Girlfriend [24F] lied to me [24M] about her history

I’m pretty crushed. I was playing a card game with my SO of 1 year and one card involved going through the other players phone notes. I found something that I was never meant to see.

She’s been keeping a list of all of the people she’s slept with, rating them on their bedroom game, list of people she’s dated, list of her crushes, tons of objectifying and crushing stuff to see. It was much more than she made it out to be too (she lied to me).

When I told her about it she insisted she meant to delete it even though it was fully updated. She insisted she wasn’t lying about things that were right in front of me.

She tried to delude me that what we have is special by lying about how many people she’s dated intimately and how far those went.

If she had told me to begin with it would have been easier. She’s actively compared me to exes and past lovers and I feel totally insignificant in the relationship at the moment.

I feel like this is so fake and that she’s hiding from something and projecting her conquests at me when intercourse is clearly just a game to her.

How do people get over this type of thing? I need advice on how to handle this between us because it’s changed how I look at her. I don’t want to sleep with her anymore. I would especially value if someone’s been here or made lists like this before.

I get turned on by smells that are typically not pleasant

I guess it has to do with pheromones but things like sweaty armpits, or the smell of someone’s genitals. Sometimes body odors.

I read someone where that things like armpit hair, pubic hair, and beards have scent glands for pheromones but it doesn’t make me feel less weird.

I know I like my own smell. My armpits or genitals. I’ll often just take a sniff.

I also just really love bushes partly for that reason.

I do have my limits though.

I know I like the smell of things because of what it reminds me of. Smell being a big part of our memory.

There have been times I enjoyed the smell of my ex’s pillow. His underwear. His socks. His feet. His shoes that he wore all day. This wouldn’t just apply to her but other partners too.

To a degree it’s comforting. On another it’s arousing.

It’s gross I know. Especially how primal it is.

I don’t know how to keep up with my gf

My entire life I’ve been the HL partner. I enjoy getting down and dirty at least once a day.

My new relationship spans a year and a half.

She enjoys doing it every 3-4 hours, and each session lasts 30-60 mins. I’m starting to have problems keeping it up which hasn’t ever been an issue before.

I enjoy pleaser and I’m willing to use toys or give her oral every time but the issue is that she always wants to be penetrated by me physically.

I love her more than any other partner and she’s the most affectionate and giving partner I’ve ever been with.

She never had enjoyable intercourse until me. Do you think this level of desire is going to slow down?

I would rather go down on her so I can give my soldier time to recuperate but she’s just extremely into penetration right now.

At a certain age, you need to grow up.

You know how society dictates that at a certain age, you need to achieve certain things? Like for example by 22+ you should have finish study, at 25+ you need to get married, at 30+ you need to buy a house, etc

(I know it’s not accurate but yeah you know what I mean).

Well, I don’t believe in achieving things like that on certain age. Just take your time.

However, I believe that everyone should be emotionally and mentally mature by at least 25 years old. All those immature mentality you have since school time should be gone by then. All those drama you purposely get yourself involved, you should leave it at once by then.

25 years old is a good time to start thinking about the future, and only take things and do things that matters to you.

I don’t care enough if you buy a car, a house, get married, finish your study by 35+. But if by 35+ you still have the mentality of a 15-20 year old, then to me you’re a sore loser that will not get anywhere in life

Worse when you have kids and then they need to tolerate an “adult” who just doesn’t grow up at all.

If you reach the age of 60+ or more and still view life the same way as when you were 20+, then I’ll tell you this, aside from physical age, you just didn’t grow up at all and you wasted your life.

Here are what netizens think:

• Yeap and actually for most men we only peak in our lives after we reach 35-40 years old that is when a man’s life starts. Until then most of us have to go through so much shit. Unstable no money no house can’t support yourself etc.etc.. But for girls it is different from 18 to 30 is their peak years they club party fk around enjoy their lives then once 30 plus find a nice stable guy to settle down but that is when the guys life starts to peak at 35 plus. So best to stay single and wait for good opportunities in the future.

• Everyone is different. U cant expect all guys to have the same mentallity or as same as women. Some women prefer men who have both mature n a bit of childishness. And all love a different life, its just individual personal preference. Not nice to call them a sore loser also, even if u live a better life. If u want respect, dont look down on people

• N when ur 60 n still so judgmental about others. N how they live their life , I think u just wasted ur life bothering about others when nobody cares

How do I tell my boyfriend I want him to call me “Mama” in bed?

Before everyone gets up in arms, I don’t mean in a weird way. And I don’t mean he has to do it all the time, just sometimes is what I’ve been fantasizing about.

My boyfriend introduced me to calling him Daddy and him calling me baby girl (not age play, just light dom/sub stuff) and I love it, totally enjoy it.

Then one time long ago a fantasy suddenly popped into my mind of him calling me “Mama” in bed, like, “Yeah, Mama” and OMG, I find it so hot.

When I pleasure myself, I get off to him being the submissive one and him calling me “Mama”, just an inversion of what we do now, but I have no clue how to introduce this to him because

1) what if he thinks I’m a weirdo and
2) what if he has no interest in being submissive?

I could mentally see him doing it, but I could be totally off.

For example: One fantasy that’s been driving me wild is where every act I normally just give to him, but when he wants to “hit it from the back”, he has to earn.

And once he makes me edge, he gets my behind, and while banging me he says “Thank you, mama.” And other things like that.