Dated this guy when he was in NS and I was in JC a few years back. Hooked up, went out, didn’t work out. He’s in some engineering course graduating this year, and we’re both attached to other people right now; I’m pretty happily attached, not sure about him.

My current bf is a GCB, though he doesn’t really show up to church and stuff, but he’s religious and stuff. Compared to this ex of mine, he’s pretty much a saint. I just can’t shake the feeling that while this relationship is something I want, it’s comparatively boring. I’m not saying I want to mix things up, I like things as they are now, but things as they are now are… boring.

My ex was a player who “just so happens” to always end up with some attached girl and frankly it was pretty suspicious that he was *that* good in bed – I say this because guys his age aren’t usually good in bed at all (“data” collected from friend’s stories and anecdotes and boyfriend gossip as usual). 

So no, I don’t want him back, and I definitely don’t want someone like him or even close.

I just don’t know why I feel that this relationship is comfortable, but just… boring. We do the same things, we don’t make spontaneous decisions, everything goes the same way every time, and we don’t do bedroom things (GCB, remember). And my bf, who’s nice and a great guy is incredibly averse to doing anything we didn’t plan out beforehand, we don’t even take detours, our plans are set like at least a week in advance and he insists on following the plan. He’ll get really upset if we so much as take a small detour to look at something that caught my attention. It feels very… robotic? And frankly as much as I like him, he’s very naïve.

It’s a small thing that I’m pretty annoyed with tbh, because he has such a small pool of things he actually wants to do, few hobbies, doesn’t go drinking, doesn’t want to go to bars even if it’s for the food (I miss Stickies’ curly fries), doesn’t approve of me drinking so much as wine (not a good image, don’t want people to think you’re wild or whatever), and when we do get lunch or dinner on our dates it’s frankly the same few places every time for the past 3 years. We do try new places sometimes, but it always comes back to him preferring the usual places and we never go back.

I’ve tried talking to him, I’ve tried explaining that maybe we should mix things up and try new things go see new places go on a walk or a hike (I’m more on the sporty side? I was in volleyball and a couple of other sports CCAs over my school days and I do still keep up the physical activity quite a bit) but he’d prefer to stay at home and just say that I can do these things without him or like suggest something else that we can do that’s… definitely not a new thing. I’ve tried explaining that I find things we do kinda… stale? Like we’ve done the same things eaten at the same places over and over for 3 years, but I’ve tried the “softer” approach – “can we try something new”, “can we try this new place”, “do you want to try this” and the more straight forward approach “hey uh, I’m a bit bored of the food here, do you want to try this thing that has nice reviews too?” but every time, regardless of approach (I tried the soft one first, of course) he takes it as a personal affront and goes on this long lecture and rant and then scolds me for “getting bored” as if it’s my choice to “get bored” and offending him like this…

I like him, and I do want to make this work, but it really feels like we can barely do the same things and while it feels like I’m always accommodating him, he doesn’t do the same for me. Those days with my ex were… interesting? He was more spontaneous, we’d do a lot of really “fun but also because it’s kinda breaking the rules” stuff, stay out till pretty late, go drinking and get wasted together, it was a new thing every other day we went out and we’d only revisit stuff when we wanted to. But I guess something I really value is like how much my partner accommodates me? Like with my ex I felt like anything was fair game and like there were really not many boundaries I can cross (maybe just don’t talk about past relationships or like keep him waiting and like idk blatantly disrespect him). Our jokes were largely offensive, he’s not one to mince words, and like talking and being in that relationship didn’t feel like I was walking in a minefield – right now if I so much as crack a slightly offensive joke with my bf, he’ll chide me for being childish and tell me “that isn’t nice” and mean it, and take me aside to tell me how that’s not nice… 

And that’s not counting all the other things I feel like I can’t say? Like general criticisms, or like even asking to change plans or go to new places etc he takes as personal insults for some reason. Sigh. I’ve dated a couple of other “GCB” guys (these ones didn’t work out and didn’t end up as relationships), and while these rather “unspontaneous, overly wholesome” traits are more pronounced in my current bf, they are also common to my other more good-guy-stereotype dates. I find that talking to these very “good guy” people I feel very restricted in what I can say or do and what will set them off on a lecture or tirade :(. And the worst part is, some of these things aren’t even socially unacceptable or even “bad”. It’s like they just don’t want me to ruin their GCB aesthetic by doing GCB-unapproved things as their gf.

Not sure if the saying is true, but bad guys aren’t good but good guys aren’t fun :(.

I have a little thing to share. Not a big deal perhaps to many people. But feels good to just write it down.

I like to buy flowers for myself once in a while, sometimes every other week. Pink roses are my favorite.

Everyone at the office thinks I have suitors or a doting bf. Some are obviously envious (or jealous). It feels good just for them to have the impression I’m so wanted. Everyone looking at me when I strut into office with a bouquet, like a model.

I feel so proud, all eyes on me as if I’m the superstar. They are jealous no one buy flowers for them so I buy it to let them smell the aroma on purpose.

Even though I don’t have any bf. Or suitors. Making myself feel wanted is the next best thing.

A girl complaint online as she is unhappy with her fiance forcing her to sign the prenup before the marriage.

Here is the story:

I would like to share my story of my fiance, we have been together for 8 years and through thick and thin. Before he was a lawyer he was poor and could barely afford to take me out.

Most of the time I even paid for him, but luckily after he managed to get his law degree his salary increased so much after he became a lawyer and he finally started to chip in and treat me more than I treat him.

He proposed to me a few months back and I felt that I was out of this world. My friends was cheering saying “wah you marry lawyer sure good life”.

Earlier today, a DHL courier arrived at my home and my fiance called me saying that it is a prenup agreement. I was shocked!

I know he is a lawyer but the prenup agreement is like a dictionary. Initially, I thought he sends a dictionary to my house as it was over 1000 pages. I flipped to the last page and it was 1068 pages.

I called him and scolded him, He said that I have to look through the agreement first. If it’s ok we can go down to his law firm to sign each page.

Then I was like: “huh you want me to read it and go down your law firm and sign all 1068 pages one by one?”

He said “yes” in a soft tone, I have not talked to him for the past 3 days as I was still thinking about what to do. In my heart, I know that even if we end up divorcing I will not take his money.

Secondly, he just become a lawyer how long-only, not like he has any assets for me to take. But he could argue “one would never know about the future”. Having a lawyer as a husband made me think twice, I could never win him in arguments and he always said that my arguments were based on emotion and not based on facts.

I told him: ” Hello, Im a woman” Lawyer boyfriend is like having a blockhead, left is left, right is right. But women are like that one mah…

Should I marry this lawyer husband or should I try to convince him not to do the prenup?

We are more than just a couple we are also best friends. I think studying a law degree and becoming a lawyer has changed him.