Would you go for a surgery with 10% success rate?

Context is a friend with spinal injuries.

If they don’t go for the surgery, they will be in constant pain for the next 2-10 years (doctor’s estimation of remaining lifespan)

If they opt for surgery, there’s a 10% success rate and failure means being wheelchair bound/crippled for life or death. A full recovery considering surgery is successful would take another 10 years.

Would like to get more perspectives on this!

Edit: Just to clarify, due to an accident, bones are currently inching their way into my friend’s spinal nerves. It will eventually paralyze and/or kill them without the surgery, and pain medications & injections are temporary measures. Hope this clarifies!

Netizens’ comments

1. Very sorry to hear that. Both options tbh sucks but able to share out of /10 the pain your friend is feeling? And it’s a constant pain?
   • (OP) Yeah its a really shitty situation. From what I know, it is constant and feels like your bones are breaking every moment. Only medication and injections would help slightly
2. Can’t say, but if it were me, considering the poor quality of life even if I can live on for the next 2-10 years sucks, I’ll just gamble.
3. Personally I would opt for the surgery. Being wheelbound but no/little pain is better than being able to walk+tortured by your back for your remaining time here.
4. Basically, the question should be: go for a surgery that has a 10% chance of solving the issue but a 90% chance of making it worse, or wait until it inevitably worsens by itself?
   I’d say take the 10% chances. It’s much better than the alternative, which is a recovery probability of 0% and just spend a few more years in pain with no solution afterwards.

My boyfriend [31M] wants me [21F] back

My boyfriend and I broke up a while back. The main reason we broke up is that he would borrow money from me and not pay me back.

He would emotionally blackmail me into giving him money. I would then give him money while I would stave and go to bed hungry. I was stupid I know.

He now says he truly loved me. I don’t know. I loved him too but I’m too hurt to go through that again.

He sent me this text: “But don’t worry this year its all on me. I’ll be taking care of you. Each and every month you will have your own allowance which I will be giving you.” I don’t know what to say to him.

Should I leave him for good?

Netizens’ comments

• Yes, you should absolutely leave him for good. Block him and never look back.
• You don’t respond. You block his number and all social media and move on with your life. He is just feeding you lies to get you to come back.
• Sweetie. Internet mom here. Allowance? Wow. That’s an issue in itself. Pretend a friend is asking you if you think they should get back together with someone who broke financial promises and emotionally blackmailed you. Okay. That’s your answer. Don’t waste your 20s on this guy. Just don’t.
• Not only should you leave him for good, you should block him from every form of contact. And you don’t have to say ANYTHING to him – all you have to do is block, block, and block. Because what he did to you is not love. At all.

Advice for a teacher

Dear teachers, I am feeling terribly overwhelmed ever since school started. My stress levels have gone up immensely and I feel emotionally burnt out.

I’m struggling with drawing a line between work and my personal life.

At times I find myself taking things that has happened in class personally, I start to get upset and angry, feeling offended even when I am back home. It’s truly as if I’m on an emotionally roller coaster the whole week. It’s exhausting.. and there’s still admin work, marking, CCA, departmental work etc.

Once I reach home, I’m extremely tired.. by 10 pm I’m asleep, next day 5 am I’m awake and the crazy day begins. Dear teachers.. any advice?

Here are what netizens think:

• Jiayou. Was an ex educator. I feel you. Try to take small breaks n celebrate small success. Don’t blame urself for everything which go wrong. Self care is not selfish but necessary. CNY break is coming. Hang in there!

• Not an educator but i know working in high pressure setting can take a toll on yourself. Celebrate little things and be around positive people. Also find someone with a listening ear who you can download all the frustrations.

• Every job has its difficulties. Being a teacher is tough with a lot to handle. Jiayou!

• I used to feel the same way as you. Until I met my tutors! Now I am not feeling this way but happy everyday and looking forward to lessons!

• I left the service and never felt better.

I’m a married man with two beautiful children. I love my family dearly and would do anything for them. But my life has been turned upside down by a mistake I made almost a year ago.

It all started when I was on a business trip in Johor Bahru, Malaysia. I was there for a few days and had some free time so I decided to take a walk around the city and explore.

I stumbled across a lovely café bar and decided to take a seat and enjoy the view.

That’s when I saw her. A beautiful woman sitting alone at the table next to me. We got to talking and I eventually found out that her name was Mai and she was from Vietnam. We started chatting regularly and eventually, our conversations grew more intimate.

One night, I decided to take a walk with Mai and things got heated. We ended up spending the night together and while I’d like to think that it was a mistake, I can’t deny the truth.

Weeks after, Mai started to feel sick and she eventually found out that she was pregnant. I was in shock and I knew that I had to tell my wife. But I was too scared to do it.

So I decided to keep it a secret. I started sending money to Mai every month and I made sure she had everything she needed to take care of our child. I also made sure that my wife didn’t suspect anything by lying to her about where the money was going.

But I knew that I couldn’t keep this up forever. I eventually decided to tell my wife the truth, but right at the moment where I am going to open my mouth I kept quiet again.

Now, I have two families that I need to care for. I’m sending money to both my wife and Mai to make sure that they are taken care of. It’s hard to keep up with both and it’s a struggle to provide for two families in secret.

I’m not sure what the future holds for me but I’m doing my best to make sure that both my families are taken care of. I’m still scared of what will happen if my secret is revealed but I’m doing my best to ensure that everything works out.

I’m sure that many people out there can relate to my situation and I just want to say that I’m not alone. We all make mistakes and it’s important to learn from them and move forward. No matter what the situation is, it’s never too late to make things right.

My wife was pregnant with our first child, I was so excited and couldn’t wait to meet our baby.

I was sitting on the couch, watching TV with my wife when I noticed her ‘nehneh’ were bigger than usual.

She is someone with a petite ‘nehneh’ size and to be honest it was not that attractive to me because i’m kind of a ‘nehneh’ guy.

As she got up to go to the kitchen, I couldn’t help but notice how huge and round her ‘nehneh’ were.

I couldn’t help myself, so I reached out and squeezed her ‘nehneh’. She was taken aback at first, but then she smiled and told me that it was okay.

She said that she loved when I touched her like that and that it made her feel special.

Ever since then, I have been squeezing her ‘nehneh’ every day. I love how soft and warm they are, and I love how they feel in my hands.

I love looking at my wife’s ‘nehneh’, and I can’t help but feel ‘hard’ every time I touch them.

I know that when the baby is born, my wife’s ‘nehneh’ may not be as big and nice as they are now.

I know that they might ‘deflate’ back to their original size and shape, which is much smaller and not so nice to squeeze and that makes me a bit sad.

I know of some people who naturally manage to keep their ‘nehneh’ size even after giving birth but I’m not sure if my life would be so lucky.

With this thought, I decided not to take a chance but instead decided that I want to squeeze my wife’s ‘nehneh’ every day, so that I can remember how big and beautiful they were when she was pregnant.

There is a story going around on social media on how a PRC lady got 20 guys to buy her an iPhone each and thereafter she took it all to sell and buy a house.

I have to say that I had actually done something similar before just that the money that I took back definitely cannot buy me a house in Singapore.

Below is my story.

I had been out with my friends and was looking forward to an enjoyable evening.

I had been out with my girls and we had been chatting about how some of us were being courted by multiple guys.

I had been seeing ten different guys and they each seemed to be vying for my attention.

I enjoyed the attention pretty much from all ten of them.

While chatting, one of my friends suggested that I make the ten guys who were wooing me buy me an iPhone each.

The idea seemed far-fetched and I was hesitant at first.

But then I thought, why not? After all, it was a great way to make some extra money and my friends egged me on and said that I could do it.

I told the ten guys that if they wanted to continue to court me, they had to buy me an iPhone. To my surprise, they all agreed and within a few days, I had ten brand new iPhones.

Once I had all the phones, I took all of them and decided to sell it all away. I went to a few local stores and was able to get a great deal on all ten phones.

When it was all said and done, I made a decent amount of money.

The whole experience was surreal and I still can’t believe that I actually did it. I can honestly say that I never thought I’d be able to make ten guys buy me an iPhone and then turn around and sell them all for a profit.