I read some comments here about dating someone with your own SES and I can relate to it. Makes me wonder whether I should dump my boyfriend because of our difference in SES level.

My bf and I are in our late twenties. He works in trading and draws a nice amount of salary, roughly 6x of mine. However he is stingy af.

Our dates are mostly just walking around parks, eating at food court (sometimes restaurants), and he doesn’t get me expensive gifts at all.

Yesterday was Vday and he brought me to Swensen’s while my friends were eating at high class places. He also doesn’t dress up, often wear flip flops and doesn’t drive a car.

He prefers to Grab because it’s cheaper. Me on the other hand, I like to hang out with my girlfriends at pubs, fine dining, yoga classes and go for spa.

I don’t have too much money so I only change my Chanel bags once a year. He often says my lifestyle is too extravagant, but life is about enjoying right?

My bf brought up the topic about marriage and it made me really wonder whether I should spend the rest of my life with him.

Given his income and savings he can easily buy a property along Bukit Timah road but he wants to buy a 1br small condo in Bugis which only costs 1m+. That made me so mad!!! It’s evident to me that he doesn’t know how to use his money to enjoy life.

I really don’t want to live like a poor person for the rest of my life. Should I break up with him? Given my appearance and qualities I should be able to find someone who is as rich but is willing to spend more on me.

My[34] girlfriend[35] got used to me paying for everything

There was a period of about 6 months when she was unemployed and of course i helped her out by paying for everything (from rent to groceries and vacations) and even giving her some money just for herself.

Meanwhile she got a good job and even though i was not going to ask for any money back she still feels like she doesn’t have to pay for anything.

I tried discussing with her about this but it always ends up with her crying and not talking to me for 2 days.

It doesn’t feel like a relationship between 2 adults, but more like me living with a teenager…

Not sure what to do so any advice would be appreciated

Netizens’ comments

• She cries because you ask her to contribute like a normal, adult person? She’s scamming you. I’d put my foot down and ignore the tears. Either you are equal partners on the same team, or you’re out. It’s not just about the money, it’s about the willingness to prioritize the team and happiness of the both of you
• You’re not being held prisoner. Why do you stay in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t treat you respectfully, and cries when she’s called out on it?
• Woman here, don’t marry her. She will quit work and want to be a “kept” woman the minute you say “i do”.

Is this a red flag? Guy I haven’t met yet wants our first meet to be in a car

I met this guy on social media. The conversations have been okay. There’s been some flirty banter but nothing crazy.

It hasn’t been a full week of talking yet, and this person wants to see me already. Which I get it, I don’t like being on the phone all the time either.

This person wants me to meet them in the car though. They keep saying for us to go on a ride as our first meeting…

I also asked to face time, and when I didn’t answer right away, they were annoyed with me. I called back maybe 25 mins later (busy) and he answered but then hung up quickly and said he would call back.

Next day, he never called back.

This is definitely a red flag right? I’m thinking of not even entertaining them anymore if they do contact me

I am of a certain age many would find it time to get married. I am not in a rush at all but my parents are.

I used to date local sinkie girls but after a while it always gets dull or they start to have more and more demands.

Here are some examples:

1. I kena a local gf that tied me down like a pet dog, I can’t even leave my home without telling her (Going to buy toilet paper and the place is literally 3mins away from home, also kena)

2. I kena another one that expects me to buy her diamonds and gold every year, I broke off with her not because I cannot afford it, I just find it ridiculous. So I told her that I will dig my nose and give her a diamond.

3. another one told me that I have to get a BMW as my Toyota looks too lousy to her friends, her exact words: “Get a BMW, so you don’t look like a loser in front of my friends. Not like you cannot afford”.

Thats why I a bit sian of trying to date local woman, either they are divorce or unwanted goods or they have some crazy attitude problems or their mentality is practically build based on TV material.

I am thinking to go to a Vietnamese bride agency and just get over with it.

But the questions is, does anyone have any experience and can they tell me the pros and cons.

Context: I’m Singaporean and I am planning to get married with my foreigner gf, planning to get a resale hdb after marriage within 12months if everything goes well.

I’d need some advices with hdb/bank loan because it’s quite complicated for our situation.

The thing is that, I don’t have any CPF contribution at all for the past years since my income are all coming from investment, never reported them since it’s all capital gains.

She’ll be searching for a job here and I think it’d take sometimes for her to have one so that means no income too for awhile.

Is it even possible to get a bank or hdb loan in our case?

I do have enough money to pay off the entire hdb if needed to but I wouldn’t want to do that because I’d have to sell some of my equities to cash for that.

I have low 6 figures cash for the down payment but would like to get the rest on loan if possible. Any advices are all appreciated! Thanks in advance

My girlfriend (29F) and I (31M) have been together for over 5 years.

We have talked about marriage and she has put some pressure on me to propose, as we have recently moved in together. She is sweet, empathetic, beautiful; an all around wonderful person and I am deeply in love with her.

But she quit her job about 16 months ago and I have been paying for everything, although I have made it clear that this is not sustainable long-term. She does some online work that pays her about $500/month which she uses for nice things (skincare, etc.) but everything else has been paid for by me.

I have also loaned her nearly $7K to pay off high-interest credit cards, because I couldn’t stand to see her struggle just to make the interest payments. In the past, she has done things like signing up for an expensive course ($2K+) with my credit card, promising to pay me back and never has.

It’s not that she is lazy, I just think she is a bit lost in terms of what she wants to do. One day it’s starting a beauty blog and selling services and products online, and the next day she want to go back to school and become an aesthetician (more loans I would probably have to help her with).

In the past, we have fought about money because I would like her to help out a bit if we are going to make a future together. I am not rich by any means, I have been very frugal to get to where I am (which is about $10K emergency fund + $20K invested).

Yesterday:

Looking through my credit card statements, I noticed a bunch of charges on my backup credit card piling up over $500. I call her and ask what’s up and she tells me she didn’t want me to get mad, so she took my credit card without asking for ’emergencies’. I got mad. I saw it as a sign of shadiness, bordering thievery. I told her I would much rather her ask me first, as I have been more than generous in the past if she asks first. She agrees that it was messed up, apologizes and I try to move on.

Today:

I check my amazon account today and see that she ordered over $300 worth of beauty products the same day as our conversation. I call her again and she cries and says that it happened before we had our conversation. I am livid, because we just had a conversation about being forthcoming, and I am at a loss for what to do…

Any advice would be appreciated.

She left me for the guy she told me not to worry about, now wants me back since he rejected her.

So, its kind of a long story. Back in october of last year i met a girl at a club and got her number, we talked alot and i began to really like her, she really liked me too.

We started going out and our relationship was strong. But then i found out she had this guy friend who gives her flowers and asks her to the movies and stuff. She didnt tell me herself, i found out.

Call me insecure or whatever, but i was upset by this. I talked to her about and she was like He’s just a friend dont worry about him etc. and even said she would block him if it made me so uncomfortable.

I thought nah its fine i guess i dont have to worry about him.

Her parents absolutely despise me, so they made her break up with me. We were separated but we promised to still keep in touch and wait for each other.

Fast forward a few months, i find out she’s hooking up with that “friend”. I havent been in contact with her for a few months but i text her, angry.

Yeah, i know shes not my girlfriend at this point so i cant tell her what to do, but we had a thing. we had a promise.

She tries to defend herself with “you dont know how much i suffered, i got sick and tired of waiting” and “he just gave me the attention i needed it just happened” and overall a whatever who cares attitude towards how i felt, that being hurt and betrayed.

But then she tried to make it official with him and he dipped out. He just wanted to bang, and he dipped once he got that.

Now she came back to me saying “i never moved on from you idk what i was thinking”. right. But then she had the audacity to ask “If we started dating again, would you let me stay friends with him?”

I feel so hurt. and betrayed, and so angry. But i dont wanna lash out, i dont wanna take that frustration out, cuz then ill immediately look like the bad guy. I dont know what the hell to do rn.

A woman who worked in a Thai Disco recently shared her story on Instagram saying why she rather work in Singapore as a hostess.

She shared that she is a degree graduate but she rather works in Singapore as it is much more lucrative than any job back home.

This is what she said:

I have degree an I used to work a office job when I was in Bangkok but the money so little. I work in Singapore 1 week more than I earn in Thailand for 3 months.

I know many people say my job no good always drink and many bad men but I need money to take care of my family. My father gamble, in debt, must pay back for him. My mother work hard in Thailand but earn little bit not enough give my brother study.

But no choice, work here better in Thailand. any job also lesser money than in disco. In Singapore I earn 10 time more.

I know when I old no body want me but nevermind, I finish work here few year. I go back Thai I buy home buy car buy everything.

Then I do small business no die can already.

F&B Workers are the Punching Bags of Society in Singapore

Throughout my decade of experience working in the food service industry in several countries within Asia, I have observed that rank and file F&B workers are treated the ABSOLUTE WORST in Singapore.

From the customers to bosses and even delivery riders are no exception. A large majority of them have zero consideration towards the frontline F&B Staff.

There is a country-wide staff shortage within the F&B industry right now and this issue is highlighted at the entrances of many F&B establishments.

The likelihood of slow service should be expected by customers.

As a manager of a reputable F&B chain in Singapore, I often receive complaints stating that “As paying customers, we should not be affected by your manpower shortage”.

Ideally, yes, I wish that was the case. But we are all limited by our 2 hands and legs. We can only move as fast as our physical limitations allow.

Truly, what else are we supposed to do?

I 56M have had a feeling they my wife 50f has been cheating on me for a while now.

We have a dead bedroom and she claims to be low libido. Yet she do it herself regularly. Much more regularly than we have any physical contact.

There have been multiple deceptions and lies that have been red flags as well. I do not think this is a regularly occurring thing. I believe if it is happening only occasionally and only when there is an opportunity.

A little over a month ago I decided to track her movements with a GPS device. I work away and sometimes she comes with me and sometimes she does not. For almost a month she was always where she said she would be. Even when I was away.

One day recently she was driving down to stay with me at work and she diverted once she got to the place I work in. She drove straight to a place there was full of hotels on the other side of town. Her car was in the parking lot for exactly 1/2 hour then she stopped at a couple of stores and arrived at our house there.

The next day she left the house while I was at work and drove straight to the same area and again her car was in the parking lot for 1/2 hour then she went shopping at a clothing store and then grocery shopping before returning home. That evening she only told me about going to the grocery store. I took the opportunity to tell her her skin seemed glowing and asked her if she did some facials.

But why lie about it? Any thoughts? By the way the car is in my name so there is no legal problem with placing a tracker in it.