told the 10-year-old boy to come over to her home to help out with chores and they ended up falling in love.
The woman stated that they have been in a relationship for 2 years. Meaning since he was 17 years old, while some netizens said that love has no limits others frown upon the relationship and call it “grooming” and “crazy”.
The teen said:
“I have been with Janla for two years now. It’s the first time in my life I felt like I wanted to make sure someone was living comfortably. ‘I saw her shabby house and found myself thinking of ways to help her live in a better condition. She is a hardworking woman and also honest. I admire her.“
Around two years ago, the couple started having affairs but kept it a secret.
She claimed that Wuthichai restores her sense of youth, and the two of them are currently preparing to wed.
“Wuthichai has been like a superhero to me,” she remarked. He always assisted me. Then, as he grew older, we developed romantic feelings for one another. Since I’ve known him since he was a child, I was taken aback.
My gf and I have been dating for a year and we want to move in together.
We want a 2 bedroom 1 bath apartment near my work. I’m a 2nd year pathology resident and my residency is 5 years long. She works from home and wants an office.
She also makes 120k and I only make 68k. So our rent is $2800/month + utilities and she wants to go half on both rent and utilities so we would both pay roughly $1400 a month.
Because she is using one of the rooms as her office I feel like she should pay more so I should pay $1000 and she should pay $1800. She thinks even if she is using an extra room because living near the hospital is very expensive I should pay half because we could get a cheaper place if I don’t live near work.
She thinks is because we are paying more to live near my work so I don’t have to pay for petrol I should pay half of the rent. I find she’s being selfish because she makes much more than mean, and once I complete my residency I can easily make $350k a year or more.
But according to her, it’s not fair for her to wait 3 years to “potentially get paid back” because we could break up and she would have “subsidized” me. To me, if she isn’t willing to pay a bit more to put some skin in the game she’s being a gold digger and waiting for me to make bank without giving anything in the first place.
We argued about this a few times and I just want to know if I’m crazy in my thinking or she’s being selfish.
Here are what netizens think:
You’re not married. You should be splitting rent 50/50. Also, in this situation, you’re the gold digger.
growing up i 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 i knew a couple where this wasn’t the case. doctor, nurse wife, cute kids my age. turns out she was the “upgrade” he met during residency. during the divorce he fought to keep the kids & won. daughter told me as an adult she “has no clue” what happened to her mom. devastating!
I have looks money and power and I married for looks, money and power!
Somehow the thought of him cheating never did cross my mind once. And somehow I never did once feel like going outside of my marriage (even though it is very easy for me to do so with what I have).
It’s not for me to say my husband is objectively handsome, but he is subjectively pleasant to look at. I am very attracted to him. He is losing hair and growing a belly from aging but when I look at him my heart still swells. If anything the signs of aging is an urgent reminder I must cherish him more as we have less and less days together. I love it when he laughs. It really warms my heart and I enjoy making him laugh. I guess his happiness is important to me. When he is happy somehow I cannot help but feel happy too.
It’s not for me to say if he is objectively rich. But I can for a fact see he spends within his means. He sets aside some savings for the rainy days. He makes career plans. He manages his finances well. He is practical. Someone dependable I can work with to build a future together and overcome hardships and challenges with in life. And us having a roof over the head, stable jobs with good prospects and secured future for kids is very attractice. Well at least it gives me the headspace and bandwidth to relax and feel attractive.
He is strong. Don’t get me wrong, he does not have the body of a gym rat but he exercises. Eats well. Keeps his mind sharp, importantly. His real strength though is his ability to lift people around him up. He brings out the best in people. Identifies potentials and synergises them to make magic happen.
I guess it’s how genuinely happy I am in my own marriage. I can feel his love and devotion everyday (like how he never fails to kiss me good morning before going to work for 7 years and says I love you before bed every night). How attentive he is to my every need.
Fortunately and unfortunately for him, I am super competitive. So I make it a personal mission to be better than him in everything we do, including loving him. And because I give my 10000% it’s hard for me to imagine how anyone can do better.
One of the things I remember most was how we were both holding the door for each other waiting on the other. And that dynamic continued on. How we always have each other in our contemplation.
The devotion and selfless love are what allowed us to have deep conversations and a healthy life in bed. During our relationship and the first 3 years of our marriage, we got intimate daily and sometimes twice a day I had to Google if that’s normal. Now that we are both older and with kids, we get intimate once every few days (which I think is more normal haha).
I must say, there are many affair-themed confessions and reading them did rattle me a little and made me begin to wonder if my perfect marriage is maybe not so perfect.
Having thought about it, I write this to spread some positivity and maybe share how important it is to have “love” in a marriage. When there isn’t love, a lot if petty things can take center stage very easily especially with kids. And without love, people are motivated by selfish and not selfless reasons in most situations leading to the total breakdown of a relationship. Love, even if not present at first is something that can be cultivated. It starts with a selfless act that is then reciprocated by a selfless act by the other. Just as a relationship or a marriage can be driven to the ground, it can be built up.
47-year-old Aloi Gregory Marshall, was sentenced to 12 weeks imprisonment on 19 October after pleading guilty to obtaining explicit services of a minor.
He had paid an underaged girl that he met on Sugarbook $1,000 to engage in intercourse with her despite being told that she wasn’t 18-years-old yet.
The identity of the victim cannot be revealed due to a court order.
What happened?
In early 2021, Marshall was browsing the Sugarbook website (a website that matchmakes women with men who are willing to pay for their time) to look for companionship.
He then saw the victim’s profile on the website, claiming to be 18-years-old, and they then chatted on Sugarbook before moving their conversation onto Telegram.
Aloi asked the girl if she was 18 and she replied that she was turning 18 in December.
He then offered her $1,000 for a 2 hour session where they would have intercourse twice, and the girl agreed, and they then met in April 2021 at his home where they had intercourse.
He then left $1,000 by her bag for her services and she took the money before leaving his home.
Later that month, Aloi then reached out to her again on Telegram asking her if she wanted to meet up again, and they then tried to arrange but couldn’t find an available date.
He then contacted her twice in May asking if she was free to meet up but didn’t get a response from her.
Aloi is set to begin his jail term on 16 November after his request to defer his jail term to settle personal matters was approved.
Facebook user Hrmn Wong shared how he booked a 3 days 2 nights staycation at the Marina Bay Sands Hotel for his girlfriend but they broke up and he is now looking to sell the staycation for a much lower price.
He said that he decorated the room with roses, champagne, chocolates, balloons and “I love you” signs only for their relationship to end.
He said that he was devastated and that his dreams are broken, and that he has no one to go on the staycation with except for “myself and myself and only myself.”
He is offering to sell his staycation for only $750, and a quick search online shows that the room costs at least $699 per night, meaning the staycation is worth at least $1.4k.
Here is what he said
Hi guys , it’s me again ….as you guys know I’ve been away from Singapore for almost 1 year and before I came back to Singapore ,
I had a wonderful and romantic plan in mind for my then GF (now no more already become ex gf Liao ) to be able to have a romantic and passionate staycation like all other couple’s have…decorating the bed and room with roses , champagne, chocolate , balloons bought from Bugis party shop, I love you sign .
But it all came to a naught and we broken up ….. very devastating , my dreams are broken again ….. I have no one to go on this staycation with except for myself and myself and only myself .
You couldn’t expect me to decorate some balloons and instead of having the “I love you “ change to “ love yourself before you love others “ correct anot .
Very (sad) but on a positive note , im thinking I should just let go this room to a happy and loving couple … I know it’s abit too fast to suddenly tell your gf bf husband wife suddenly you have staycation but take this chance to surprise them and if you still have no idea ,
I’ve already upload some decoration ideas for you and just nice Halloween is around the corner just ask your gf or wife not to have any makeup on and she will totally suit the theme for Halloween and at the same time surprise her this room and surprise herself when she look at the mirror .
it’s a 3 days 2 nights stay at MBS HOTEL PREMIER ROOM and you might be able to do a free upgrade too ( no promise but will try my best ok ) dated 18,19,20 October .
And for those of you guys no gf no bf no husband no wife . No worries …. You can dabao your 小三，fling , Fwb, KTV girls aka your lao po lao gong , Siamdui girls aka your teerak aka the girl you hang 5000sgd one night, club girls, bar host , boys club host to let them enjoy this wonderful hotel with you .
I will keep it a secret don’t worry . So how much will it cost ? 3 days 2 nights just a fee of $750…. Y’all go see the price for each day lor I posted on the last photo .
So I never disappoint you all one ok … don’t come tell me I just want 1 day can anot ? , can change date anot .. no cannot !!!!
Day fix at 18,19,20 October ok . $750 only la . Y’all cannot find this price one la . Y’all want faster pm me la ok . Decoration ideas , whatever idea I already post for you all Liao la .
You want then Pm me . Don’t GONG WU GONG BO ASK ASK ASK FOR FUN LA PLS TOLONG LA.
UPDATED : ROOM SOLD TO A WONDERFUL FAMILY FROM THAILAND ENJOY YOUR STAY
19-year-old Sylesnar Seah Jie Kai, who is being accused of murdering his father in Yishun, appeared in a district court yesterday (19 October) via video link.
He has been remanded for a further 3 weeks for psychiatric assessment, and his case has been adjourned to 9 November.
Recap
47-year-old Eddie Seah Wee Teck was previously reported to have been allegedly killed by his 19-year-old son Sylesnar Seah Jie Kai on 10 October at Block 653 Yishun Avenue 4.
The 19-year-old was arrested by the police, and was charged in court on 12 October with his murder, and has been remanded ever since.
According to Shin Min Daily News, the victim had an argument with his son and walked out of the house, and the accused then allegedly grabbed a knife from the kitchen and chased after his father.
He then allegedly used the knife to slash his father in the neck from behind, before slashing home again across the back.
The victim then escaped through the staircase and called for help from his neighbours, according to Lianhe Zaobao.
The victim eventually collapsed in front of a neighbour’s unit one floor below, and the Straits Times reported that the neighbour heard frantic knocking at her door before calling the police when she saw the victim sprawled on the ground with a metallic object.
The victim reportedly had a bloodstained knife near his body when the police found him, which measured about 10cm long; and he had stopped breathing by the time the paramedics arrived at the scene.
He was found motionless and declared dead at the scene by paramedics.
