Found out fiancé and his fam are planning to get me pregnant

Admin pls don’t filter this, I don’t have anyone to turn to, not even my parents. Trying to keep this short, am in my mid 20s, fiancé in his mid 30s. I enjoy being with him alot. We’ve been tgt for long and l made it clear from the start that I only wanted a child at 30, which he agreed to. Why at such a late age is because I wanted to continue studying after Uni.

At present, I’ve gotten my masters and am very contented with my job. Not long after I graduated, fiancé proposed and I noticed some changes. The topic of kids started becoming more frequent.

From “see how cute xx’s babies are” to “what will u do if u suddenly got pregnant? You won’t abort the baby right?” Whenever his nephew and niece visited, his parents started joking that I should pop out a playmate for them soon.

A few weeks ago, fiancé drove out to get dinner while I stayed in his room to finish a report on his computer. It’s my fault, I opened his desktop WhatsApp out of curiosity, just wanting to see who he was texting. I totally take the blame at this part.

Everything seemed fine until I saw my name mentioned by his dad. I clicked the convo, and it was them exchanging links on how to get a woman pregnant inconspicuously. His dad wrote that he’d done something similar with his mom and she never regretted having more kids than she originally intended so “(my name) will be thankful next time”

I tried to minimise interaction with his fam after that, but still kept things usual. They’ve treated me with a lot of love and kindness, even offering to buy a condo for us when we got engaged. When I brought this issue up with my mom, she echoed the same sentiments that I should have a child as early as possible.

She didn’t think there was much to it since fiancé and his fam are generous and well to do, so I’d have a comfortable life. When I talked to my dad, he didn’t support their actions but also advised me it was “dangerous to wait too long”.

Right now I’m extremely wary when sleeping with fiancé, which he has been requesting more of, in case he tries to pull anything funny. Have hinted and reminded him that I’d like another 4/5 years in the corporate world before having a child, but he brushes it off, jokingly saying that he’s more than ready to be a dad and take care of us, and his family also want to help raise our kids.

I’m not sure how to feel about this situation. I’m furious that no one is taking me seriously or respects my wishes. But I’m also scared to appear demanding and overreacting, with how people are downplaying the issue. I definitely don’t want to lose my fiancé because I still love him.

This issue aside, I’ve always viewed him as my ideal partner in life, from looks, personality, charm and intelligence. It’s just that because of our age difference, while he has scaled the corporate ladder and feels comfortable settling down, I’m only just starting out.

I wish I could go back in time to stop myself from going through his messages. Am I being selfish for wanting more time before having a child?

company refuses to acknowledge my resignation

hi guys, i need some advice regarding some work issues im facing. im currently interning in a singapore-based mnc and they continually refuse to process my resignation. what should i do?

context: i have been in this role for a little over a year, and i currently see no point in staying. at the start of the orientation, they promised us that we would have a good, meaningful experience and learn a lot during our time here.

however, when orientation about the job actually begun, i saw what a lie that was. the direct superiors of the interns were power-hungry and aimed to take advantage of us, knowing that we were new.

they overloaded us with tasks throughout the day and gaslighted us when we made the smallest mistakes, even when they were the ones at fault.

i switched departments and it wasnt any much of a difference. there was constant office politics, with people wanting to outdo each other no matter the cost to get a promotion.

my superior even made us come in on saturdays to ‘do what we were supposed to do’ and meet his kpis. there wasnt any proper handover procedures in place, and we had to learn things from scratch as the employees who were leaving refused to contact the company again.

as our department is facing manpower issues, we sometimes have to stay awake throughout the night for a few nights a week as well to do our tasks. to make things worse, the company is facing financial issues and isnt looking to increase our salaries, which is already below market pay.

as im not learning much in this role anyway, and this industry doesnt align with my degree prospects, im looking to resign.

however, my superior and managing director of the division constantly refuses to acknowledge my resignation, saying im required to continue my internship ‘by law’ and ‘its only two years’.

ive talked to my MP before, but it doesnt help that my MP has connections with the company and was once managing director of another sister company, refusing to help out with my problem.

any advice on what i should do?

Netizens’ comments

• What law they talking about? You are not their slave. Did you accept anything for a 2 year bond? Take your employment contract and complain to MoM.
  In your email comms to that MP, cc his boss, our PM Lee.  then you would see how fast his attitude turns
• Wah Lao…. What kind of problem is this? Just send in official resignation, they accept or not it’s fine, just go on leave. See if they want to continue paying you or not.
• Just so you know, it’s an offence for them to reject your resignation under the Employment Act

Hi 27M here, just want to ask is it possible to find a girl to marry on paper in order to buy a bto, then each of us pay 50% of the bto, with no intimate r/s involved,

basically me or the girl can bring any guy/girl home and the other party will not care as we are not in a real r/s, just being together on paper to buy a bto, then when the MOP is up we will sell the flat and split the proceeds 50-50, and then divorce.

Would this be legal? Would it be realistic to be able to find a girl who be willing to hop into this ‘investment’ plan as well?

As I cant stand living with my family and want to move out asap but dont qualify for bto as a single.

Netizens’ comments

• This is called a scam marriage.
• By asking it outright, it’s not legal already. Pls lah instead of such an elaborated plan that takes years to materialise with trust issues etc, and then u still need to buy another flat later after selling , just go rent, buy small condo or find a real gf and marry her lah. So many simpler options wanan go for the most complicated one 
• You know there’s something call RENT righ? Otherwise just wait a few more years you can buy yourself as a SINGLE man la, why complicate things? You buy bto now also need to wait what.
• Just rent la knn what kinda stupid plan you trying to come up with when the solution is so simple
• The maximum penalty for the marriage of convenience offence is a fine of up to $10,000 and/or jail time of up to 10 years.
• Alamak u didnt serve NS?! You can do whatever you want. Just dun get caught nia! Conform you one blur sotong during NS right?