My husband and I met 5 years ago and everything moved very quickly, it was one of those things where we were both ending relationships we knew weren’t right for us. We’re both in our thirties and knew what we wanted but we took a lot of crap from some friends about how quickly we got married etc.,

Pretty much as soon as our respective breakups were over we both put all of our stuff in storage, he quit his job, I took leave from mine and we went and backpacked together for 6 months a few years ago. It was a lifelong dream we both happened to have and it was amazing.

There are a handful of his friends who are still in contact with his ex, who was pretty pissed when he left as she had been making him support her financially etc so she had to get a job and her lifestyle changed. She was also very angry with how quickly he moved on and spent about a year harassing us which prompted us both to get rid of our social media accounts.

We just had our first child and we created a shared account for updates about the pregnancy and birth and milestones with family and close friends for ease. Well, somehow she found the account and has been sending belligerent DMs to us.

We blocked her account, she’s continued to make new ones each time we block them. At this point our account is private but we still get message requests from newly created accounts of hers.

One of the mutual friends is getting married in 2023 and asked my husband and me to be at the wedding party via a zoom get together since we only have a limited amount of pax that can attend events.

My husband said we’d love to but couldn’t if his ex was going. Friend implied it was because I was uncomfortable around her as she’s his ex, I’m a grown person I don’t care she’s his ex, I care she’s actively harassing us. So I said “No, she makes me uncomfortable because she’s stalking us.”

My husband then shared the extent of abuse he endured in their relationship and now so now everything is very awkward because some think we are out of line to bring up personal relationship matters 5 years after the fact as she’s been working on her mental health and “has changed” I would love that to be true but the harassment implies otherwise.

Now my husband isn’t talking to any of the “friends” who took her side which I think is for the best, his friend throwing the wedding is on his side but the wife to be is upset with us for fracturing the friend group and likely causing a lot of awkwardness at the wedding even if the ex doesn’t come.

I feel responsible because maybe I should have gone along and pretended I was just uncomfortable with her and not provided context. Some of my friends have said it was an AH move to air all her dirty laundry like that.

I feel that if our friends can’t stop her maybe I should the Police to stop her.

Should I do it?

I’m 20F. For context, my parents have always made comments about my eating habits ever since I was 13/14, which led me to just even eat more in secret. I’ve always been a bit overweight. Not obese, just a bit overweight. And despite that, in school I was always made fun of being fat.

They’ve made comments about my eating habits all the time, such as “why are you eating so much, you’re already fat, don’t you wanna get thin?” Or “How are you going to be thin if you eat this much?”

Today, I literally had about a bowl of rice, 1 salmon, and an egg. Then my dad came in to the kitchen, whilst I was cooking, saying it’s too much food for 1 person. [I didn’t throw away my food then] Basically it just threw me off, and I just couldn’t even cook the way I wanted to cook my food. It all just tasted like garbage.

I got angry at my dad and told him he literally didn’t need to say that, and then my mum comes in saying I shouldn’t be disrespectful to my dad. So I told both of them to “….” off and threw away my entire plate of food.

I know there’s starving kids and people in the world and I didn’t mean to disrespect food blatantly, but I was so angry that I just did it.

Am I wrong to do so?

Here are what netizens think:

• In fact I would have made thing worse by throwing the food everywhere and their faces.

• That was a ridiculous overreaction on your part.

• You eat what you want to. Salmon, egg and rice doesn’t sound that unhealthy to me.
• If this has been going on as long as you say I’m surprised you lasted this long without telling them.

Two years ago me and my ex moved in together and bought all the furniture together. We broke up six months ago and instead of splitting everything I told him I’d pay his half of what he paid and stay in the apartment (we were renting and he didn’t care who stayed or moved out). He completely agreed to this.

This is where the drama starts. He told his mum and dad the situation and for some reason they thought that it’s completely unfair I get everything and only pay him half and I should pay the ENTIRE value of the stuff to him (around $5000). His parents had him convinced this was the right way to do things. In all fairness I was feeling bitter towards him and his parents so I turned around and told him “how about you take the apartment and all the belongings and you pay me the $5000”. He’s not the smartest guy and literally relies on everything his parents say so he thought that it’s a fair trade and agreed. I’m pretty sure I heard him on the phone to his parents telling them the new plan and I know they didn’t sound happy but he didn’t say anything so we kept to it.

It’s now three months later and he messaged me saying he realised that he really should’ve only paid $2500 because I only paid half of the stuff. I know he’s right but his family tried to one up me so I one upped them. So I said no this is what was agreed to.

EDIT: because all the furniture was an entire set it was all or nothing and he was adamant on keeping everything together. So it was either him or me being scammed out.

If he messaged me apologising for using his family (I should’ve added they were yelling at me on the phone to the point I was crying and ready to leave with nothing) I would’ve sent his half back. But like someone of you wonderful people have said “play stupid games, win stupid prizes” he didn’t apologise, he only said he wanted his half back. I get i scammed him but I did what I needed to afford a new place

Since his family played dirty and I wrong to give him back what he tried to do on me?