Ladies, does it matter if your partner is unambitious and doesn’t have goals career-wise?

Since young, I always liked a simple life and doesn’t like to work too hard. I am currently earning about the median salary in sg.

As I don’t have any desire to move up the career ladder, I can predict how much I can earn maximum in the next 20-30 years. It’ll be enough to lead a simple life but defo not enough to get the finer things in life like condo, cars, exotic holidays, nice clothes, nice Renos etc. As for settling down, I believe my salary is enough for a 3-4 room bto but nothing more than that.

I’ve casually dated a few girls and most of them seem to value ambition in a partner. Unsurprisingly, I could see the disappointed looks on their faces when I told them how my future can be like. Some casual chats with my female friends also seem to confirm they prefer guys who are willing to strive and have good prospects.

I’d really love to find a girl who is willing to live a simple life too.

I know that many families did just fine with incomes lower than mine and I even read about that guy who supported 8 kids on $300 a week in the news recently.

Here are what netizens think:

• You can be rich and live a simple life too.There is a difference between Ambitious vs. Diligent vs. Lazy.Most women prefer their men to be diligent. Many professionals out there are not very ambitious but they are certainly very rich because they love what they are doing and are very diligent to excel in the things that they do.

• I had an ex who is like that. He stayed in his company for almost 15years. No increment. Not planning to move either. That’s lazy to me. My husband, change jobs every 2 to 3 years, no intention to climb corporate ladder, reject promotions so he can come home to our 2 toddlers and me. He is extremely simple. Not much friends ever since we have children. He just hangs out with us 24/7. This, is totally different from my ex.

• You can make your choice, but finances will always be a big factor in any relationship. Jackie Chan was like you once, but the Great Bruce Lee scolded him in a very harsh way and the rest is history. Your low ambition will poison your career and HR can see that clearly … which will lead to nasty stuff they love to do to workers. Think about it.

Since BMT i have always had a messed up pooping cycle where as when i am in camp i don’t feel the need to for 5 days and only felt the need to after bookout, like my stomach just decided to ache after reaching home.

My longest was 10 days during confinement, But when I’m at home my poop cycle is the normal once or twice per day till i go back to camp.

Not a troll post but just curious if yall are like this too.

PS. My health is not affected by this, just that I’m surprised that the human body can actually hold in 10 days worth of poop.

Netizens’ comments

• Sounds like it might be travel constipation, it’s when a person undergoes constipation when they’ve traveling, the travel leads to a variety of factors affecting this such as a change in routine, change in diet, change in toilet (maybe the toilet in BMT is less clean, and you don’t constantly have access to it, so your body is less inclined to defecate).

• Same for me during bmt. But you have to force yourself to poop. After a couple months, I go once every other day in camp
  Holding it in for so long will mess up your colon and large intestine health in the long term

• I had a bunkmate like this too. So much so that he would always go home during the nights out every Wed just to poop. We’re talking LCK to Pasir Ris.

Don’t ask couples when they are having kids.

I am 25 and my wife is 25. 2 years ago my wife had ovarian cancer and had to get her ovaries removed to get rid of the cancer and as such we will never be able to have our own biological kids.

My wife has still not emotionally recovered from this and constantly insists that I should be with someone that can give me children.

I have been in support of my wife since we got married and biology means little to me when there is thousands of kids desperate for parents.

What gets me is the fact when people ask my wife and I in a group when we plan on having kids in a jokey way.

My wife has to make a joke and put on a face so as not to sour the mood but that night she will be in tears all over again that she cannot have her own kids.

Seriously people. You have no idea what challenges couples face and its no ones business when people decide to have kids.

Whether you meant not to be offensive is not the point.

I just had to get that off my chest. We are facing a lot of emotional damage and inconsiderate people set the rails off sometimes.

Thank you for reading my story.

I’m a 33 year old man who is short, fat, balding, still a virgin and the bearer of a small “down there”. It was over for me before it began.

I also work a low paying job so I’m not wealthy enough to offset any of these flaws let alone all of them combined.

It’s okay though. I’ve made my peace with it. This is who I am and what my life is. Ultimately the only thing I could change to make myself more attractive would be my weight and even then I don’t think it would help much.

It’s okay and like I said I have more of less made peace with it. I understand that life isn’t fair and that I’ll probably meet someone in time but things definitely suck right now.

Netizen’s comments

Bro, this will sound harsh, but it’s coming from a good place.

The sooner you realiza that you’re the one putting the barrier on yourself, and that you have the power to change for the better, the better your life will get.

Like hey, you’re balding, you’re short and your pee-pee is small.But those are invariables, wallowing and feeling bad about it won’t change.

You’re weight however, you 100% control that. Your attitude? In your control.

I was in a really dark place some years ago, and I let myself go overweight, my dating life wasn’t going good, I was depressed, and I felt bad about myself. I get where you’re coming from, I’ve been there

All I’m saying is that, there are things you can control. Stop feeling sorry about yourself, and you’ll be surprised by how much you can achieve.

All I’m saying is try. Try to not feel like a victime of life, try to get fit. Try to change your perspective. Try to live a life that you want to live. Try to enjoy your time in this earth.

Cause even if you fail, (which I don’t think you will), doesn’t that sound like a more enjoyable life?

You got this man, don’t give up on yourself, it’s never too late to start