I am having an upsetting issue with my marriage and I wish just to have a discussion with helpful commenters here. I am married to a woman whose older brother has inherited their parents’ business.

Let’s just say he makes a shitload of money and I don’t know how much he earns. He lives in a landed detached near Nanyang Primary School. It’s worth mentioning that that company is split 90/10 between my brother-in-law and his mother. My father-in-law is dead, never met the guy.

My wife got a 3-bed condo from her dad. We live in it now. My wife is a housewife. She became a housewife ever since we had our first child. Now we have 2 children, aged 5 and 2. I don’t make a lot of money (I’m a civil servant), and my wife is uniquely high maintenance.

Although I would be lying if I didn’t also say that she has changed a lot since we met in uni. In those days, she would walk into ION, spend a couple of thousand dollars in a few hours, and call it “therapeutic.” I made it very clear to her when we were dating, repeatedly I might add, that I am low SES and she was the one who agreed to still go out with me, eventually agreeing to marry me. Recently, because of the stress of raising my two children, she has started to ask for significantly more money to spend.

She started going back to cafes with her friends at Orchard, something she has stopped doing for a long time, and she has started buying branded stuff. The cost of raising children has also been more expensive than I had predicted. But to be completely honest, if I reduce my savings to negligible numbers, I can support both my wife’s lifestyle and all the household expenses. I don’t make a lot but I think I am comfortably middle-income.

The thing is I want to save up for retirement. I think it is my responsibility to save up for retirement because I do not believe in asking anything from my children. So for a few months, I have told my wife that I have not enough money to give her apart from what I usually give her. We didn’t use to fight. But we have fought more in the past 6 months than our entire history together combined. I think 2-3 months ago, she started having money to spend all of a sudden.

She could buy all her branded stuff, go to cafes etc. A few weeks ago, we went to Takashimaya and my son saw this $500 toy that he really wanted. I obviously told him no. I didn’t have the budget for it. He threw a tantrum and I held my ground, as I have always done. Without hesitation, my wife just came over and told him “daddy doesn’t have money, mummy buy for you.” I got so angry I just drove home, leaving them all behind.

Two days ago, I finally found out my wife has been getting money from my brother-in-law. I found out by accident because she left her iBanking session active when she was cooking. In that past 5 months alone, my brother-in-law sent her $20,000 a month. Ok, let’s just get something straight here. I don’t have a good relationship with my BIL. He is really smart and really rich. Because I always feel very insecure about how smart I am, I always try to sound smart during family dinners. But he frankly just knows so much about so many things once he starts talking everyone just listens to him explain shit. It is frustrating and I really don’t like being around him.

So I can’t talk to him about leaving my family business to me because I’m sure he would just say it’s his money and he can give it to whomever he wants. I talked to my wife about the money she’s been receiving, and how we should review our household finances and she was adamant in saying that the money her brother sent to her is “her brother’s money,” earmarked for “her to spend” and I’m not allowed to have a discussion on how it constitutes an increase in our household income. I’m not angry at the money that she’s been getting. I’m just upset that I get the sense that my wife has lost all respect for the kind of money I make, the type of work that I do, and the person I am.

For example, she’d suggest a place to have dinner, like a really expensive place, and I stopped being able to use the excuse that we cannot afford it because she’d say it’s her treat.

I feel like nobody respects me in the family and I don’t even know what to feel anymore.

hi guys, F22 here. I have gotten together with my boyfriend in University and it has been going pretty well. He cares for me and will go out of his way to buy me simple treats whenever I am feeling stressed due to my workload and commitments.

Boy, he loves to have sex with me and I don’t mind his enthusiasm as I find it pretty cute and think of it as a time for bonding . His sex drive is pretty high( maybe about 3 times a week) and I try my best to accommodate him as long as I am able to finish my school tasks first.

Sometimes when we are out on a date, he would ask for a quick one and we will just get the deed done in the toilet of a mall, it’s quite thrilling and we would be often starred at by strangers outside the handicap toilet when we are leaving. I have found out that he has a folder of obscene materials stored in his phone and it consists of leaks/video of women from school and I don’t know what to feel about it…

I mean, I do understand that men have their tendencies and needs to satisfy. But I don’t really like to mentally picture my bf pccto other women. I have mentioned it to him casually and I have told him to record our acts together and pccto it instead. I even sent him multiple videos of myself dressed like a little slut while pccand calling for his name but he would always delete my videos and tell me to stop doing it as he doesn’t want our videos to be leaked/ hacked. Do you guys have any words of advice for me ?

I just want to feel loved by him fully and the thought of him jerking off to other women tend to upset me quite a bit

Minister Vivian Balakrishnan has officially apologised to PSP’s Leong Mun Wai after calling him “illiterate” which was caught on live microphone in a Parliamentary session on 14 September 2021.

The comments came after a heated debate in parliament which lasted 10 hours over Singapore’s Foreign Talent Policy which saw three ministers rebutting PSP’s statement on the Free Trade Agreement (FTA).

Criticisms about Leong Mun Wai were picked up over live microphone notably a comment made about him which said “He’s illiterate, Seriously how did he get into RI? Must have been a lousy school.”

It was unclear as to who made the statements at first but Minister Vivian Balakrishnan has since came out to apologise over the comments.

PSP’s Central Executive Committee has also came out to say that it is disappointing to “hear a cabinet minister say what he said.”

PSP’s Leong Mun Wai has since accepted the Minister’s apology according to the Minister’s Facebook status.

Image source: Vivian Balakrishnan Facebook and Leong Mun Wai Facebook

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A netizen took to Instagram to commend a bus driver who take massive pride in his work and spreads joy with his affable personality.

The netizen wrote:

“This bus captain is someone who really put in a lot of effort to serve his commuter!

BC Khai is one of SMRT Bus Captain from serving bus service 187. He is always willing to go beyond his duties to serve his commuters in needs. He always greet his commuters when we board his bus and he would wait for the elderly to sit down before moving off! He is always very cheerful when serving the commuters, no matter rain or shine, he greets all his commuters politely. Before we alight, he would say thank you and have a nice day!

I first get to know him when he was driving 904 as there is not enough bus captain as most of the Bus Captain are placed in QO. After that day, as I was taking 187, I saw him and he told me that his permanent svc 187. And most of the elderly commuters enjoys riding his bus as he was very friendly!”

Source: @netiizenz on IG

Yasslee Rusdi, 40-years-old, pleaded guilty to one count of rashly causing a fire, possessing drug related utensil and consumption of the drug methamphetamine.

He was sentenced to one year and 3 months of imprisonment.

What happened?

Rusdi checked into a hotel room at Hotel 81 Selegie on 5 May earlier this year, at about 5.40pm.

He was aware that it was a non smoking room but he went on to smoke half a pack of cigarettes, leaving three lit cigarettes on the top of the bed frame.

Rusdi then left the room at around 11pm, and a fire alarm later sounded.

Alvin Quek, 30-years-old, was at the front office at the time when he received calls from the guests of the hotel, complaining that they are smelling smoke.

He then went to investigate the situation and saw smoke emerging from the gap at the bottom of Rusdi’s room door.

He was unable to open the door because Rusdi had propped items against it.

Quek then tried to put out the fire through the gap in the door but failed.

SCDF officers soon arrived and used an internal reel jet to put out the fire and Quek, as well as another hotel guest was conveyed to hospital.

Rusdi was then arrested on 78 May and police found him in possession of several drug paraphernalia, including a glass pipe.

His urine sample tested positive for methamphetamine.

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