I met this girl, a year older than me, online from an app about a few months in mid-May, we texted every day and two weeks later, she wanted to meet me physically to which I agreed. But a few hours before our meet up, she told me that she went to meet another guy from the same app and hung out for a few hours. Initially, I was a little puzzled as to why she told me that. So after talking for a couple of hours, she told me that she liked me and to be honest, I’m not sure if that’s a red flag because we knew each other for a couple of weeks and I barely know her and she just straight up tells me she like me like ‘ok….’, of course, I didn’t really know how to respond and simply said, ‘I am interested in knowing you more’
So she shared freely with me her past that she did a lot of things, physical intimacy with her ex (She knew him for about 2 and a half years) and they broke up because he kept calling her derogatory names, him being super clingy and would blame her for everything that went wrong in their relationship. On the days we hang out, many times she would mention what she did with her ex and the things he liked and what not (Again, I was a little puzzled and confused as to why she kept sharing about her ex every time).
She would also make those ‘uwu/anime girl sounds’ which to me sounded quite annoying and irritating. She would get angry at me over the small things like just changing the time we meet or when I’m just like for 5 minutes, she would blame and criticize me that ‘I am someone who cannot keep track of time’ or another time where I was visiting my grandmother, I told her that I can’t attend this event with her, and she just flared up. It was just the small things she would hold grudges and resentment.
For our conversations every day, she would talk to me about her work (I’m still studying in my 2nd year so I can’t really relate much to it) and rant about her bad her work is and stuff, and I offered some of my suggestions and opinions that could possibly help her but what I got was more ranting. Initially, I was okay to hear about her rant for about a week or so but to hear about someone ranting every single day for the past two months, I felt quite uncomfortable about it. I would rather talk about something much more interesting and fruitful instead of hearing all this negative stuff every day just felt mentally draining from schoolwork. I really tried my best to help and support her during such periods but it just seems tougher by the week.
For a few moments, she would talk about our future together (Keep in mind that we only knew each other for two months) So one day, I decided to let her know that we should stay friends as I didn’t want to hype up this whole thing only to let her down eventually or keep any expectation that she had going up. Furthermore, I personally don’t think I’m ready for a relationship (which is probably what she was expecting) and I want to enjoy my singlehood for the time being. At first, she was upset and just gave me a cold shoulder reaction. Thinking back, I thought her being a year older than me, would garner somewhat a more mature response or understand the situation a lot better.
Eventually, after letting her know my stand that we can remain friends but going further would be up to anyone’s guess. Our conversation every day gradually became to a stop where she would make up small talk like ‘Oh look at what I’m eating’, ‘Look at this cat so funny haha’ every day, personally I’m not really good at small talk so I could only respond so much like ‘LOL HAHAHA LMAO’ and she just complained to my close friend that I’m ghosting her when the truth was that I’m not that interested in her but rather stick as friends and it feels like she’s pushing in the boundaries beyond my comfort zone.
Our conversation went like this:
Her: how are you doing?
Me: Doing alright having a ton of schoolwork and projects to submit, wbu?
Her: Nvrm I don’t care already
The whole thing just felt bizarre and weird and I tried to ask her what’s wrong but she didn’t really say much. Basically, she just felt like I’m ghosting her and ignoring her when the truth is that I’m just simply not that interested in her and just want to live my life. I suppose different wavelengths, different frequencies.
But the thing I have on my mind right now is that at times I feel like she’s having traits of her ex and just straight-up blaming me for the smallest things and hold some form of grudge to use it against me which I felt was abit toxic, and that she has quite a lot of unsolved emotional baggage on her end and that she’s just dumping onto me, am I in the wrong to tell her my boundaries?
Advisories from a school were published and send to parents after a student from Paya Lebar Methodist Girls’ School was found positive for Covid-19.
PAYA LEBAR METHODIST GIRLS’ SCHOOL
The student is Primary 5 and was last in school on 11 Aug 2021. The student is a household member of a confirmed case outside of school.
The school is located at 298 Lor Ah Soo, Singapore 536741
Here is the advisory:
We were informed by the Ministry of Health (MOH) that one of our Primary 5 students has been tested positive for COVID-19. The student was last in school on Wednesday. 11 August 2021 and was well. The student is the household member of a confirmed case outside of school. Students and staff who were in close contact with the student have been identified and placed on Leave of Absence (LOA).
Cleaning and disinfecting of the school premises have been carried out this afternoon. We would like to assure you that the school has been and will continue to tightly implement safe management measures. These include cleaning high-touch surfaces and disinfecting our premises regularly. cohortising our students to minimise inter-mingling and ensuring hygiene practices such as washing hands and wiping down by students and staff.
Six males, aged 17 to 21, have been detained by police for their alleged involvement in a fight.
According to the Police media release, The police were notified of a brawl near Clementi Ave 2 on Tuesday (Aug 17) that reportedly included two groups of persons, according to the police.
The investigation revealed that the two groups consisting of 6 men knew each other and the fight started because they had a disagreement.
Singapore Police Force
4 of the 6 males were arrested on the scene and 2 more who escaped the scene were arrested on the same day.
The Police said that seven other people between the ages of 15 and 43 are presently cooperating with the Police for further investigations. A knife was also found.
According to the Police Media release, they are warning a scam variant where the scammer pretends to be your friend or family and ask for money.
The Police said that they would contact the victim either with calls or messages and seek “financial assistance”.
The numbers are typically called from unknown numbers, after the victim picks up the phone they will not say who they are. When the victim asked the scammer, the scammer would typically use the following answer:
“Guess who am I? You can’t remember me?”.
They would then convince the victim that they are acquainted and upon establishing their relation the caller would say that they lost their handphone and calling them from a different number.
The scammer might not immediately ask the victim for money and would normally tell them to save the caller ID’s number as a phonebook contact and replacing the old contact.
After some time they would start asking for loans with the following excuses:
asking for a loan due to financial difficulties
asking for a loan because he/she got into trouble with the law.
Victims would then be asked to transfer the money to bank accounts belonging to unknown individuals, as provided by the callers. Victims would only discover that they had been scammed when they contacted their friends and realised that they had not contacted the victims nor changed their contact number.
Re-enactment (S for scammer, V for victim)
S: Hello brother how are you?
V: Who is this?
S: you forgot me ah?
S: You don’t know who I sound like meh?
V: You sound like andy
S: ya la, I’m andy
S: I’m calling to tell you I lost my phone, this is my new number, please save it
Embarrassing confession here. My girlfriend told me she does not get wet when she sees me anymore and demand I take the following steps if not she will break up with me.
I am here to ask if people think I should listen to her? She wants me to lose 5kg as I have a muffin top. She wants me to go for a hair transplant as I am receding at the temples. Full head of hair otherwise though.
She said it is embarrassing for her to be seen dating someone who might go bald one day. She wants me to go for plastic surgery to shave the bone around my jaw as she said my face is too wide. I actually went to see a surgeon who told me she thinks it is a bad idea as usually, this sort of drastic surgery is more for people who have been in serious accidents.
Overall I will say I am a slightly above average looking guy. I am not particularly good looking but there are girls who are drawn to my looks. My girlfriend on the other hand can easily be a model.
She is super vain and is the sort who can spend four hours just picking the perfect lipstick colour.
I am honestly quite dismayed though that she seems to be viewing me as a cosmetic product for herself too.