What’s with people rushing into trains when doors are closing?

Seriously though… What are the chances? On my train journey today I encountered 2 such instances back-to-back… so it got me thinking why some people do this?

First one was a family rushing to get into the train. They didn’t manage to all get in at first and someone got caught. The door reopened and the train was delayed by 1+min. Just… why? Is waiting 5min for the next train too long for u to risk getting u or ur kids caught by the door?

Second one was an auntie pulling a trolley and rushing to get into the train. The doors were already half closed and it was pretty clear that she couldn’t board in time. She didn’t even attempt to rush in… Still… She insisted, tried to just stroll in (almost nonchalantly), and managed to get her arm caught at the door. She did not even seem surprised so I think that she did this multiple times before. The door reopened and she simply walked in. She didn’t look like she was in a hurry so she could’ve just waited…

There was also that viral ‘life hack’ on tiktok that suggested ppl do just their arms to jam the door open so they can board the train… which is just plain stupid, dangerous and selfish

I simply don’t get why people risk getting caught by the train door and why they can’t simply wait a few more minutes for the next train. They managed to save themselves a few minutes by delayed everyone else on the train and those waiting further down the line so collectively wasted hundreds/thousands of minutes of everyone else’s time.

Feel free to share ur experiences… This seems to be getting more common nowadays… or maybe its just my confirmation bias and me noticing it happening more often after that tiktok

Should I shoot my shot w my Ex’s bestf?

So.. when I joined Poly i got together with my (now ex) boyfriend and i started hanging out with his small group of male friends (we are all classmates).

In this clique, there’s this guy that really stood out to me, which i did not really mingle with before all of this. We are of the same wavelength and i feel that we have a lot of chemistry. He always tells silly jokes and i will always laugh the loudest and longest (him too) and whenever he makes such jokes, we always maintain eye contact.

Anyways, my then boyfriend also felt that we had alot in common and is always on the same page and chemistry. He’s a really nice guy and I’ve met his family a few times as well.

After grad, my boyf and I broke up. I didn’t think much about this friend until we met up as a clique again.

Before that, when I was online shopping I saw this bag i really liked but it was out of stock. When I met up with the clique again, he gave me the bag. And i was so shocked!!! And i told him how much i tried to get the bag, and he said it was sold out because he went down to the store and got the last one. And in the end the bag came into my arms :”)

It made me think alot more and wonder if i should shoot my shot with him. I feel that it’s a waste if i let go of our chemistry and all just because he’s my ex’s best friend. However, part of me knows that he takes his friendships seriously and may reject me just because of the bro code.

Should i still try?

Here are what netizens think:

• If both of you are ready to lose the trust of those that you hang out with, then please go ahead. It’s not advisable to date your ex’s friends, especially if there’s common friends around.

• Do it lol! If he bought you the exact bag you were eyeing, he’s basically shouting he’s open and interested. He wont make the first move (bcos of bro code) but if you approach him will probably get a positive response.

• No harm trying instead of regret later on. Anyway hope your ex support you or it may be an obstacle to advance.

My husband spit in my plate after I refused to share it with him.

I need to vent without being judged.

Last night, I made dinner and served my husband his portion then went into the room to study for my upcoming exam.

I reheated my portion later at around 11pm and sat down to eat. My husband was asleep at the time then he woke up, showed up in the kitchen and stood by the door saying he was hungry.

I told him to look in the fridge for some snacks but he wanted some of my food. I said I was sorry but was so hungry and needed a hot meal.

He insisted, I still said no. He went ahead and grabbed a spoon and tried to eat from my plate but I took it away just in time.

Immediately and without any warning, he spits in to the plate then throws the spoon in the sink then casually walk out while calling me a petty b***h.

I was so shocked to the point of shaking. and because of being overwhelmed with studying and other issues I just broke down crying.

now that plate was filled with both his spit and my tears. I ended up throwing it out and started a screaming match with him. He accused me of being petty and selfish then said I “pushed him” to do this.

We have not been speaking since then. He’s acting like he was justified in what he did.

Are men are born to provide?

To the guy who has no ambition.

I don’t blame you for thinking like this. Your upbringing plus your family background probably led you to think it’s easier to give up on life and be on your own. I have many friends who are also like you, myself included. They took the easy way out and chose to stay single for life.

But is it truly the easy way?

You are not career driven or ambitious is likely you do not have the means or ability to do better than your peers in terms of career advancement and income. Let’s be frank here. If you’re earning 15k, 20k a month, you won’t be whining here.

Its easy to say something doesn’t interest you. But the true reason is that it’s something you can never attain. Beneath your fake confidence and nonchalant persona, your low self-esteem is showing. Only someone who thinks they have nothing to look forward to will have no drive or goals in life.

You complain about being in the rat race because you are at the bottom tier and have already given up being better.

Women are not hard to understand.

They want someone who is willing to work together with them for a better future together. You cannot expect a woman to give you her time, body, mind and money while you act like a manchild preaching about them being a feminist.

Do you even know what you’re talking about?

A man who loves a woman will want to provide for her. Either you haven’t met one that you’re willing to spend on or you’re just too selfish.

Then you try to give advice to men on how to be dishonest and disguise their manchild mentality in order to trick a woman into starting a relationship with you. You may be able to trick one or two. How long do you think it’s going to last the moment they know your true intention? Men like you are the reason why some women look down on us.

I’m not married but at the very least I’m honest about my intentions when I’m dating women. When I just want a fling or romantic trip with no strings attached, I am upfront. Short of being a sugar daddy I haven’t had much issues with women who are out for a good time like me. I did have one serious relationship in the past and I have come to the realization that I do not want to start a family. So I will move on quickly if a woman wants what I do not want.

You can’t have companionship without doing the work. Period.

Me (24F) and my bf (22m) have been together for almost a year now. When we got together, he told me that he was a virgin, which is totally fine with me. I told him, I wasn’t. That was the end of the conversation for a while.

But whenever I mention an ex, or someone I used to sleep with, he gets uncomfertable and doesn’t want to hear that. He has told me, he doesn’t like hearing about my body count, and I respect that.

Here is the thing thats been bothering me, the topic of past relations came up, and he asked me with how many men I’ve been with, before him. I said, around 5 or 6. And he was kind of relieved. I asked why, and he said that if it was more than 10 men, he would reconsider our relationship, because it mattered to him with how many men I’ve slept, before I even knew him. And he was going on, how there were studies showing that most men, thought the same. And how men were very territorial, and he then explained it to me, by using the used car analogy…

(If a car is being passed down from owner to owner, you wouldn’t want to have it anymore, because you dont know where its been and its been used so much.)

I was speechless and couldnt help but laugh akwardly.

I talked about it with some of my guy friends, and they were equally confused. Truth be told, those friends do not really like him, for his political views.

I have not talked about it again with my bf, Im not scared that he will get angry, but I am scared that this will cause a rift between us. I dont want to lose him, he is a very sweet and caring man. And I love him very much… Another reason why I havent talked to him about this yet, is we only see each other on the weekends. We call on Discord, but Id rather have this conversation face to face.

I dont know what will happen, and Im a bit scared…

A relationship before marriage is like testing whether he/she is suitable for you.

Firstly there must be some sort of admiration, gradually love, while you get to know more on the characters and behaviors of the partner.

Marriage is not merely an agreement signing ceremony, careful observations must be carried out during a relationship to prevent future regrets.

During this, both must agree on their goals, earning potential, spending behaviours, living attitudes, what they wanna be after marriage and how much they earn to support the family, their family relatives, etc.

Be realistic

love is also practical after the infatuation phase.

Girls, pls wake up from having high expectation that your partner would be able to pay for 50% of your expenses, most likely they don’t.

But most of the time, all of you girls’ savings will go into the housing and renovation, leaving you with almost nothing to spend for yourselves. Worse still, when you have kids, you need to juggle most house chores in addition to your full-time job.

Do not expect that your husband will be understanding, most will not and will just indulge in their side hobbies after work and leave you to struggle alone.

Yes, most guys hate it when it comes to doing housework and taking care of kids especially if they are very career-minded and do not have much patience for kids. They will just dump everything to you and expect you not to complain about it.

These kind of guys are not worthy of your love even though you might love him deeply, because eventually you will choose to leave him due to being physically and mentally exhausted. You also have to be mentally prepared for any potential nasty treatments from his family, if you are lucky enough it would just be minor nit-picking here and there, and if you are unlucky, the guys family will expect to spend your money as well.

Girls, do not go after guys who expect you to be the one contributing all the time, it is not gonna work if they choose to be just a 花盆.

Find the right guy who will not bring you trouble.

I (26F) have been dating Max (25M) for 4 months. When I was 22, I had a nose job as I broke my nose twice as a kid and it left it with a large bump. Then, at 23, I had a breast augmentation that bumped me up two cup sizes. These were life long insecurities that I was insecure over, and it was really relieving to get them done.

Onto the present, I met Max through a friend and things have been great. Last night, I was strolling through my social media while on the sofa with him. I stopped on an old classmates vacation photo, where she wore a bikini and frankly, had very obvious implants (she looks great, happy for her! But you can tell.)

Max glanced over at that moment and said “Gross.” I asked him what the deal was, and he said women who get implants or other surgeries are a huge turn off to most guys, and how men prefer natural over two balloons and how insecure she looks.

I couldn’t help but laugh and said “So you’re turned off by me?”

He got very confused and asked what I meant, I informed him I had procedures done before. He kept denying it and saying I was joking until I showed him old photos of me.

He got quiet and left shortly after. I got a text saying I should’ve disclosed this on the first date, how I led him on and that he needs to reconsider things.

It’s the next day. Haven’t heard anything, I’m bewildered.

Wife confessed she baby trapped me
Me(29M) and my wife(31F) met 3 years ago and started dating a little over 2.5 years ago. About a year in, she became pregnant with our son and we decided to get married live together as a family. Honestly, it has been great and I am truly happy that I have a family and we’ve even been considering having another kid.

Last night after putting my son down, my wife and I were in the kitchen. She looked a little uneasy and out of nowhere she just broke down crying. I got her to calm down and she confessed that she got pregnant on purpose in hopes that I would stay with her. It was a huge shock to me but didn’t pay much attention to it as my wife wasn’t in a good state. She said that she couldn’t live with the guilt anymore and begged me not to leave her. I told her everything was going to be ok and sent her to bed to get some sleep. I pretty much stayed up all night driving myself insanse with what went down.

The thing is, I really do love my wife, my son and the way my life is going. And tbh, I really did see myself in this life, albeit a couple years down the line. On top of that, she really didn’t stand much to gain having me around as she came from a wealthy background and myself being middle class. In fact, it was her dad who paid off the house and helped financially even though I was able to.

I’m just really conflicted with her confession. Why wait so long? Is she having second thoughts? Can I even trust her? etc. Any help would be great here guys.

So my brother in law moved in with us last year in July. Our agreement was to allow him to live here for a couple months so he could save to get his own place.

Not only has it been over a year but he is kinda inconsiderate. He eats everything, doesn’t clean, doesn’t contribute any money(so he could “save”).

He also smokes in the house which was allowed when he first moved in but then I got pregnant so we sat him down and said hey no more smoking inside.

Anyway back to the point. My husband asked him how much he had saved so that he could help pitch in if needed because we live in a 2 bed room and babies take up space.

He refuses to tell him what he has saved and anytime we try to show him apartments or homes for rent he brushes it off.

I got fed up yesterday because 2 whole bags of pizza rolls were gone that I bought that day.

I may have done it out of anger but I told him he had till the end of the year to find a place and move out. My husband is on my side but his family is telling me I’m being rude and that we invited him into our home we can’t just kick him out because we had a kid.

Edit Just to clear things up. Yes he is an adult and he has a job. My daughter was born this October which is why my husband and I really are putting our foot down.