Is there a nice way to tell my GF that I don’t enjoy eating her out?

So my GF(f24) and I(m25) have been together for 3 years and known each other for about 10. We have a pretty good and active life on the bed but, I find myself getting annoyed and turned off when she ask me to go down on her due to both her grooming and preferences with oral.

My GF doesn’t shave her private area at all because she doesn’t like the feeling of the hair growing back. I don’t have an issue with that by itself but, it makes oral difficult because she only likes it when I use my tongue on her.

My GF absolutely hates oral if my tongue is touching anything other than her cl-t. I can’t put my tounge anywhere else inside or outside her V as it reminds of her trauma she suffered in her childhood.

Having to focus on one specific spot is hard enough without having to use my fingers to push aside all of the hair she has down there and I still end up with a lot of it on my tongue and in my mouth.

Also, she’s on medication which makes it difficult for her to finish so, if I want to make her finish from oral, I’m having to tongue her without stopping for a very long time.

I’ve definitely gotten better at eating her out over time but, I honestly feel like I’m performing a medical procedure every time I do it instead of an act of love.

I don’t want her to not feel comfortable asking me to go down on her but, I think she’s catching in to the fact that I don’t like it and I want to have a conversation about it. Any advice is appreciated.

Netizens’ comments

1. Can’t y’all meet halfway and just trim things up down there?
2. She doesn’t have to shave the area.
   Get a hair trimmer, put it on the longest length, and just trim the top of the bush.
   If it’s still too long, next level.
   It’s a hair cut, not a shave.
3. I would say something like, “I really love eating you out, but i was wondering if you’d be open to trimming your hair. You don’t have to shave it completely, I’m only asking for us to try having it trimmed down. I’m finding it hard to focus on pleasing you bc it’s getting in the way.

I’m so scared of dying.

I turn 20 in April and I am absolutely dreading it. I feel like I’m constantly in a race but I’m up against time. I feel sick thinking about how I’m basically 2 decades old already and I probably only have around 5 left.

I can’t fathom the fact that I just won’t exist one day. I can’t comprehend how we just can’t get time back and we have to accept that.

Like I can’t go back to the moment when I started writing this post, it’s so fing weird to me, I hate it. I constantly feel a sense of impending doom purely because I just feel like I’m so old and I don’t have long left.

Netizens’ comments

1. Well, the years start coming and they don’t stop coming.
2. You were dead for billions of years before you were born mate, to absolutely no inconvenience to you whatsoever. Trillions of people have lived and died since the beginning of time. You had a 1 in a trillion chance of even seeing a second in this world, so the fact you’ve had 20 years is better than billions of sperm ever get. Hope that eases your mind.
3. Yup the days just keep going and they only go by faster the older you get, Just remember you spend more of your life over the age of 30 than younger, so…don’t worry about the impending doom just yet.
4. Hey, I get it. There was a point in my 20s when I realized I’m not going to live forever and it’s a very sobering thought. Death anxiety is insane. Appreciating what I have now, and what I’ve got to experience so far in life. You are young. You have so much life left to live. It has taken me a while to come around to accepting that one day, I will probs be ready to go. There are going to be people I miss, people I want to see again. Right now though, I try to appreciate what I have. It takes work to get through, but you’ve got this!
5. I was 20 like ten minutes ago, now I’m 45

i cried as a man today

Today i cried as a man.

I was told by my wife to buy bread today, then i check my wallet i only got 2 ringgit. Check my account i got 10 ringgit , how to withdraw 10 ringgit man. Gaji still lambat, how to buy food now , i’m screwed.

Then when lunchtime, my friend ask me to buy him a drink, gave me 4 ringgit. Shit, if i add this to my 2 ringgit , can buy bread now.

Went to the kedai, got myself a bread , cost me 5 ringgit, now i got 1 ringgit left. Where to buy air tin for 1 ringgit.

On my way back to office, my lampu minyak dashboard start to menyala, i said now this, oh my. Where to find duit minyak now, if i dont get paid by tomorrow, i’m fkced.

I enter office, friend ask , where his drink. I don’t know how to react, i just said sorry then i went to the bathroom and cried.

I cried while saying “mak, i’m susah right now, i’m sorry”. Damn man, i hit rock bottom, just to buy bread also struggle.

Went to see my friend back, just told him i lost his money, will ganti tomorrow. I don’t know what went wrong with my life, i never imagined that one day i will struggle so hard just to buy bread.

I’m not asking for donation , i just needed to vent this out, like how can i tell my wife i can’t even afford a bread, i have failed as a husband to provide, you know what im saying.

Names changed to protect identities.

My best friend Sabrina who I’ve known for 16 years now, has been with her girlfriend Allison for 9 years now, they’ve lived together since 2014. (yes she is bi)

I’ve been with my girlfriend Kate for 13 years now, she moved from Thailand to be with me. We were planning to move to Thailand but the pandemic hit and we can’t do that yet. But we want to. We’re wealthy enough to, got no kids.

They’re a self-described “very femme less couple” and hate it if people assume one’s the masculine one, one’s the feminine partner.

I’ve known Sabrina since September 2004. Recently via my cousin Alex (works as food delivery rider) found out that Dad had been cheating on Mom with Sabrina, she said she’d seen Dad kissing this woman in a McDonald’s car park with her sitting on the hood of a sports car. She did get a photo which she sent me.

She didn’t confront my Dad but was embarrassed; she’d seen that as it was on her regular delivery route.

I’m an only child with no siblings. Dad was very upset when Mom was told she could have no more kids; my own birth was difficult according to mom.

I told her over Whatsapp that it was my best friend’s girlfriend and she was shocked. We didn’t get a chance to meet up in person so talked over Whatsapp instead.

As it is, I’ve told Sabrina, showed her the photo and she was crying; saying she wondered if she’d regretted 9 years of being with her and wonders what a postpandemic dating market will be like for her since she’s nearly 40.

I also confronted my Dad about it, and he didn’t deny it, saying “Mom’s getting obese” and “She’s losing her drive to Netflix”.

But those two things are nonsense; Mom’s 61, does hiking. She’s always been fit.

Dad seems to want to leave Mom for Allison and they seem to want to be married?

Allison as my stepmom? Weird or sick??

Looking for advice on how to support mom and my best friend.

I don’t even know where to start, I feel sick and horrible that I took this long to find out. I found out my brother in law cheated on my sister sometime in the first two years of their marriage and that she’s staying only for her kid and me to have some kind of family and support.

We lost both our parents during her marriage, mom just after her marriage and dad a year later. she has been married for 4 years now with a kid. I was borrowing her laptop when I found a document of what she has written over the years and I feel horrible. I knew she was not happy and I thought it was only a few petty fights but not that he cheated and that she was dealing with the crazy from her in-laws as well.

I didn’t take the loss of our parents well and I got into a messed up relationship that didn’t work out after which I buried myself in schoolwork.

My sister was my only support throughout all this time. She encouraged me and supported me. I am ashamed to say I was dealing with my own garbage issues which pale in comparison to what she was suffering so much on her own.

She has mentioned she just wants to leave and start over but has never spoken to me about it. As much as this scares me, I want to get them away from him and his family as soon as possible. I just graduated and I have a job now. How can I plan to help her leave him? Both financially and legally to leave him?

Here are what netizens think:

• Tell your sister to start calling lawyers. Maybe you can do it so her husband doesn’t find out.she needs legal advice and a plan to leave. She needs a lawyer. You don’t stay for the kid you leave for the kid.

• Well not sure of the exact circumstances. But. If your sister is in this situation and can’t ask for a divorce and leave? 
• Collect evidence and lawyer up.

Obligatory, this didn’t happen today. It happened in 2011.

MANY years ago, I used to work as a model, and I did some sexy stuff. No big deal. I quit that career when I got married and became pregnant. I had my baby, and enough time had gone by, that I wanted to get a part-time job. My only other work experience was bartending, and the modelling.

I decided to apply for a job at a bar, that requires the bartenders to be attractive females, that dress in outfits (corsets, little boy shorts, and heels). Figured this would be good, because I’d make about as much money working 2-3 nights a week, as what I’d make at a regular bar 5-6 nights a week.

They had an online application that requested a photo from the waist up (yes, this is normal for places like that. They call them “auditions”, instead of interviews, in order to get away with this, as well as only hiring certain “types”. Even the wing chain with the orange shorts does the same thing. That’s where I bartended before I started the modelling thing).

I browsed through the photos on my laptop and found the one I wanted to use. A trick I used in order to find a photo to attach quickly, was to rename it “A”, in a certain folder, then delete it after it was sent. So that’s exactly what I did. Attached “A”, and submitted the application.

The website said my submission was successful and showed a preview of the whole thing, including a little icon of the photo I submitted. Instead of just my own eyes staring back at me in that photo, were my 2 oiled up “headlight”.

WTH HAVE I JUST DONE?!?!?!! I looked in the photo folder, and I had forgotten to delete the last photo I had named “A”, which just so happened to be a sexy photo from one of my old photoshoots. The one I meant to send had been saved as “A1”, without me noticing.

I found the direct email address to the manager (who was luckily female), apologized and told her how mortified I was. She responded the next morning saying something like “Oh don’t worry, it happens all the time. Come in anytime this week from 4-6pm for an audition”.

BS it happens all the time!!!!! And there was NO WAY in hell I could show my face there now. Guaranteed it had been shown to everyone that worked there. I decided to hold off on going back to work for the time being. That was definitely the most embarrassing thing I’ve ever done to myself in my life.

My current ITE Internship life is a living hell

HI, I currently work as a intern desktop engineer at NCS. My internship is for 1 whole year as I currently only worked for a fews months for this internship. My job is to everyday go to different MOE School to work as a IT Support when it being assigned to me by my project team admin. I had no issue about the work or what so ever and my performance, attitude is always great so I see no point on why I was given such bad rating and NCS attempt to terminate my internship.

The NCS Supervisor had gave me a very low performance rating to ITE after i sent several complaints or feedback about things I faced in my job when this school I being to for the day or a week is giving me very bad treatment and service. I always reqeusted to my supervisor as not to sent me to this MOE school again after I faced such treatment by the staff there as the NCS supervisor always approved the request. Now after NCS has sent the grading form back to ITE, my ITE liasion lecturer called me on the phone telling me about the feedback issue and NCS want to terminate me just because when I raise my voice to my supervisor several times. ITE told me to tell NCS to make me stay for the company for rest of the months left for this internship and I did make the request stating that I will be better in terms of the issue NCS pointed out.

My ITE liasion lecturer did talk to me on the phone telling me that I cannot change the internship company for else will make my graduation date a fews month later than the rest and stating the poor rating by NCS I had make me hard to change IA company. This ITE liasion lecturer just don’t think other IA company suits me based on his own ideals.

I was wondering on why I cannot change the internship company and NCS can anyhow attempt to terminate me for a fews issue I stated when I faced it during work. Those issue I stated during work is I myself asking for help and guidance on what to do cause of such bad treatment faced by this school today deployed to at.

I really hoped that if possible just changed my internship company so that I can have a better life and not everyday go to different place to work and dealing with different person to work instead. I just really want a internship job where I can have a place to call home as I no longer need to go different place to work daily and having to work with other people which I don’t know and to follow what their task give me to do at the location. I want a internship job where I had a fixed location to work at till end of the internship journey.

If you got pregnant from premarital S with a useless guy, you’re the one who’s at fault.

Here’s a fact : Woman are the ones making the final call on who she’ll sleep with. Not the man. So if you sleep with a useless guy, and got pregnant from it, that’s your own fault. “But the guy should take responsibility” , um, you made the choice to sleep with him, you made the choice to make him wear protection, and if he doesn’t, you made the choice to not take extra precaution like taking morning after pills, and you can always get abortion if needed. You. Not him. You.

So if you got pregnant, how about take some accountability instead of blaming the guy and asking the guy to step up. Stop going online and post some sad story about how you got pregnant and became a single mother cause really it’s your own fault. Own up, bitch.

Before any of you losers yapping about “but but but what if it’s from SA?”, no, I’m not talking about SA. Obviously if you got pregnant from SA, the assaulter needs to be tortured to death, and you deserve all the support from everyone.

Grow the F up.

Here are what netizens think:

• Your mother did not do her job well

• It’s true. I agree. But it’s also hard to protect yourself from honeyed words. They’d be super nice when trying to lure girl to bed, but change face when it’s done. So.

• I think you have anger management. Grow up as well.

• -I do kinda agree with OP cos we can only fend for ourselves. No one else does if such things happened. Then, my nxt question is, is OP the useless guy or is there a post i’ve missed? Pls advise. I need part 2.

• More than one party can be responsible

Advice please

Hi I need some advice, I bought my hdb prior meeting my husband and he owns a condo. Our family is expanding but both our hse are too small to accommodate 2 kids, we will need to upgrade 1 of it. Is it possible to sell my hdb and get another hdb under my own name without my husband having to dispose his pte condo? For financial reasons, it’s best to keep 2 hse and without having to pay absd.

Here are what netizens think:

• I think the best option is to sell your husband. 1. It solves the space issue. 2. You don’t have to sell any property. I hope I’ve solved your problems. Best of luck.

• Rent out both ur houses and rent a black white.

• Just rent a bigger place and collect rentals from existing two houses. Problem solved.

• Keep both n rent out. Then rent bigger house. Chance of divorce is 50/50 now. If that happen in future, each go back to own nest.

• No way. Unless u divorce settle ur flat. Then marry back

• Impossible. Hdb can check their system record how many flat you own as long as married couple. Cannot run away. Simple sell your condo, hdb n then buy 5 room hdb flat or landed property. Solve your problem

• Buy overseas properties. No ABSD. Places like Melbourne and Sydney tends to experience consistent growth of between 7 to 15% annually. For the same price, a property in Melbourne will be worth more in 10 yrs time, compared to SG. But… Unlike sg, You need to know what to buy and where to buy. Lots of Melbourne and Sydney apartments being sold overseas have poor growth.

• You will not be able to buy another HDB upon selling your current one since y’all are married. I can go into more details, feel free to PM me