Crazy neighbour blasts his guitar on sundays around 9am, loud enough for the people on the opposite blocks to feel annoyed.

when asked to lower his volume, he scolds us back and says its 9am not 9pm, then proceeds to play even louder.

Think a police car happened to pass by and he went hysterical and went along the corridor shouting for who called the police and shouted vulgarities everywhere.

how do we deal with that idiot? can we call police on him for intimidation and harassment the next time he does this?

Netizens’ comments

1. Hello. Ur neighbour play guitar only every sun? How long does it been going on? I had been facing similar situation as u, but mine was blasting loud music everyday without fail.
   Sometimes in the late morning or evening time. For 2 hours….for me i reported to hdb yet still happening. My neighbour and me actually did call the police, but police reverted us back to hdb.
   Unless u call police, report as public nuisance. Maybe they will speak to him. To lower the music or something
2. Record video of him blasting music and gather evidence, then bring it to the police or town council and report him for noise pollution/harassment.
3. help him out, buy multiple green powerful laser pointers, and pass then around to the block opposite his. When he plays, start a light show by pointing the laser pointer into his room/unit. Coordinate with your neighbours and put up a show for the neighbourhood. This will give him the feel of a concert with laser lights. I’m sure he will appreciate it.
4. Please don’t do what the guy above is telling you to do.

I was hooking up with a guy and his toupee came off. Is there any salvaging this?

I m (27) was taking to this guy m(29) on an app for a few weeks, we met up for a drink, he came back to mine, all was going well.

We were hooking up and at one stage I got really into it and pulled on the back of (what I thought was) his real hair and the top of his hairline came unstuck.

He ran to my bathroom and locked himself in. I tried to talk him into coming out but eventually he just asked me to drop his clothes by the door so he could leave.

This was Saturday and he hasn’t responded since I text to ask if he was OK the morning after.

Is there anything I can say that would lessen his embarrassment? I feel like it was my mess up that lead to this and I don’t want to add to any insecurities, but I don’t know how to do that. Any advice would be appreciated.

To say I’m horrified is an understatement

Netizens’ comments

• He probably panicked. I wouldn’t put too much blame on the fellow.
• You handled it perfectly. You didnt make fun of him or anything. You asked him to talk to you about it and he fled like a child. Clearly it didnt seem like a big deal to you, so he has no reason to be embarrassed. Maybe losing his hair was a hit to his masculinity, but just let him know you liked him, the man, the person.
• Shave your own head to show support
• If you like him message him and ask him out again,tell him you like him and find him very attractive,tell him everyone has things they might not like about themselves but you like him as he is,asking him out again should be a compliment enough

Boyfriend lied about going to sleazy KTVs (advice needed!)

Boyfriend’s company has a history of visiting KTVs that offer hostessing services (i.e in his words girls pouring drinks, dancing, skimpy outfits in private rooms who accompany them the whole night)

He claimed that he was pressured to go and lied that he was at a work meeting but I found out afterwards.

Claims that nothing happened but nothing for me to verify, his words against mine. He does seem truly sorry but I think he was only sorry cos he got caught. If I didn’t catch him, he would have kept up the lies.

What would you do? Any bros that visited this type of KTVs before? What usually happens there?

Edit: Honesty I think I would understand if he told me beforehand, as his company usually have alcohol-involved parties/clubbing on a regular basis which I’m completely fine with. But it’s the part that he LIED & would have continued lying.

from my understanding a LOT of $$ was thrown, same girls stayed there whole night

Netizens’ comments

• Sounds like he’s just gonna keep doing it as long as he’s still working in that company, and you’re gonna continue to be not okay with it.
  Personally I wouldn’t be comfortable with a partner being in such places, I’d be thinking what kind of job is that and is it alright to change to some other company or work that doesn’t require such entertainment etc.
  I’m not the one with your partner and don’t know all the good things about him and stuff that you have gone through together etc. so you have to think for yourself about whether you can accept it and whether the good outweighs the bad or not. Probably gonna be a point of conflict each time it happens and stuff like these will accumulate over the years.
• Let me guess, your boyfriend is working as in insurance agent, isn’t he?
• If his job involves going to such places to entertain clients etc… you either have to accept or break up or unless he’s willing to change his job. Sleazy KTVs are sleazy for a reason. It don’t stop at just seeing the chiobu dance only.

NS is not honourable, it’s an exploitation

To all NSFs, regardless of rank, vocation or PES statuses:

I believe that NS is forced upon most of us, with the herd mentality that it is our responsibility to fight and defend our own country. People think that NS is acceptable, and that there is no other way around it.

The vast majority of us have to spend 2 years in an inefficient organisation, forced to work long hours and expected to uphold professionalism, yet being paid peanuts and ill-treated by some. It is really fked up that some people think this is honourable, that your son might possibly be dealing with selfish, incompetent superiors who only care about their own career progressions, or even more f-up ones who just like to play rank.

While some of us may have more positive experiences with NS, it does not defeat the fact that 2 years of your freedom was taken away from you.

Though in the view of collectivists, such sacrifices are necessary as they contribute to national defence, and that we should place the safety of our homeland before ourselves. But is it wrong to be selfish and place yourself over defending the nation? Should we be given a ‘No’ option to conscription?

Though it may not be a popular belief, but I feel that using the concept of glory/honour/collectism/moral values to force an individual to submit himself/herself to do something more than what they’re compensated for, is called exploitation.

Why must I do something outside of my job scope, my comfort zone, or my payscale just to benefit the majority? Unless you are a really righteous and noble kind of a person, else there is completely no point as to do things that do not benefit yourself.

Teachers, nurses and social workers for example are overworked professions that do not receive a proportional pay grade. Being forced to deal with long hours of shift and stress, can cause damage to both the mind and the body. Stop baiting individuals from taking up these professions with moral education. Instead, allocate more resources and compensation in exchange for the stress and hours of work they are made to deal with. Instead of using moral education to seal the pay gap.

Likewise, while national service cannot be measured in dollars and cents, it does not justify the fact that we’re paid close to 1/3 of a part time starting pay.

Also, push out more policies to protect our welfare. Why should order-in and nights out be a privilege, rather than an entitlement? Why must I eat at cookhouse if I am willing to pay for canteen food? Why am I paying the government for transportation, if I am travelling to serve my nation? Why must I do a regular’s work when I’m paid maybe 1/5 of him/her?

Though it is easier said than done, but please give all NSFs a proper, justified treatment. It is not unreasonable, but rather be fair to at least compensate us for the service we provide to the nation.

Netizens’ comments

1. Eh just shut the f up and finish your NS lah, you are not the only one who has to serve, just diam diam finish it and move on with life, no need to kpkb so much.
2. Hi OP, I understand your frustration. Im like you.
   Im now a NSMan. With 7 more reservists and just turned 31 this year unmarried, its really a waste of time.
   Im a cleaner and frankly speaking, no one cares about your NS in the CV world.
   You just do the bare minimum and just listen to your commanders. Don’t give attitude to them. Just serve and f off.
   Also, the world is really really competitive due to SG influx of foreign talents.
   The older you are, the less likely you be employed at your preferred profession because having reservist too is an obstacle to own career profession.
   NSF should be paid minimum 1-2k. Because basic needs such as transport fee and food risen higher due to GST, inflation.
   Then you’ve to think about your future, how about your marriage, whether you want to have children, aging parents. All of these cost money.
   In order to have money, you need time to earn. But with 2 years gone in the wind, you’ve to double up your effort to earn more by even work on weekends immediately after ORD besides full-time studying. Don’t wait, trust me.
3. Unpopular opinion : we need NS. Please don’t assume our neighbours are friendly.

I was in a relationship with my girlfriend and we had been together for several months.

We were both happy and things were going great. But there was a certain truth which I was hiding from her.

Don’t allow her to take taxi because I watched too much ‘fake’ taxi

Whenever my girlfriend wanted to go somewhere, I would insist that she walks or taking public transportation instead of taking a taxi.

At first, she thought that I was trying to ask her to save money but the truth was, I was worried about something else entirely.

You see, I had been watching a lot of ‘fake taxi’ and for those of you who don’t know, ‘fake taxi’ is a type of adult entertainment where the woman is picked up in a taxi and then seduced or coerced into doing it with the driver.

I knew it was wrong and I felt guilty about it, but I couldn’t help myself. I was addicted and I couldn’t stop watching.

So when my girlfriend wanted to take a taxi, I was worried that something like what I had seen in the show could happen to her.

I was afraid that the driver would be a predator or that she could be taken advantage of in some other way.

I didn’t want anything bad to happen to her, so I insisted that she not take a taxi.

Frustrated my gf afterwards

My girlfriend was frustrated after a while. She didn’t understand why I was being so unreasonable insisting that she not take a taxi.

We had a lot of arguments about it and it put a strain on our relationship.

Told her the truth

After a few months, I finally decided to tell her the truth.

I explained to her my addiction to ‘fake taxi’ and how it was making me paranoid about her taking a taxi.

I told her that I was sorry for not being honest and that I would do my best to get over my addiction. She was understanding and supportive, which was exactly what I needed.

Since then, I have been trying to overcome my addiction and I am proud to say that I have made a lot of progress.

I now try to focus on other things and I have limited the amount of time I spend watching adult films.

I also make sure to talk to my girlfriend about any concerns I may have and I try to be more reasonable when it comes to her taking a taxi.

It has been a difficult process but I am glad that I was honest with my girlfriend. I still have a long way to go in overcoming my addiction, but I am confident that I can do it.

I will continue to be careful and make sure that my girlfriend is safe, no matter how she chooses to get around.

Anyone here chased a girl then during dating phase realize she’s not suitable?

This was what happened to the guy

For example you see a girl look innocent guai guai type, you chase her and bring her out for many dates, but after talking with her and observing her mannerisms and her thoughts, you realize that she’s actually not as innocent and guai as you thought.

Maybe even quite evil or arrogant type.

In the end, you decide to stop pursuing her already, even though you were also the one that initiated in the first place.

Here are what netizens think

• always happens after secks but I never even get secks, realize the girl is a b- that denies me any physical intimacy
• Isn’t this what is the dating phase for?
• Don’t tell me you also drive her around like ah mad and treat her to atas meal? 
• there is no purely innocent ppl on earth. everyone has more or less evil thoughts de.
• Attract girls with 200k and expect them to be innocent. Win liao loh!
• Yep. After first meet up, show me half ball. After a few beers, I wanted to go toilet to release. She said accompany me. Shocked when she went in to the gents and use the urinal too.. Straight away told her not suitable.
• This is very normal. Too many people put on a fake facade at the first few dates.
• Their true colours will only be shown after a period of time. Just get out amicably as quickly as possible when you realise that she is not compatible.
• dont give up, every date you go makes you better and more successful on your next one.