just felt like reflecting on some stuff. For some reason when me and my ex broke up i didnt grief as much as i did in a previous relationship, and thinking about it i felt it may be because i know i deserve alot more than what she had to afford, which were just bare minimum or sometimes even not.

She was broken when she entered the rs and i tried my best to help her and “fix” her but in the process had also lost myself. She doesnt rly make me feel loved, i receive the most dry “gd morning” text from her, it doesnt seem like she is excited to spend time with me too and never once gave me any reassurance, especially since she hangs out with alot of guys and even go out 1 on 1 afew times, and im not talking about sweet text(which NEVER happened ONCE throughout the time we dated). She also wears shirts that belongs to other guys which i personally feel is unacceptable( i wld understand if it was a new shirt given as a gift).

She’s lowkey a gold digger also because i realise i always end up spending at least half of whatever money i have each month on her. And while im taking time to heal now she’s going ard seeking affirmation from other guys trying to fill the void i left which is kind of toxic in my opinion.

That doesnt bother me though because her next relationship wont end up lasting seeing how she treats the whole situation and she’ll probably end up continuously filling that void till she finally wakes up and realise her own mistakes. At least i get to laugh at her glow down while i have my glow up and watch my bank account grow and eventually find someone else to give the world to and spend my money on. And if she sees this i hope she’ll realise that it is her loss because someone who she once complained about being poor is now 10 times richer and she lost someone that would do anything for her while all i lost was someone who couldnt give me the simplest words of affirmation.

You may think u got the better end of the breakup but deep down you know u’ve messed up;)

I am here to seek advice about the psychology of girls. It is a long story. I was in a relationship with this girl three years ago, when I was a fresh graduate from NUS and started my first job, and she was a final-year high school student in my home country, going to study overseas in a Western country (for our background, we are not Singaporeans, and are from an Asia-Pacific country). Our relationship finished several months after she travelled overseas.

In fact, we did not have any conflict. She was the one who started ignoring my messages, and as it was a long-distance relationship, I had no choice but to finish it after a few weeks of awkwardness. After that, I just simply moved on; however, right after we stopped keeping contact, I noticed a significant change in her mind and behaviour (it was all based on my observation on social media). Previously, she was an energetic girl with dark brown skin.

She was a kind of person who can make friend with everyone, had a great sense of humour, and actively participated in a lot of co-curricular activities. Her posts and photos on social media attracted a lot of likes and comments, and she also enthusiastically interacted with friends online. However, after we stopped keeping contact, she seemed to change a lot, both physically and mentally. Until now, to some extent, I can say that the change is quite extreme.

1/ She follows a lot of groups/pages about make-up, beauty, cosmetic, clothes.

Especially, she follows many groups/pages which give advices to girls (the main ideas are sth like the importance of virgin, girls should never have s*x before marriage, girls should be beautiful and wait for ‘Mr. Right’ instead of being active in a relationship, and ‘Mr. Right’ will do everything for the girl, and so on).

2/ Her skin became brighter and pale, and her hair became softer and unnatural. She always wears long, colourful and vintage dresses (instead of casual clothes such as jeans and T-shirt).

To easily imagine, you can think of Western women in late 19th / early 20th century, like in Gone with the wind, and Titanic.

3/ On social media, her interaction with people become less enthusiastic. Her replies to others comments seem to be careful and distant, which is a sharp contrast to her humorous, friendly and energetic behaviour in the past. Gradually, less people interact with her on social media.

4/ Despite the less activeness on social media, she starts practicing to have a Youtube channel, and an Instagram about cooking. However, they do not last long. Overall, the whole story was in three years ago.

I stopped thinking about it for a long time and also have experiences with several other girls after that. However, I recently got an offer to study in the same city with her (in that Western country). Hence, I start remembered about the past and I think of contacting her again. To be honest, I really loved her personality in the past when we was in relationship; however, I am confused about her new personality.

My post is to seek advices and explanations i.e. what could be the reasons of her change in personality, what does it mean, and what should I do to deal with it. Thanks a lot!

Me and my girlfriend got together 4 months ago, and she is my first. I loved her so much when we just started out, but as we got to know each other better, I’m starting to think otherwise.

She keeps testing me, fighting with me over trivial arguments to see if I will apologise first, when these arguments don’t even need to start in the first place. Most of the time I do apologise, but when I don’t, she uses it to guilt trip me, saying things like “sorry I’m a bad girlfriend” and all… She also can’t seem to understand that I need my own time alone as well, just to watch videos or play games. She wants to keep texting and texting and texting me, and I wouldn’t dare to ask her to stop because she would get angry, so I let her… My life now is literally work, and texting her until I have to sleep, I can’t get time for anything else.

We go out on dates every Friday night after work and occasionally more, but she still pushes to go on even more dates. Immediately after our dates, she tells me she misses me and wants to see me again. I try to put it nicely to her that work is tiring, and minus sleep time and the time I take to go out with her and text/call her, I literally only have a few hours left for myself every week. She gets angry whenever I say I don’t want to go out, saying things like “Oh, I guess I’m just not that important to you” and stuff like that.

I also never thought I’d say this, but her sex drive is insane. She is constantly texting about s**ual things which I shall not go into detail, and she gets extremely mad when I stop replying… Many times I would come home from work tired as hell, and she starts sexual texts, but I will force myself not to sleep and just play along with her, fearing that she will be angry with me.

Can I get a third persons perspective on this? Who is in the wrong? Am I just not a good boyfriend? She’s my first, and I really don’t want to break up with her after just 4 months of being together…