Burnt out and need a bloody vacation

Little info about myself, this month marks my 8 months since enlisting. I’m currently less than a month away from finishing my SCS course and passing out as 3rd sergeant.

As the title suggests I am so burnt out and in desperate need of time off. Dont get me wrong NS hasnt been all that bad.

Only reason I have pushed through crappy outfields, boring lessons, never-ending live firings only because of the section mates I was blessed with

But I am so burnt out. Waking up everyday without purpose and motivation knowing that I still have a year and a half left of this hell has led me to feel extremely burnt out.

I indicated interest in SCS because I want to eventually want to come back to tekong and make difference and help new recruits.

But I have realised that 3rd sergeants are given zero support and platform to do this. Thus i am beginning to lose motivation and interest.

Lately my burnout has gotten worse and evidence of this is I keep forgetting stuff at home/in bunk, messing up things I usually would never mess up.

I am clearly mentally exhausted and need a break. When I bookout, I am so exhausted I just wanna sleep and be alone.

I am so easily irritated and losing interest in things I once considered as my hobbies. I hate who I’m becoming.

My soon to be ex wife wants me to lie about the reason we’re getting divorced (her infidelity) and has begun insinuating the reason she cheated was because I did.

hello everyone. I’m 38m. I was married to my soon to be ex wife (39f) for 15 years, until I found out she was cheating on me. We’re in the middle of divorce proceedings.

I don’t talk about why our marriage ended to many people out of respect for our kids, however a few close friends and family have asked and I have told them.

One of my best friends is married to one of my ex wife’s close friends. He was one of the people I confided what really happened to, and apparently this has affected his wife’s friendship with my exwife, according to my exwife she has become distant and doesn’t want to hang out anymore.

My ex wife has now asked me to lie about the reason why we got divorced, and to say to people who don’t know that she cheated that it “just didn’t work out”, and to tell the people who do know about her infidelity that I also had begun to develop feelings for my current girlfriend (31f) while we were still married, in my ex wife’s words, “so her cheating doesn’t seem “as bad”. This is absolutely untrue, and even though I knew my current girlfriend while I was married, there were never any romantic feelings until about a year after we separated and divorce proceedings had begun.

This morning at my sons football game, my girlfriend, who has a son on the same team, was talking to another mother, and that mother made a “joke” about my girlfriend “snatching” me from my exwife. My girlfriend was confused and asked her to elaborate, and this woman said that my ex had insinuated to her that my girlfriend and I had begun dating a full year before we actually had, while I was still married, which my wife knows unequivocally isn’t true.

I want to keep a civil relationship for our kids sake, but I’m incredibly upset at her for not only suggesting I lie to cover up a mistake she made that destroyed our family, but also that she’s spinning the narrative that she only cheated because I was cheating too.

Is this enough to cut off all contact, with the exception of things that don’t directly have to do with our sons?

I used to steal all the time and i regret it so much

So over a year ago when i was 13 me and my friend decided to steal, Not because we were broke just because it was fun and exciting.

So i got addicted after a while and i started going to malls without any money with friends and go home with bags full of things we wanted and i was so good at it at that point.

My mom got suspicious because i had so many new clothes without spending any money but i just continued.

I would even steal in the store with my mom and siblings as a secret and that was so messed up, i never thought about the consequences for some reason, if i would have gotten caught none of them would have seen me the same way as before or trusted me for some mf candy bars that i COULD AFFORD.

And one day me and my friends got busted and ever since that i have never done it .

Its so embarrassing how much we did it and how many security officers i used to lie to, and also how many cameras i must be on.

Netizens’ comments

• I’m glad you were able to stop and learn from it 🙂 before getting caught & ending up with a record

• It’s all a learning experience. You’re still young, learn from this and think about the consequences of your actions moving on. Also remember everything catches up with you eventually.

How do you accept being less well-off than others?

Just saw a post about the younger generation being more entrepreneurial and “richer” in general.

I’m part of that generation, but I’m not well-off whatsoever. I’m not in actual poverty, but I’m in that awkward situation where I’m not exactly middle class either.

Of course I have my own drive and ambition to do things such as invest, work while schooling (currently studying), freelancing, picking up new skills to freelance with, etc.

But it honestly pales in comparison to most of the people I know.

I’m talking about 20-somethings (same as me) driving cars around, able to invest in high value NFTs, balling on all sorts of clothes and “toys” without blinking an eye.

It’s extremely hard not to feel like my effort measures up to nothing. Even with my planned career path, which while lucrative, wouldn’t even compare to them.

Which brings me back to my question, how do you learn to accept this?

Netizens’ comments

Comparison is the thief of joy. No matter how rich you are, there will always be someone richer. Live your own life and be content with your decisions and their outcomes. Money only makes life easier, but it doesn’t bring joy in of itself.