My last 2 ex gfs did not want children. We broke up for completely unrelated reasons.

Today my current gf told me she might never want children.

I am amazed at the consistency of child preferences of women I date. Is it becoming more prevalant these days or is there some other reason for this pattern? Might I be attracting a certain sort of woman and why? My gf’s reason is her fear of having children will affect her career progression and her indignance about the unfairness that men do not have to give birth. My exes did not want children for fear of damaging their figure.

I am not opposed to not having children but my status quo is want to have children as I like them and that is also the usual path in life.

I understand the benefits of not having children but I am not completely convinced.

Here are what netizens think:

• Don’t waste each other’s time if this is something you cannot overlook. One of my friend who became a mom said she will not have anymore children and will stop at one. The world of today is unlike the past. Even though she has a supportive husband and family and she is able to work, she will not want to bring more children into this world. Covid, war, climate change etc. She thinks she has brought a human into this world to suffer. Even if domestic, finance, spousal support are not an issue, there may be other unforeseen concerns and reasons for not wanting a child.

• You can never force someone to be a parent if they never want to. There’s no need to justify why they never want kids. This is their personal choice. Since she made her stand clear, u might seriously want to consider whether to continue or end it in order not to waste each other’s time. If having kid is one of your requirement, u might want to make it clear first before even getting together in the first place.

• Just shoot inside la

• Raising a kid ain’t easy. I goes beyond just the financial aspect. I can bluntly say not enough Parents ever considered if they’d actually make good Parents, and raise their kids right by instilling them with proper values and morals which shapes them through life.

Is it ok for guys to ask to split a bill after the first date if the girl declines invitation for a second date? I have been on 3 dates so far online, where there was no second date.

None of those girls initiated to pay and its abit costly to pay for 6 portions of meal when nothing materialises. Personally i feel its abit weird to ask for split after cause i assumed girls would at least pay for their share if they have no intention of seeing the person again.

Appreciate some feedback and opinion here.

Here are what netizens think:

• Then go somewhere cheaper like food court or hawker next time? Buy your own food. No need to treat. Lol. Why must go restaurant?

• If you mind, pls ask to spilt at the first date, not when they reject the second date. However, asking to spilt on first date may not lead to second date. I suggest that you talk to the gals more and ascertain they are really keen before u ask them out. Else it would be costly if you adopt a “cast net” style and meet many gals at the same time, without knowing them better.

• Just invite for a coffee. Why is there a need to have a meal? If there’s nothing much to talk about , just cut the story cut and part ways. Honestly if u r not my cup of tea, I won’t even want to waste my time out to entertain you.

• LOL. I would suggest you to ask them to go dutch at the start and not when you see they aren’t gonna meet you then you ask for their share. That’s like going to the doctor’s and asking for a refund after a week has passed by cos you didn’t recover.

• real issue here is why they are not willing to go on a second date. It’s like if the girls are in for a free meal, why will the reject the possibility of another free meal?

I’m in my mid 30s…I often find myself feeling stuck in my career. I had high hopes of working my way up the corporate ladder, but the truth is that I haven’t made much progress.

I’m stuck in a job that I don’t particularly enjoy and I’m frustrated that I’m not moving up.

I have a Master’s degree, which I thought would be enough to help me get ahead, but it hasn’t made much of a difference. If anything, I feel like I’m stuck in the same place and I don’t know how to move forward. It’s been a real struggle trying to figure out how to advance my career.

I’ve been trying to figure out what I can do to increase my chances of success, but it’s been hard. I’ve looked into getting additional certifications, but I haven’t found any that are relevant to my field. I’ve also considered going back to school, but that would mean taking time away from my job, and I don’t think my employer would be too happy about that.

One of the biggest problems is that I don’t have much in the way of experience.

I have a good education, but I don’t have any practical experience in my field. I’ve been trying to find ways to gain experience, but it’s been a challenge. I’ve looked into volunteering, but most of the positions require a lot of time and I just don’t have the flexibility in my current job.

I’m also trying to build up my network. I understand the importance of having strong professional connections, but it’s been hard to meet new people in my field. I’ve tried going to events, but I always feel like an outsider and I don’t know how to break the ice.

I’m starting to feel discouraged, but I’m not giving up. I know that there must be a way for me to advance my career, and I’m determined to find it. I’m going to keep researching my options and networking as much as possible. I’m also going to look for ways to gain experience, even if it means taking a part-time job or volunteering in my free time.

I know that it’s going to take time and effort, but I’m committed to advancing my career. I’m confident that with the right plan and the right attitude, I can make it happen.

Note: I’m from a third-world country

My boss harassed me by forcefully tugging me to his groin and attempted to grope me.

It all started a few weeks ago when I noticed my girlfriend had grown a moustache. At first, I didn’t think much of it. Maybe she was just experimenting with her look or didn’t have the time to keep up with the waxing. But then it kept getting darker and darker, and I started to feel uncomfortable about it.

I didn’t want to hurt her feelings and I also didn’t want to make her feel self-conscious about her appearance.

But I knew I had to say something. After all, I care about her and want her to feel confident and beautiful in her own skin.

The first thing I did was talk to a few female friends. They told me that I should approach the topic delicately and make sure to explain why I’m bringing it up. I also asked them how they would feel if their significant other did the same thing.

Most of them said that they’d be embarrassed and would want their partner to bring it up in a gentle manner.

So I kind of drag it out lah, but she started to ask why am I not making out with her or even kissing her. I joke a bit la, eh if i want kiss Muthu I go find a muthu.

She got very angry

So, I decided to take their advice and talk to my girlfriend about her moustache. I made sure to tell her that I love her and find her attractive no matter what. I also explained that I care about her and want her to feel good about herself.

Then, I asked her if she wanted help getting rid of the moustache.

At first, she was hesitant to talk about it and seemed a bit embarrassed. But then she opened up and told me that she had been thinking about getting rid of it but wasn’t sure how to do it. I told her that I could help her out and offered to take her to the salon for waxing or laser hair removal.

The next day, we headed to the salon and got her moustache waxed off. She was a bit nervous at first but after the procedure was done, she couldn’t stop smiling. She was so relieved that it was gone and thanked me for helping her out.

I 30m have been with my fiancée for 5 years. I got with my fiancée when her daughter was a few months old. My fiancée’s ex barely was a part of her life.

I’m the only father she knows. I love her like my own.