A man shared how he got rejected by a girl because due to his job as a Grab driver.

The girl described him as a handsome man but told him that they cannot be together as she prefers someone who is earning more money than a Grab driver.

Here is the story:

For the first time, a woman came out and said it: I don’t make enough money for her. For what it’s worth, I’m a working professional with a graduate degree, but in an “overeducated but underpaid” profession known as a Grab driver, where I won’t make much more than a comfortable middle-class income.

“I’m looking for a man who earns a bit more than I do. It serves to make up for the gender-based wage disparity that still predominates. Although you are handsome, a Grab driver is not something I am looking for”

Those were her exact words. Good luck in your search but please don’t talk me again.

She had the same income range as me, too. For what it’s worth, I didn’t send her some rude message; she mentioned her that she has high intelligence, and I just said that I could kick her butt in an IQ test. But apparently her “High IQ” comes with a ton of ego and she looks down on Grab drivers as she feels that a man should work a job that has a “future”.

I’m close to giving up. I do get contacted by a lot of women, but two-thirds of them are much, much older than me. The majority of women close to my age in my area have age range requirements that go far more years younger than older, often excluding me (e.g. 41 seeking 29-43).

I (f29) hate wearing rings and don’t want to wear my engagement ring. My (m30) fiancé is extremely hurt by this
I hate wearing rings and bracelets. They’re always uncomfortable to me and I can’t wear one for longer than a day before it starts to seriously impact my mood (I became really annoyed at everything / get angrier easier). I suspect I might have Aspergers or something because this is not the only sensory issue I have.

Everyone knows that I hate hand jewelry, including my fiancé. We’ve been dating for three years and he proposed a few months ago. When he proposed, he used a ring that’s been passed down in his family, and idk why I just kind of assumed it was more symbolic than anything else. Now though he’s really upset I don’t want to wear it. I offered to wear it on a necklace, but since it’s designed to be a ring the stone scratches my skin and is still very uncomfortable. I have very sensitive skin, and by the end of the day there’s a bunch of red scratches from where it irritated my skin.

I told him that he knows that I can’t wear rings or bracelets, but he said he thought I’d be able to put it aside for him. I really can’t imagine wearing the ring for the rest of my life, I tried to wear it for him but after a few days everyone was remarking that I was acting really aggressive and snapping at everyone. I just hate the feeling of wearing it so much. It’s hard for me to enjoy anything with it on.

My fiancé thinks this symbolizes that I don’t want to be with him or something. We’ve been struggling to find a compromise because he wants me to at least have the ring on my body because it’s significant to him and his family, and also doesn’t want to have it reworked so it’s more comfortable as a necklace. He’s really hurt I don’t want to wear it, and even said it makes him think I don’t want people to know I’m getting married.

Update

We broke up.

I brought up all the suggestions that the comments said, get it reworked into a more comfortable necklace, put it in a plastic container on a necklace so it wouldn’t have to be reworked, get a tattoo, all of it. He refused to hear it. The ring has been in his family for four generations and is extremely meaningful to him, so he did not want any compromise.

He also didn’t like that I would be married without a ring. He said it makes me look like I’m trying to hide the fact I’m going to be married or that I have a fiancé, and insinuated that I was cheating on him, which really hurt my feelings.

Two days ago I decided to try to wear the ring again to see if explore therapy would work or something. It did not work at all, all day at work I was distracted and uptight because it was on, and by the time I got home I felt extremely distressed and upset.

When I got home that day I was ready to just collapse on the couch, but my SIL and fiancé were home. I was not expecting my sil to be there.

Apparantly it’s tradition to throw a surprise party for engaged couples in my fiancés family. The bride is taken out to get her nails done with the women of the family, get beautified or something, and then meets the groom and the rest of the family at a random family members house for a party.

I hate surprises and I hate parties. I asked my fiancé why he didn’t warn me and he just said he didn’t want to ruin the surprise.

My sil knew that I didn’t like shopping, and so she had already gotten me a dress to change into for the event after we got our nails done. It was a very sweet and thoughtful thing to do, but it was covered in sequins and had beads hanging from the bottom which I already knew would make my sensory issues go crazy. My fiancé must have seen my face when I saw it, because he texted me that he would be reallly upset if I disrespected his sister by not wearing the dress.

By the time I got to the party I felt like a robot from how much I was shutting down. I still had the ring on too along with the dress, so I was just doing everything in my power to not start crying or have some sort of freak out.

A couple hours pass and I’m still feeling terrible, and then his cousin grabs my waist from behind to move me out of the way.

I hate being touched so much. I hate hate hate it I can hardly stand it on a good day. I screamed and I just couldn’t stop screaming and crying. His entire family just watched me shocked. My fiancé pulled outside and into the car and drove me home and was yelling at me the whole time, which made it worse.

The next morning he demanded an apology. I was so tired and exhausted and I just thought “what am I doing this for? Is this who I want to spend my life with?”

So I dumped him . I feel so light and free for the first time in forever. And now I don’t have to wear his stupid ring .

Hello

Looking for advice – a friend was caught in a credit card debt issue with a bank almost 20 years ago.

They paid off most of it and had their business partner foot the remaining (it was a business-incurred expense). The business partner said it’s paid (they lied) and this friend went on to live their life working and getting housing loan etc without any issues until last year, they started to receive calls from debt collectors representing the bank.

They demanded for payment for this and had some what accurate information.

1. Are these even legit? I understand that there’s such thing as statue of limitation etc.

2. Also the amount being shown despite interest is inaccurate. The principal amount doesn’t deduct any of the repayments my relative has paid.

Makes us think it’s a scam?

Here are what netizens think:

• wait… you started off with “a friend” later on in 2nd last paragraph “my relative”. So the whole story just happened to yourself? And from my understanding Banks will not call demanding for payment, more likely to send a physical letter (think lawyer letter). If in doubt you can visit the bank to ask for details and nego a payment if its true.

• “A friend” was caught in a credit card debt, but “they” paid off most of it and a “business partner” paid the remaining. Then theres this part about “they” lied. And then there’s actually “a relative” who made principal repayments?! So the relative is the friend, the business partner or you? (So who is lying now? You, your relative, your friend or the business partner?)

• You can’t get a new housing loan if you are CC was charged off. People approaching you could be external collection agency to whom bank could have sold debt in bulk. But this generally happens within a year or 2. Not after 20 years for sure! Seems like a scam to me.

Best/worst first date you’ve been on?

I wanna know cos I wanna feel better about myself. Idk if it’s in sg only, but first dates almost feel like a test to me. Like the girl is assessing me or smth.

There was one date I went for where the girl agreed to go on a second date with me. But she pretty much sent me a list of things I did wrong in the first date.

I felt so stumped and quite honestly embarrassed that I didn’t want to go on the next date. Things worked out for me cos I got Covid and the chat just fizzled out.

One of the things she said was that I didn’t walk on the outside to shield her from cars. It was an empty road we were walking by and the pavement was so narrow that I was walking behind her.

Did she expect me to walk on the road to shield her from the cars? Another thing she said was that I didn’t “dress up” for the dinner.

I just wore jeans and a T-shirt cos it was a casual dinner and dessert at bugis. Did she want me in a suit? She also told me she was a little upset because I agreed when she offered to go Dutch.

So am I supposed to vehemently disagree when she says she wants to pay then offer to pay in full? Basically the date was a mess and I felt like I was doing most of the talking while she just answer questions and sat there and looked pretty. I still asked her on a second date and got a whole performance review in return 🥲

Any stories from you guys and ladies?

Netizens’ comments

• Worst date: Met at a mrt station, she saw me, say I am too short for her. Said I cheated her feelings. And then she left. Lol.
• She brought a guy friend to meet me without my advance knowledge. I ended up talking mostly to the dude through the 2hrs+ cafe date, and paid for all of us (including the guy’s share). Dude didn’t even offer to pay for his meal; At least leave me your number la bro since we clicked rather well throughout the session.

A girl makes use of a man and gave him sob stories just to let men feel that “she needs protection” and make use of the feeling to cheat free beers.

Here is the story:

I met this girl called J (let’s just call her ‘J’). She goes around to keep telling guys in the pub about her sob story so that guys will buy her drinks.

She said that her boyfriend made her pregnant when she was young and due to her age then she was forced to get an abortion so that she can continue to work in a pub. Coincidentally, my friend was in the pub as well and we went out for a chat and smoke.

He then told me that J said the same story to him and said that she is poor and needs money. She will say she had an abortion, body weak, now need quick money to pay for hospital bills.

My friend told me that he had gone to this pub a few years ago and the girl was saying the same story, Macham gets an abortion every year.

My friend said that this is a common method pub girls used to bluff guys to buy them ladies’ drinks. Something similar to Thai girls who come to Singapore and tell guys that their “mom is sick, cow is sick, dog is sick, bla bla bla”.

If you go to a pub and the hostess name start with J one, u know who is it already. Guys beware.

[25F] My boyfriend [25M] told me he is jealous of my job and how I spend my money. Can this be worked through?

We started dating in school, and I went straight into industry after graduation. He was always incredibly supportive and proud of how quickly I moved up the ranks, and I recently got a significant promotion. He took me out to dinner to celebrate and all was dandy.

A few friends and I work really hard and felt it was time for a vacation, so we all took a week and had a girls trip. It was honestly the best trip of my life. I excitedly tell my boyfriend all about it, and his response was not what I expected.

He was very quiet and after a pause, told me that he was jealous of my friends and I being so productive and being able to go on trips like these. He’s been focusing entirely on saving money right now and I don’t think he likes how I can feel comfortable spending a few hundred on an annual trip. He brought up the dinner he took me on, and a camping trip we went on and said we can’t do those anymore.

I completely understand and respect how he handles his money and spends his time. It doesn’t matter to me we can’t do dinners and trips together, because I am simply happy with his company. I also understand how, in his position, he would feel jealous. What I am unsure of, is if there is an irreparable incompatibility here.

My focus is my career these next few years, I’m still saving about a third of my paycheck, and I do like to treat myself to a vacation or two a year, keeping it less than $1000 combined, because I can afford it. This trip was a celebration, and it does not feel very good to think you can’t tell your partner about your success and rewards without resentment.

I give him as much emotional support I as can and emphasize that money or job doesn’t matter to me. My friends and family think he’s great and don’t view him any differently. But he’s deeply insecure about this. And I don’t know if it makes me an asshole, because he’s not doing anything wrong, but I don’t know if I can be with someone knowing they can get jealous of my successes, because my career is extremely important to me, and I’m not stopping for anything.

Any advice on how to better support him? Or is this something that tends to not get resolved?

So i got a call earlier from a guy claiming to be from AIG.

He was selling to me an insurance plan by phone and claiming that my profile was selected from a collab with Shopee (something about a Mercedes Benz). Disclaimer: I do take part in those frivolous lucky draws.

The guy was going on about the benefits of the plan and then ask if I would want to commit to enrolling for it.

It was just weird (for me) to be buying insurance by phone and the guy said that he will need my credit card number but assured me it’s not a scam as he will not ask for my OTP or CVS number (and that this is due to covid arrangement).

I just rejected his offer and proceeded to call Shopee hotline to verify if there were such a collab ongoing, the customer service told me no and that there’s only an AIG collab with Lazada (????).

I did a bit of digging and saw the last collab shoppe had w AIG was back in Feb 2021.

Has anyone else got such calls recently?

Note: The concern is not w marketers getting my contact info but the ‘new approach adopted by the alleged ‘AIG’ agents.

Here are what netizens think:

Oh, this. I got the call too, Shopee-Merc Benz lucky draw. The person who called me was from AIG. Gave a card number with no money on it, AIG tried deducting and failed but still got a letter from AIG afterwards. I cancelled under the free look period immediately after.

There are stringent MAS regulations on selling insurance products. It’s not like buying ice cream from girl guides at the door. Anyway why would anyone with a working brain give his credit card number to a rando over the phone

They called me previously and said it was the Mercedes draw since early February this year.

Moved in with bf and his hygiene has gone down hill

I (27, f) have been with my bf (26, m) for 2 years. We moved in together in 2021 for about 9 months but the place ended up having issues (not our fault) and we got out of the lease.

Then a couple months after we moved back in together in a new place and Im noticing he’s really not brushing his teeth or bathing.

He’s not big on skincare either but this is most men so w/e. When we lived together the first time I didn’t notice as much because he was working from home and sometimes wouldn’t leave the home for a couple days then when he was gonna leave, he would shower prior.

Now he has a more physically demanding job (his choice) and it’s gotten worse. He’s always either running late for work (he leaves at 4 am) or too tired from work (he gets back around midday) to brush his teeth or shower.

The most he’ll do, because I insist, is wash his feet in the bath (they have an odor) when he gets home.

I really don’t know what to do without being mean I don’t notice B.O. but I do notice the bad breath. I have to pretty much yell for him to do either but at this point it’s been a week no shower and like 2 days not brushing his teeth.

What can I do? When we were dating he ofc always smelled good like cologne and mouth wash.

I recently had this travel experience to Thailand and felt that our nation should really behave themselves when overseas.

There is this SG couple with NTU jerseys queueing at Burger King at the Airport that was so rude, by accident the SG guy turn around to knock into someone and show the attitude of ‘oh hey, you deserved to be knocked’ and walk away a short while to look for a seat.

(the other started giving him the dagger stare) and came back yet wanting to threaten the guy he knock into by looking up and down at that guy. After that, this SG guy crossed his arm and made it ‘oh?

I accidentally knocked you? So what kind of face? I really wanted to say, such behaviour is so xia suay to our nation, a simple quick apology can resolve everything, why does he needs to put himself so high up and think they are from a “first-world” country?

You want to be ah beng, stay in the country please, don’t lose our face overseas.

Here are what netizens think:

Looks like both education and money cannot buy class.

Wearing a NTU jersey doesn’t automatically make him a Singaporean. It just probably indicates he studied in NTU. Just saying…

Go where also self entitled.

My girlfriend just told me that she’s cheated on her past 3 boyfriends.

Me and my girlfriend recently started dating and honestly I’ve found us to argue a lot, she thinks we’re doing great because she’s never been in any good relationships.

She always talks about marriage and children even though we’ve only been together for 2 months.

She told me that she has cheated on every boyfriend she’s had before me and it really bugs me, she says it won’t be like that with me because she wants everything with me but she probably thought the same thing before.

I’m honestly not sure what to do or think about the situation. I do love her but it affects the way I feel about her and our relationship.

Netizens’ comments

• run
  • Usain Bolt style
    • 100%
      • 101%
• What she means is, I only cheat when the relationship is “bad”, so if you’re to my liking you’ll be fine, if you’re not I’ll cheat and it’ll be your own fault because I warned you
• I bet she says that too all the boys.
  Don’t be victim number 4 OP. This leopard isn’t going to change her spots anytime soon.
  The problem when people say that they have had bad relationships before is that sometimes you can be never quite sure whether the common denominator in these “bad relationships” and why they were all bad was that she caused it to be this way.
  Toxic people tend to be toxic regardless of who they are with. And she sure as hell sounds toxic AF!