My (32f) husband (36m) is really anti-body hair, I remember from years ago he stopped wanting to f me when he noticed body hair, I asked him about it and he said its a huge turn off.

Now I don’t really care about hair or no hair so I just did what he wanted me to do which was to shave.

Lately he has been really into growing a beard, he shows photos of random celebrities with beards and says how I feel about it.

For me I really don’t like beards no reason, basically just like his problem with body hair, I have problem with facial hair.

I asked him to please not grow it and shave what has been grown already. He denied saying that it’s his looks and he wants others to see his beard.

I told him this basically is like me shaving my body for him, he goes on to say how he is the only seeing parts of my body and that nobody will notice me being shaved other than him.

Which is untrue because I wear shorts a lot especially now and I play tennis with my friends, anyways that started a fight.

Well anyways i started not shaving my body after 3 days and I grow body hair fast I already haven’t shaved for 12/13? Days before the fight so i had a “beast legs” according to him.

He called me ugly and I said I find him ugly for growing his beard. He still stands by his word. Well he kept leaving comments about my body hair and I finally snapped after a while and called him “a man-child for caring about small issues, and that maybe he should go work instead of worrying” he still wouldn’t be able to hide his ogre face and now he is mad at me and won’t talk to me.

My husband (27M) seems to love to tell me at every opportunity (26F)that if we were to ever separate our child stays with him?

My husband (27m) and I (26f) have been together for 4 years and married for almost 2 months.

When we first had our baby last year we had got into an argument. Basically I was going through it emotionally after we had our baby and he didn’t really seem to care. I didn’t feel very supported by him at all and he often chose what my in laws wanted over my comfort.

Anyways he assumed I was planning on leaving him and taking our child with me which i was not. He took that opportunity to tell me our baby will be staying with him if I leave which broke me.

The next incident, my husband was talking moving overseas when he retires and I told him that i wasn’t interested in moving then he decided to tell me well our child will be going with him if he moves. I just stayed silent. Obviously if he were to retire our baby will be grown by then but whatever.

This leads me into yesterday. My husband does not want us to ever own animals where as I’m an animal lover. Ofc I know he doesn’t like animals so accepted that I may never own any ever again.

So he decided to joke about us getting a chihuahua and I played along and said sure basically. After I agreed with him he backed out and said no we’re not get a chihuahua.

I joked back and said I’d move then so that I could have a chihuahua. Again, just joking and nothing serious. He once again took the opportunity and said well our baby is staying with me. I fell silent.

Ever since our baby has been born I have never once said to him i was going to take her away from him. That’s not even in my thoughts as why would it be?

Idk but I’m starting to notice a pattern with him and it’s really starting to rub me the wrong way. Like he sees me as an enemy just waiting to take our child from him or something.

Also side note regarding our current baby, I take on most of the child rearing and he seems to like to pawn off his responsibility of her either on to me or his mom whenever he gets the chance. So the irony I guess?? Both of our families have noticed this about him also.. Thoughts?

I’m an older lady (62), this is how a 21 year old guy who was really “blessed” down there turned me into a cheap ho.

This happened a few weeks ago, In all my years of being in the business of pleasures (I was a prostitute for about 10 years) I have never experienced something like this… And I never thought I would, especially at my age!

I like to go out drinking from time to time, not too often as hangovers last me a couple days now (the joys of getting old). I’m a slightly odd looking woman, so I get a lot of attention.

For context, I am also blessed myself, with a couple of E cups, so I’m sure you can imagine what its like when a woman like me walks into the room. Sometimes I don’t get the best looks, but this particular night was not one of those nights.

Me and a few old friends were sat in the pub, when all of a sudden a group of guys walked in. They were clearly quite drunk, everyone had turned to look at them.

I felt a bit relieved since i knew some of the attention was off of me. That’s when I saw him, a short, but dark and handsome lad, he had a sweet face.

It reminded me of a few of my past lovers, but a lot younger of course. I did not expect this to happen, but the group of boys walked over and ended up sitting near by our table.

As they sat down next to us they were swearing quite a lot, and the dark haired guy kept telling them off and telling them to stop being disrespectful.

It gave my heart a lot of warmth to know the younger generation still had a few gentlemen. A few cocktails after this i was feeling kind of bold, I thought what the hell? I may as well strike up a conversation with him! What was the worst that could happen right?

He was a true gentlemen, but couldn’t help slipping in a few of those cheeky lines young men love to tease us older ladies with. I was finding it very difficult to resist his age, his eyes were so bright. They were captivating.

We talked throughout the whole night, he complimented me and said I looked lovely, and he did not look at my chest once, although they were staring him in the face & my nips had got pretty erect (the problems of being drunk and wanting to F at 62!!!!)

As the night was slowly getting later and later, me and my friends were deciding to go. I told the lad and he looked quite upset, like he wanted me to stay. I asked him what the matter was and he said he was hoping I’d have gone back with him, I asked about his parents, and he said they weren’t in…

A moment passed where i was quite confused. I thought he was making fun of me.

My friends looked at me and shrugged so I thought what the hell? What was the worst that could happen. It had been years since I had properly experienced a real man who could get a solid hard on.

So I stayed out with them, and shortly after my friends went, so did his, and it was just us two heading back to his.

He began to take my hand and lead me into the living room. For a moment we were just stood there, in silence, the anticipation was killing me.

There was fireworks going off in my stomach and down below, and i could not wait to have him inside of me. I could not stop thinking about taking off his pants, he seemed like he was huge.

I felt like I was about to lose my virginity for the first time again. He slowly started to kiss down my neck, I could feel myself getting wetter by the second, I wanted him so badly.

I let out moan and told him to get on with it and f me. I got a brief flashback from my younger years. I had been building this up for a while, I pushed him down, unzipped his trousers, and his huge D flopped out… It must have been AT LEAST 15 cm or more, like the size of a ruler.

I felt his warm shaft against my tongue and it was amazing. It tasted so nice in my mouth, where it belonged. His body was shaking as he grabbed the back of my head and began to f my face, slapping me round the face and telling me to suck more and more.

I couldnt take it anymore, it was amazing. He climbed on top of me and drilled me. My whole body felt electric and it was a complete sensory overload. He flipped me over, spanked me, called me a good girl and started to drill me from behind.

I screamed, I felt like a college girl again. I just wanted his hot sticky load inside of me. and there it was…. I felt it running through me, I gasped and collapsed in relief.

Soon after I thanked him for the experience, it had been so long. Even now he was being so kind, he helped me get dressed and showed me on my way, even getting a taxi for me. I still think about that handsome young man to this day.

My father’s mind has been hijacked by his hormones

My father found a new girlfriend not so long ago, and how he has changed is almost ridiculous. All that matters in his life now is just her. When I see him with her, he is just like a teenager that is high on some brain chemicals.

It seems an odd thing that so much time, energy and money is being spent just to fulfil a basic need. When you see people chasing after each other, ignoring everything else, it sometimes looks like complete madness.

I don’t have an issue with it like that. It just that as a spectator this looks like someone going mad. He is a completely different person, and that is okay.

But this is just so strange to see when it’s your father. He suddenly sacrifices all his time and energy just for her. And how sweet he suddenly is when she’s there.

I’m reminded of this quote by Sadhguru I saw:

“When you were a child, what reproductive organs someone had did not matter to you. But the moment hormones started playing within you, you cannot think of the world beyond that. Your whole intelligence has been completely hijacked by your hormones.”

Definitely his intelligence has been hijacked.

Netizens’ comments

1. Ugh. My mom is like this every time she dates someone new. It’s like Invasion of the Body Snatchers. She dates people for a long time then goes a long time without. But, she’s in her 60s and has the emotional maturity of a boy crazy teenager with raging hormones. I am so sorry. All I can do is commiserate.
2. I’ve seen this in my entire family. Every one of my siblings got into a relationship, and they immediately became withdrawn. I can see it in myself as well. The person you’re with becomes your primary focus and everything and everyone becomes secondary.
   I have a sister that got a boyfriend and immediately changed into a complete monster, who would lie, steal and destroy when before she was so kind, caring, compassionate and fun to be around.

I’m staying with my cheating boyfriend for the money.

I was so head over heels in love with my boyfriend. The type of relationship you see on TV and you just know neither of them would even consider another person, because they’re just so perfect together.

I was living alone and really struggling. I have a lot of debt from the last couple of years. I admit some of it was me being reckless, but the majority is just life hasn’t been kind to me. My parents died 6 months apart and I had to take loans out to pay for their funerals.

We had been discussing moving in together and I was thrilled because it was reaching a point where I’d pay off part of my credit card and then be charged interest, then I’d run out of money by the end of the month. I was spiralling.

He moved in and I was so happy. So in love. The bonus was that with my bills being halved I could finally pay off my debts.

Then I found out he’d cheated on me. Within a week of him moving in. My heart was shattered. I never, ever expected it or suspected a thing. I felt like a moron.

He begged, he cried, he assured me it would never happen again. I felt sick. I knew the relationship was ruined.

But I thought “my life is bad enough, now you’ve broken my heart, why should my life be even more f-ed up financially?”

I decided I’d “give him another chance” and “work on us”. I’ve made a plan with the extra money and I can pay off all my debt within a year.

I’m pretending to fix things, that things are improving, so I can finally be debt free then break his heart like he broke mine.

I’m so excited. I know it’s wrong.

But the alternative is I keep getting into debt until I can’t afford my place at all. Why should my life be turned upside down because he was an a-hole?

For those concerned, he will be using a condom when we do get intimate and I am on BC.

My boyfriend (26M) and I (27F) still haven’t slept with each other even after 8 years into the relationship. Is he still interested in me?

8 years into the relationship, we still havent gotten intimate or slept together at all. We are both virgins and very loyal to each other and very much love each other.

But im worried that he might be frustrated with our lack of intimacy by now and I would sometimes ask him if he would like to do “it”.

He would not answer and just continue to look at his phone. I also do the advancing because Im the one who has a strong libido than him and we only rub our parts together, without the penetration.

and everytime I know that he is really turned on hard, I would tease him to insert it into the hole but he would stop and say he felt something and he doesnt want to continue because he is scared that he might come in me.

I dont force him to insert it but I would suggest to buy condoms while we’re super turned on. but he doesnt want to.

Which left me feeling frustrated and felt like he was not interested in me or is he scared that I might get pregnant? I am overthinking?

Update:

Reasons : Im guessing he is not ready for a child. Ive tried to talk to him about getting birth control pills and condoms but he would lose interest right away.

Marriage : were not married yet

Yes we do give oral, but mostly just me. He doesnt like the idea of going down there. He doesnt like the feeling of something like a slimy texture ( even food ) We touch each other yes, and we tried drinking wine and set up the mood but we only ended up stopping because he was scared he might finish early.

Netizens’ comments

1. 8 years! What the actual f
2. Keep this up and another 8 more years will fly by.
3. You need to draw the line somewhere. In my opinion. It should have been 7 years and 10 months ago, but better late than never. Tell him you want to get laid, and if he’s not interested in that, then it’s time you both move on from this relationship
4. 8 years is a long time. Are there reasons? Marriage? Beliefs? Birth control and condoms are a step to not getting pregnant…. Do you both give each other oral? Have touched each other?
5. honestly my feeling is that if your bf isn’t showing a keen interest after 8 years maybe he isn’t into doing it with you for some reason. I’m not saying you are not attractive – I mean maybe he’s not into the whole thing generally or he has a completely different physical “type”. Or maybe there are aspects of his preferences he hasn’t fully explored. Is this causing you to feel undesirable? If yes, you may need to consider whether this is a good relationship for you. Another 8 years could fly by pretty quick

I just found out my husband got another woman pregnant and I’m relieved.

I can’t even believe I’m typing this out right now, but I just found out my husband got his “fling” pregnant and there is a big part of me that is glad to hear the news.

We have had a problematic relationship for a while, but our problems really started a month ago. I found out that he was talking to a female coworker and hiding it from me so when I confronted him, it originally was said to be a “little crush” that snowballed into us agreeing to take a break because we both needed time.

After establishing the break, I then find out that he actually slept with her but it was “only one time while I was drunk”.

Fast forward to now, where I find out that it was multiple times, everyone at his job knows about it and knew about it prior to the first issue so I’ve been left looking like a fool, and now she’s pregnant with what they think is his child.

I’ve known I wanted a divorce for a while because although I have my issues, his are much worse. And even through the rest of the bullshit I was thinking that we should give it one more try, go to counseling, do whatever we could to save the marriage.

But after this, I know that this needs to end now. And although I’m hurt by what he’s put me through this month, and quite frankly the majority of our relationship, I feel like a giant elephant has stepped off of my shoulders because now I know without a shadow of a doubt that this is going to END.

I will be by myself(besides our kid) but I will be free and happy, I won’t be anxious wondering what the mood is today and what I can say and do.

And if me chewing to loudly will send him into a rage. I can breath, and I would rather be struggling financially but feel at peace than be able to stay home and constantly be anxious.

He’s always going to be my best friend, and once we get through the divorce I’m excited to get to where we can just be really good friends and coparents together, but I never want to have to live in the same house as him again. And congratulations to both of them on the new baby

[F21] My Mum definitely thinks I’m a cheap ho now after what she just seen

I still live with my Mum and I had a boy over from a dating app, this was his second time over to “visit” me.

We both only use each other for physical activities only, and we both know it so he just comes over and we are usually just straight into it, but this time my Mum was in the house so it made things kind of difficult.

He was swcrewing me pretty hard and my door was locked, he had his hand over my mouth so that I couldn’t be too loud and let my Mum hear.

We finished and I instinctively got on my knees and let him finish all over my face, I usually had a box of tissues in my room to clean it off but the box was empty.

My split second idea was to run to the bathroom which was a few doors down from my room, so I did, and with a face full of come, my mum was already in the bathroom cleaning the mirrors, what were the chances!

I felt like such an idiot and she definitely saw it all.

This happened earlier this afternoon now I don’t know what to do.

Netizens’ comments

1. Just so you don’t worry too much, I am sure your Dad came on your mother’s face many, many times. Consider it a bonding moment.
2. It’s embarrassing of course but u will laugh at it later
   When u get coffee and someone mentione cream u will look at her or she will look at u . She knew what you were doing with him she’s not an idiot 
3. Hopefully it’ll just be a funny moment honestly
4. The smart move is to confess that you were alone a and safe and nothing got weird

What can my friend do? (Alleged unfair hiring practices)

Context:

My friend is currently working in the ** sector in a tech related role. So about 6 months ago, there was a top tech company that laid off their entire SG engineering team, they were known to be paying way above market rates for their hires.

The company that my friend works at decided to absorb about 60 (with varied seniority from associates to senior director level) of them, still offering them their old pay and even WITHOUT any interview (my friend say he hearsay only, so IDK if true anot), so this means that these special new hires are being paid about 20% more than what the others are getting.

Heard that they are all placed in a new department. In particular, someone with <6 months of experiences are paid like 20-30% more than their fellow fresh grads and even have a higher job grade than someone with 2-3 years of experience.

He also say that as they were hired in a hurry (hearsay to secure the top talents), there was no concrete plan or work for that team, so they were just bing chilling at work (once again is hearsay)

I feel that the friend should be upset at his management instead of those new hires as who will reject such an incredible offer, especially when you are jobless.

I also feel that there is some serious problems in their hiring process. In the MNC that I work for, when I want to change department, I have to go through the entire process of a new hiring and have obtained a certain minimum grade during performance review.

So my question is can anything be done as my friend felt it was unfair. Is there any platform for him to voice his grievances? Or he can only keyboard warrior, suck it up and go back to work on Monday?

I cannot reveal more details as my friend needs the job.