In a recent online post, a 19-year-old woman reached out for advice after her boyfriend’s comment about his ex-girlfriend’s larger chest left her feeling insecure about her own. The post provides a glimpse into the emotional turmoil the woman is experiencing during her winter break at her boyfriend’s flat.

The woman shared that she had a particularly difficult day due to the end of her period, a time when she tends to feel insecure about her chest size. She opened up to her 20-year-old boyfriend, expressing her desire for a larger size. Initially, he attempted to comfort her by highlighting that many models have smaller chests, boosting her confidence momentarily.

Compared Hers To His Ex-Girlfriend

However, the situation took an unexpected turn when the boyfriend mentioned that his ex-girlfriend had a larger chest than hers. He went on to make comments about the potential challenges of larger chests as women age. Despite reassuring her that he loves her and her body, the woman couldn’t shake off the negative impact of the comparison.

The woman admitted to feeling increasingly insecure since the incident, to the extent that she’s finding it difficult to eat. The lingering thought that her boyfriend used to appreciate a larger chest is affecting her self-esteem, especially since her chest has been a source of insecurity since she was 12.

What She Said

I (19f) am currently at my boyfriend’s (20m) flat. I had a very bad day yesterday, because it was the end of my period. I was crying about my chest, because I always wanted a bigger size. I am A cup, going to a B when I’m before and on my period. He tried to made me feel better and said that no models have big chests, since they are all skinny.

It worked, but then he said that his ex had bigger chests than mine, and the bigger one are floppy when women are getting older. He reassured me that he loves me and my body so much, but I keep feeling bad since yesterday. I barely can eat anything.

All I can think of is that he used to enjoy, touch and admire bigger chest and now he ended up with mine, that are barely non-existence. It’s my worst part of my body since I was 12. What should I do? How to stop that thinking?

Here is the story:

What to do when u have an insensible younger brother?

Almost 30 years old already, still behave like a 13 years old. –

Fetching ard $4k monthly salary, he thinks that it is a lot… And tried to be arrogant. Pls lah, when u earn $40k monthly salary then come and flaunt..

Always blaming everyone except for himself. For example. Not good looking, blame parents’ genes. Exam failed, blame Govt.

He doesn’t have many friends or rather no friends and is reluctant to get out of his shell to broaden his social circle.

What netizens say:

Netizen A: “4k now is still below median salary in Singapore. Tell him don’t act so big if he don’t pay most of the bills.“

Netizen B: “Come, i take his salary n become ur brother. Just kidding . He really needs help. Got a job already good. U cant help him all the time, hes a already a full grown pokemon. He needs to find hobbies, from there make friends and so on.”

Netizen C: It’s none of your business, did he do anything to hurt you? If not why should you be concerned? He can flaunt his $4k salary, instead of being a Debbie downer why not just affirm his positive energy, will that cost you anything other than to foster a positive fraternal bond?

He can blame the parents and governments, it is his right as ruled subjects that had and is being ruled by them.

Ultimately, you are not your brother’s keeper, and you are not responsible for him. Just cajole him a bit, try to smooth the relationship and live your own life.

My girlfriend told me she wanted $4,000 a month after marriage I was taken aback.

We had been dating for five years and up until now, she had never mentioned wanting money in exchange for her services.

We both had decent jobs and she had always been independent, so I couldn’t understand why she was now insisting on this.

The conversation started out as a discussion about our plans for the future.

We had just gotten engaged and we were in the process of discussing our wedding plans. I had been talking about the financial aspects of the wedding, when she suddenly said that after the wedding, she didn’t plan to continue working, cooking, or cleaning. She proposed that instead she should be paid $4,000 a month for her services.

I was shocked and couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

I had always known that my girlfriend was independent and self-sufficient, so why was she now insisting on being paid for her domestic duties? I asked her to explain her reasoning and she said that she wanted to be compensated for her time and energy. She said that if she was expected to take on all the domestic duties, she deserved to be paid for it.

I understand where she is coming from, but I don’t think that money should be the main motivation for doing something. I think it’s important for couples to be supportive of each other and to do their part in the relationship without expecting monetary compensation. I also don’t think it’s fair to expect one partner to do all the cooking and cleaning while the other doesn’t. It should be a shared responsibility.

I tried to explain this to my girlfriend, but she was unmovable in her stance. She said that if I was unwilling to pay her, then she would not take on any domestic duties in our marriage. I didn’t want to put her in a situation where she felt she had to choose between her independence and her relationship, so I decided to try and work out a compromise.

I suggested that we both contribute to the domestic duties in our marriage and that she would receive a small monthly stipend to cover her expenses.

Guess what, She said no and talk as if she is a princess from a fairy tale.

Can anyone tell me what to do? It’s like flushing 5 years of my life down the toilet if I broke up with her.

A woman created a post online and wanted her moral compass checked by netizens, she said that her husband is not giving her any “exercise” and she has been seeking it from elsewhere.

She then seeks the advise of netizens only to get blasted by a hail of negative comments.

Here is the story:

Is having a FWB wrong?

My husband and I do not have S. I have a friend with benefit (FWB) and my husband doesn’t know. Is that wrong?

I’ve approached my husband countless times to have S or make out, but he doesn’t seem interested. When I ask him if anything is wrong with our marriage, his reply is always the same – that we are doing ok, but that we are too busy and tired to have time for intimacy.

As for the FWB; he is also married and we both have no intention of divorcing our spouse.

Is S outside of this marriage wrong?

Here are what netizens think:

• If you think…FWB is not wrong to fulfill your needs, you can honestly tell your husband, isn’t it?If anything has to be kept secret or done in hidden, then it might not be right. Your consciousness knows it well but your heart tries to deny it.Please talk seriously with your husband that you still need intimacy with him. Tell him, making love is important to you. If he is unable bec of physical problem, then consult doctors. If it is bec of busy schedule, it is an excuse to me. You hv to work it out. Take care

• My husband says, “must as well divorce, and you can do whatever you want, stay together with your spouse for what?”For me, so long you are using your needs with the other person, be it your husband unable to fulfill, that is cheating!Why not you ask yourself, is that wrong when your husband does the same like you, and was it wrong?You and your that FWB both are joker. Do not stay and remain marry if can’t understand the meaning stay Faithful and loyal.

• I felt it’s not that u dunno if it is wrong , you are just trying to find people to approve of your doing .

• Your partner deserves to know the truth. Have a talk. Unless your partner is ok with open relationship. I don’t think it’s correct to be fking around behind his back.

• Don’t ask your husband if anything is wrong. TELL your husband something IS wrong with your marriage because of what you need and he isn’t giving you. Does he have a medical issue, is he not interested coz he has someone else, is he really THAT tired, does he not love you anymore? There must be a reason and you need to dig until you find out. If he doesn’t want to communicate then you have to make a choice on whether this is how you want to keep going or maybe end the relationship. Cheating never ends well and how would you feel if the roles are reverse …would you tell your husband it’s ok to cheat on you if you no longer want to have sex with him? Think of the other wife.

I have an older sister 26 Y.O. Last year she miscarried. I don’t even know how many miscarriages she’s had, but she had 2 successful pregnancies.

1 that resulted in my 6-year-old niece and one that resulted in my 3-year-old nephew who died of heart failure 5 years ago due to complications during her pregnancy.

During my sister’s miscarriage, my wife was 1 month pregnant. All of my wife’s pregnancy she had to avoid any family gatherings because if my sister was there, she’d start crying and screaming about how heartless my wife was for rubbing it in her face.

My wife never really cared that much because she told me she didn’t wanna hurt my sister. It annoyed me because me and my wife weren’t even able to speak about the pregnancy, nor were our family members. We weren’t allowed to have a gender reveal or baby shower because when she found out we were planning to she called me screaming at me for having no consideration for her, and she told me she’d never let me see my niece again if I even dared to have one.

This was our first child, Of course, we were upset but didn’t say anything. When it got too much for me was when my wife had asked my mom to be with her in the delivery room as her own mom couldn’t travel because of covid restrictions, she asked when we were over at my parent’s house and the only other people there were my brother and his wife. His wife ended up telling my sister, and she freaked out.

It turned into her telling my mother that she had no care in the world for her loss grand baby and since she didn’t care she should never see my niece again.

Then it turned to asking me how I could do this to her. Then it turned into calling my wife an attention-seeking whore. I ended up not talking to her for months because of that one. My mother was in the delivery room anyways, but she had to tell my sister she hadn’t been, everyone else knows except my sister.

My son turned 6 months recently. My wife decided to do a mini photoshoot with him in a giraffe costume and she sent it to my aunt, who in turn posted it on her FB account.

My sister hadn’t met my son until this point either because she refused to. When she saw that me and my wife were tagged, she called me telling me that I knew she had a miscarriage and that I was flaunting the fact that I had a healthy son.

She started laughing on the phone telling me that either way her son would’ve probably been 10X cuter than that b slur me and my wife have (my wife is a foreigner)At this point I got fed up and told her that her miscarriage was more than a year ago and that I didn’t give a F and that she should go somewhere else to get a pity party.

My mom and dad called me yelling at me and asking what I had done because my sister had called them wailing. I explained it to them and they’re still upset at me telling me I should’ve said something nicer and tried to get her to calm down.

It was the biggest and most exciting purchase of our lives – a condo unit in a newly-built condominium development. We were over the moon when we moved in, and felt on top of the world. Little did we know, we had bitten off more than we could chew.

My wife and I had been married for a few years and were doing well financially. We had been living in a HDB flat and were ready to take the plunge and move into a condo. We had saved up enough to afford a downpayment for the unit and were eager to take advantage of the low mortgage rates.

We thought it would be a smart financial move, and it was for a few months.

But soon enough, the bills began to pile up. We had underestimated the costs of maintaining a condo unit and were struggling to keep up with the monthly payments. To make matters worse, our mortgage payments had gone up significantly due to the strong property market.

We also forgot to calculate the money that the HDB will claw back from the grant we took years ago.

We had been planning to upgrade to a condo for some time, but we had gone ahead too soon. We had not saved up enough to cover all of the costs associated with a condo, and we were now feeling the pinch. We were behind on our payments, and we were starting to panic.

We tried to figure out ways to make ends meet, but it was becoming increasingly difficult. We had cut back on our spending and were trying to find ways to increase our income, but it just wasn’t enough. We even considered selling the condo, but we couldn’t find a buyer in time.

In the end, we were forced to take out a second loan in order to stay afloat. This loan was much more expensive than our first one, and it was putting even more pressure on our finances. We were now facing a mountain of debt, and it was becoming harder and harder to keep up with our payments.

It was a difficult time for us, and we were scared that we would lose our condo. We had worked so hard to get it, and the thought of losing it was heartbreaking. We were determined to make it through though, and we eventually managed to keep up with our payments.

Looking back, we can see that we should have waited a bit longer before upgrading our home. We should have saved up more so that we could have avoided taking out a second loan. We have also learned to be more mindful of our spending and budget better.

We are still in the condo, and we are determined to make the most of it. We are now more mindful of our spending and have figured out ways to save money. We are still struggling to keep up with our payments, but we are determined to make it work.

I had been happily married to my husband for a few years now. We had a wonderful relationship and both felt very content in our lives. But lately, something strange had been happening. My husband had started taking regular trips to Johor Bahru.

He would tell me that he was going to pump petrol and then come back, but I had a feeling that he was doing something else.

Every time he came back from his trips, he would have over SGD$500 in cash and return with almost nothing. I suspected that he was visiting sleazy massage parlours and other such places. I was worried about what he was doing and why he was lying to me about it.

One day, I decided to confront him about it. I asked him what he was doing in JB and why he was coming back with so much cash. He was taken aback and didn’t seem to want to answer my questions. He tried to change the subject but I persisted.

He kept quiet so I decided to plant an Apple tag in his car and I finally have the evidence to confront him. What *spa name redacted*?!

Finally, he confessed that he had been visiting massage parlours and other such places. He said that he had been doing it for a while now and that he was sorry for not being honest with me. He said that he felt ashamed and embarrassed to tell me the truth.

We had a long talk about it and I made it clear that I wouldn’t tolerate any more lies. He promised that he wouldn’t lie to me again and that he would never go back to those places.

But he still wants to go JB to pump petrol. What should I do? I can’t follow him every single time I have my life and job too.

I was an intern at a small, local business, and I was excited to have the opportunity to learn from my manager. I had heard good things about him from other interns, so I was looking forward to working with him.

End up I would soon be the subject of my manager’s unwanted advances.

It started with small things. He would comment on my appearance in an inappropriate way or make inappropriate jokes when no one else was around. I tried to ignore it, thinking I was just being overly sensitive.

But then, one day, he asked me to stay late and help him with a project. I was reluctant, but he said it was important and he didn’t want anyone else to know what we were doing.

I stayed late, and then he started making inappropriate advances towards me. I was so shocked and scared that I couldn’t move. I was frozen in place as he continued to make advances towards me. I wanted to scream and run away, but I couldn’t.

Finally, I mustered up the courage to tell him to stop. I didn’t want to make a scene, so I just said it in a firm voice.

He stopped, but he looked angry. He said that I should be grateful for the extra hours and that he was my manager and I had to do what he said.

He then stormed out of the office, leaving me alone and terrified in the dark.

I was so angry and scared that I couldn’t think straight. I knew I had to report this to someone, but I was afraid of what would happen if I did.

I decided to talk to a female friend who had a similar experience. She told me that I should definitely report it and that I should go to the HR department.

I was scared, but I knew I had to do something. I went to HR and told them what had happened. They were understanding and supportive and said that they would investigate the matter.

In the end, my manager was reprimanded and that’s it!

Back then I believed in true love but I started to see the comfort of another woman, they have boyfriends to chauffeur them around and I’m taking bus and MRT with my boyfriend.

Soon I got a bf with a car, but it was an old broken piece of junk he calls it a “car”. It was so noisy and the aircon was never cold. I ended it with him because I did not feel comfortable. I needed some more atas car to fit me.

So, I’m a gold digger. But not the way you’re thinking about it, I’m a pro. I check the newspapers for financial transactions, then “bump into” someone who’s just made a lot of money and ask them out, that’s how I met my current husband, but he was a player for most of his life so he genuinely thought i was into him (or so i thought at the time).

he implied that he was exhausted from the drama and just wanted a homely girl to be the mother of his children, so i played the part and kept up the charade as we were dating, and then as we got engaged, then married.

Unlike a lot of professional gold diggers, my final goal wasn’t some doormat workaholic husband who will fund a lifestyle of luxury for me as he toiled endlessly while I swiped his credit cards all day. I just wanted to live an upper middle-class lifestyle as a stay at home mom, i genuinely wanted kids, and wanted to be the best mom i could.

But slowly i found myself falling in love with my husband. I lived a pretty brutal life and developed somewhat sociopathic tendencies as a result like being able to use people without feeling guilty and not caring about people, but one day as i woke up next to him and thought about how i would be really broken if he died, or left me somehow i realized my feelings for him were genuine, i felt bad about manipulating him, and after a few weeks i gathered up the courage and told him everything, how I’m a gold digger who wanted him for his money, and how i played a part the whole time so he would marry me, but to my surprise he just laughed it off and went on with what he was doing

He told me he knew all along, and how he was already cynical about relationships and “understood” that whoever he married wouldn’t be 100 percent genuine and that’s just “something you have to deal with” I’m partly relieved that he’s not gonna divorce me, but I’m also bummed out, it’s totally reasonable to not trust me because of what i did, but it’s a bit too much to not trust anyone. Is there any way i can show him that I’m genuinely into him now, and invested in the relationship?