My mom’s been cheating on my dad for 25 years.

They finally got a divorce this year, so my dad opened up to me about everything. When he first caught my mom cheating, he was preparing to leave her until she announced that she was pregnant with me.

I’m now an adult and I think I look enough like my dad to not want to pursue any DNA testing, and tbh I don’t want to know if I’m not his.

I’ve been truly sick ever since he told me the details. My dad’s father died last year, and he has phone records of my mom calling her guy for several hours the day his father died and the day of the funeral.

I want to say something because mom is now bringing this guy around, but dad knows my mom is vengeful and hostile and thinks it would be best for my safety if I don’t confront her.

But man, I feel so disgusted by her and sorry for my dad.

Netizens’ comments

• You should confront her, you have every right. Your mom is the worst type of person, cheating alone, but also calling the man on the day of your grandfathers funeral, absolutely disgusting.
• I’m so sorry your mom is so toxic to you and your dad. Neither of you deserved any of that. That breaks my heart that she could be so cold and destructive to her family, for so long.

I’m writing this anonymously because I don’t want anyone to know yet. I just need a place to voice out my sadness and vent out my frustrations.

For the past five years, I’ve been doing my best for you. I put in my whole heart and soul to be the best girlfriend ever. If you ask any girl out there whether she would go so far for you, they’ll call me crazy and stupid at best.

I remember the time when we first became intimate, it was in your home. I was a shy young girl and didn’t know anything about f-ing.

You said to just relax and go with the flow. I was hesitant but you insisted and told me that I was beautiful and you would only have eyes for me. I believed you then but you made me regret it just two years later.

I found messages in your phone. It was with this girl who was in no way prettier than me. What were you thinking!? She’s not even cute!

I took your phone without your permission, yes, but it’s only because you were always spending time messaging someone you said was your friends.

You’re a terrible liar. What kind of guy messages his male friends deep into the night? The way you smiled was as if you were talking to someone more than special in your life.

You fought with me when I brought you lunch at your workplace. I did this for all this years and you did not complain. You said I was the best girlfriend ever.

Now you’ve left me for this b-ch. It’s not about my pride or my ego now. It’s just me being angry for giving up my first time and five years of my life to you, a cheating, lying b-tard.

It’s 4 am on a Saturday night. I had parked my taxi on the left side of Geylang Rd beside Lor 18.

As I waited for my next potential passenger, I noticed a frail lady not far away, flagging for a taxi. Several taxis stopped for her, but all refused to pick her up and drove off.

Something seemed off about this lady. She didn’t look drunk to me, so, drawing from experience, I predicted that she didn’t have money for the taxi trip. That would be the only reason why all the taxis rejected picking her up.

I could see she was in a hurry to get a taxi. She looked sick, constantly bending down to catch her breath. Out of curiosity and compassion, I drove forward to her, rolled down my windows, and asked if she needed help.

Still catching her breath, she pleaded, saying: “Sir, I have $10 on me and I want to go to Indus Rd. Can you help me, sir? Please!”

She crossed her fingers and made a begging gesture. Based on my experience, the fare from Geylang to Havelock Rd would be around $12-15, not far off from the $10. So, I thought to myself, why not? I picked her up.

Along the way, the lady shared her ordeal tonight. It was her first day back to work in Lor 16. Due to a fight earlier on in Lor 16, all the people dispersed.

As a result, the lady was unable to get any business tonight, so she was going home. The $10 fare she gave me was the only money she had, borrowed from a transvestite.

I asked her if she had tried looking for other jobs. She told me she is suffering from kidney problems, too weak to find a job.

She could not stand for long hours and could not stay in an air-conditioned room for long hours either. Providing adult services was the only means of making some money for her.

She was proud that she did not resort to stealing, begging, or cheating other people. She used her own ability to earn money.

Upon hearing this, I felt ashamed to have taken her only $10 away from her. I kept my eyes away from her as I did not want her to see my watery eyes. I knew these were tears of both shame and compassion.

I stole glances at this lady from the side of my eyes. She looked worn out, probably due to her life’s experiences and her sickness. But she wore thick makeup, and I could tell she tried to look her best. She wore a revealing dress.

From her handbag, the lady pulled out a long-sleeved button shirt. She told me to excuse her as she wore the long-sleeved shirt over her dress. At this moment, I realized she didn’t want her neighbours to see her in the dress. She is staying in a rented flat at Indus Rd.

We reached her destination without incident. She profusely thanked me for sending her back. At this time, I took her $10, put it in her hands, and told her to take this money and get herself some breakfast.

At this moment, I think I saw tears in the lady’s eyes, just as my own vision started to blur due to my own tears. I hurried her off (as she kept thanking me) as I didn’t want her to see me cry for her.

From what I know, I am a proud person and would never want other people to shed tears for me. I think this lady is a warrior in life, and she would also feel the way I feel.

As I drove out of the car park, I couldn’t hold my tears any longer, and they rolled down my cheek. Deep within me, I know I pity the lady. Having to work at an elderly age as a prostitute while having health problems.

I did a good deed tonight. I feel satisfied. And I still have to thank the TD uncle who gave me a free ride about 16 years ago. If not for him, I most probably wouldn’t have done this good deed tonight.

If you think my story is inspiring to you, please try to help out passengers who are truthful about not having enough fare for the ride. At least they are honest; do give a helping hand if it’s not too troublesome for you guys.

PS: God works in mysterious ways. Before I changed shifts this morning, I got a CJ for 3 passengers going Clark Quay > AMK > Bedok > Newton Rd. The fare was $42.05, and the passenger gave me $50, ktc. Guess it’s the way God said I had been good tonight!

Thai discos, known for their vibrant atmospheres and engaging entertainment, often draw newcomers like moths to a flame. Our protagonist has introduced a friend to this thrilling night scene, only to witness the newcomer’s swift descent into addiction. The veteran, well-versed in the nuances of the nightlife, faces the daunting task of providing guidance.

With a mouth full of seasoned wisdom, our narrator takes charge, offering advice to the enamored friend. The focus is on a Thai girl who has captured the newcomer’s heart, leading to nightly flower offerings and direct financial requests.

What the netizen said

Ok i have this friend that is a newbie in the night scene and he got addicted to Thai discos after i brought him over once. I am a veteran in the night life and gave him so much advise till my mouth dry. I do not know how to help him.

He told me that he is in love with this thai girl at one of Singapore’s big thai disco joints. He told me that he cannot resist her and wants to see her everyday. Being a veteran i took his phone from him and see the message exchange of the girl. It’s quite obvious the girl is a lao jiao (experienced) and trying to chop my friend.

I told him that if the girl really love you she would not ask you come down give her flower every night. Sometimes even ask him for money directly. Walan cannot even converse to her properly want to have what love.

I have seen cases of other friends really gotten in a serious relationship with the girls and the girl tell him not to hang flower and save the money for future marriage. well the marriage did happen. My current friend saw how my friends got happily married and believe he can do the same.

Not saying that there is no love in some cases. But it is rare. Most people leave thai discos with nothing but a empty wallet.

How to advise him. I don’t know what to say anymore. Should i let him learn it the hard way?

I saw my friend’s husband holding another woman’s hand and kissing her at the airport departure hall.

I’m not sure what’s the best way to handle this piece of information as I don’t want to get involved in people’s marriages but I can’t seem to get this out of my head knowing that the poor wife is home alone while the husband is out happily travelling with his mistress.

I dislike cheaters and homewreckers, so if you know of any of your friend’s husbands travelling out of Singapore on late 24 April or the wee morning of 25 April with a name starting with the letter R, please forward this piece of information to his wife. I hope she will no longer be kept in the dark.

Here are what netizens think:

The odds of someone having the same. Initials and travelling is pretty high. Sibeh sabo…..

Don’t bother. Don’t even talk about it because it’s not your problem to begin with.

It’s not often that I call people out for their wrongdoings on social media, but these feelings have been simmering for some time, and I need to release them.

Recently, my close friend discovered that her husband was cheating on her!

It hurts my heart to hear her husband speak about a woman named VANESSA, who is his own colleague. She saw his wedding band and proceeded to solicit him or tell him she would like to be “a little more than a colleague.”

Seriously? She’s even a good pretender! She even called his wife to convince her that nothing happened. It’s just a colleague, not more than that! She’s a liar! There’s proof that they are dating and went out together and got expensive gifts for her birthday recently.

This woman has lost all my respect, and for her, I have a few choice words. They are below. Maybe she’s just desperate, being a single mother of one, and her son stays in the Philippines, so she needs our Singaporean man to support her needs.

To flirt with or pursue another woman’s husband, and especially to those who’ve acted on such flirtations in a way that would unanimously be considered cheating by said man’s wife and family.

Get it, you want a man of your own, and you crave love in your life. That’s fine. What isn’t fine, however, is that you seek this love in a man that’s already found it with someone else.

If I can respect that you need love and have the right to pursue it with single men, why won’t you respect that she found what you’re after, and it means the world to her and her small daughter? They were a happy family until you came into his life and changed him.

It’s no secret that marriage is work. This means the woman who is devoted to the man wearing the wedding band whom you’re so eagerly enticing has been working very hard on the job, and your actions could result in her losing all that she’s worked to obtain. What’s that? It takes two?

Of course, it does; and I say shame on the men who fall into your trap too. I believe he is not the first man you seduced… A man who loves and cherishes his wife for all the right reasons should see that no good will come from engaging in an indiscretion with you.

Vanessa, you say you’re in search of “real love” and a “good man”, but what on earth makes you think that a man who would step out on his own family to play pretend with you is actually worth your time?

And exactly how do you expect to sleep at night once he’s “yours”? Self-love is the key that opens the door to so many wonderful things in life.

Working overtime to open a door that’s not for you to walk through will almost ensure that there’s no prize behind it, but rather unimaginable heartache and pain.

You say there’s a shortage of good men in this world. Is that so? Well, if that’s true, how is the solution to that possibly forever tainting one of the few who still remain?

Seems like desperate and reckless behavior to me. VANESSA, are those the kinds of values you want to build a relationship on? You shouldn’t.

I know a lot of you tell yourselves that if he chooses to be with you, then he must have made “the better choice,” but I just don’t see it that way.

I see a man who chose the easy route and a woman with values as poor as his own; a man who will most likely one day leave you too. (You’re fooling yourself if you think he won’t.) That’s no man I’d want to choose; so why do you?

Oh wait, is it because you “can love him better”? Or because you “do all the things she just won’t,” right? It may be time to ask yourself if all the “things” you do that he likes so much are those becoming of a real woman or lady?

VANESSA, please don’t make us look down on foreigners like you! The government is bringing too many of them to Singapore, and these women are taking away our jobs and husbands.

Those who are married would know the challenges to keep a family together, have decent savings, educate our children, and also take care of our spouses so that they will not run away with foreigners.

Every time I see a Filipino, I get very angry. Because there are too many of them creating a mess out of our lives.

To Vanessa, who stole someone’s husband and some other guys too, please use your brain and touch your heart. Don’t take away other people’s property or belonging.

He is someone’s husband, someone’s father. Please go back to your rotten country; don’t disturb us Singaporeans. If you have worked with them, you will know what I mean; this Pinoy is very good at acting.

She even called her scandal wife and convinced her not to worry, she doesn’t have any feelings, not more than a colleague.

But there’s proof that they’ve been dating together and got expensive gifts from him on her birthday recently. YOU BETTER WATCH OUT, VANESSA! Please be careful with her; she is a big liar.

My husband wanted to watch me to sleep with another woman and I fell in love with her.

My husband Mark and I have been married for almost 4 years now and we dated for over a year before that. I loved Mark. Initially, our intimate life was pretty tame – nothing more than a few different positions and I was okay with that.

During the pandemic lockdowns, Mark wanted to try new things and I was open to that idea. We ordered some toys and started watching adult videos together to spice things up.

One day, he put on a woman-woman movie and I told him that I had a relationship with a woman back in school. It wasn’t very long but it was great.

Mark got obsessed with woman-woman stuff after that. He kept playing related movies and kept asking for details about my relationship with that woman from back in the day. Eventually he told me that he wanted to see me sleep with another woman.

I told him that I didn’t do one-night stands and that I had to get to know the other person. I think my husband was so obsessed with the idea that he agreed without thinking. Mark was okay with me being in a relationship with another woman as long as he got to see us in action. That was when I started losing respect for him.

My gym trainer Sarah was single, so I started talking to her. She was a great person and after a few weeks, I told her about the arrangement with my husband. She was skeptical at first but agreed as long as she got a few private nights with me. I told Mark about this and was hoping would put a stop to it, but he didn’t.

Things slowly spiraled out after that. I started spending a lot of time with Sara. She was a great person and an excellent friend. She introduced me to her friend circle and it was great. Mark knew about all this but didn’t seem to care as long as he got to see us doing it on some nights. At one point, Sara even warned Mark that he was losing me when she thought I was sleeping. This went on for months and recently, I realized that I didn’t love Mark anymore. Sara also started hinting that she wanted a full relationship with me and I think I love her. I definitely want to explore our relationship more.

I’m getting things in order to file for a divorce. I hate that I have to do this but Mark pushed me away with his actions. I warned him that this might happen, but he was so obsessed with his tendencies that he didn’t care. I loved Mark, and I’s so sad and angry with him as I write this.

My girlfriend recently got close to this colleague at work and in my opinion she spends too much time with him.

They initially started going out for dinner together 1 on 1 ( I was fine with it as she informed me about it beforehand and didn’t hide it from me).

Subsequently, the colleague started to send her back home on an almost daily basis though he really stays out of the way. It seems that they are getting closer together while my relationship with her is drifting apart; he even went over her house to jog with her 2 weeks ago wtf? I openly expressed my disapproval of her colleague many times and told my girlfriend that he has ulterior motives. She insisted there was nothing between them and they were just friends. She then accused me of lacking trust in our relationship and we ended fighting a few times because of this issue.

A few days ago, while we were together at her house I was so insecure that I stalked her phone while she was bathing  (I know it is wrong, but I really had to find out what was happening between them), and found out that she was planning a trip with him to Bali together in December?! And in their chat there were several romantic exchanges, some bordering on the kinky side. I didn’t know what to make of it at that point of time; were they just merely joking/toying with each other or what? I was so upset that I cried and left her house immediately, citing that I had urgent work to attend to.

Till now I have not confronted her about this as I don’t want to start a big fight again. I 100% certain that colleague of hers is hitting on her and I don’t believe she is oblivious to this. I really love her a lot (we have been together for 7 years) and I don’t want to lose her at all, but the red flags are so obvious.

I am having sleepless nights and crying alone a few times a day because of this, help me.

I’m Asian, been overseas for 4 years and recently got married with a white male. I believe our relationship was genuine, we connected well, he was my best friend , my other half.

As you can see English isn’t my first language as I grew up in a bilingual family like many Singaporeans. but I believe i’m not too bad at it. I don’t find myself struggling with expressing myself, my feelings so there’s no such thing as language barrier in our relationship.

Recently we just got in a fight, I got very emotional and angry so i couldn’t put it in words and he pulled ‘ speak English properly’ knowing he’s in the wrong. I think that was the most hurtful thing someone could ever say, especially to the mother of his child, a person who already did him a favour by speaking his language coming from another country.

He really crossed the line and made me question why he’s with me in the first place if thats all he cares about.

Here are what netizens think:

• First off, your writing is perfect and I’d honestly have no idea it wasn’t your first language. Secondly, he absolutely crossed a line. It was a cheap shot meant only to make you feel bad because he knew he was in the wrong. There’s a little rule that the moment a person criticizes you instead of the point, healthy communication ends. I don’t think it was for anything else but to hurt your feelings. If that’s the case, youre in a tough position.

• You should be able to disagree on something without the fear of what they’ll say to you. He’s broken the emotional trust that is crucial to a fulfilling relationship. He’s got some growing up he needs to do.