A netizen shared how she visited her boyfriend’s mother for Chinese New Year and they had nothing to talk about, and they ended up just sitting there watching TV for 2 hours in silence.
Here is the story:
My bf makes it compulsory for mutual CNY family visitations. I appreciate that thoughtfulness. He comes with me to 拜年 (Mandarin for house visitation) to my parents, and I’m supposed to go to his place to 拜年 to his mum. I’m generally okay with that tbh.
The only problem is – his mum is REALLY quiet. I tried initiating conversation with small talk, but after some time topic buay gam then forget it.
So we end up sitting on the sofa – three of us – staring at the Chinese-dubbed Korean drama for two hours! I was so incredibly bored I kept hinting to him that I’m done and ready to leave.
My bf then asked me why I’m not talking to his mum. Huh?!? Eh hello, I tried leh. I’m also not say jialat at small talk since my job requires that I do that quite often. ???? But topic buay gum.
For the last few years, I’ve been so busy I have no time to watch TV. I have no idea what to talk about that would interest her. And the responses only one word one word.
A conversation is two-way right – how is it fair to expect me to keep the conversation warm when it’s a one-sided effort???
My own family comes with its own self-high button, so it’s infinitely more fun to 拜年 and hang out with. Wah every year I dread going over to his place sia. I’ve never been so bored to death. Damn it.
Editor’s note: Same, I just sit in the living room and watch TV in silence at my relative’s home every CNY.
So my 17 year old daughter made the choice to become a raw vegan a couple of weeks ago.
I have no problem with her choosing whatever dietary path she feels is best for her but she now requests that I cook separate dinners for her and find a way to accommodate her in all family meals. I told her that while I respect her food choices, it would be a lot of work for me to have to make two separate sets of food all the time.
I told her she’s welcome to cook them herself or wait until she moves out to be a raw vegan. My husband doesn’t think it was considerate of me to say that to her.
Is it my fault?
Here are what netizens think:
Exactly! Learning to cook would only be setting her up for success, vegan or not.
I’m always surprised by parents who will bend over backwards to accommodate their kids eating preferences versus having them cook themselves. I learned to cook because I’d ask my mom, “what’s for dinner” and if she responded with something I didn’t like and I said “ew,” she’d say, “well, you cook then.” So I did.
Yep, I was 11 when I started to ask my parents to leave a piece of fish for me to cook myself because I didn’t like how they made it (it was a nasty fad, baking it under a layer of mayonnaise – I hated it and preferred to pan-fry it). A 17 year old is perfectly capable of accommodating her own food choices – especially raw vegan ones, since that involves no difficult cooking techniques.
Her Mom isn’t going to be there to navigate her food choices in the future when She leaves home, so she might as well learn now. Her diet choice shouldn’t be another chore for Mom.
A netizen shared his side of the story after being criticised publicly by his (relationship status unclear, former?) fiancee.
Here is the story:
In response to *see linked post at the bottom* I am that guy who did not “care” about the proposal, wedding, and house.
I admit I am a very horrible person that made a lot of mistakes in life, I have gambled heavily, spent money on stupid stuff (can’t manage my finances), dabbled in cryptocurrency, made too many female friends, and never treated you right. Do I regret all of these? No, because they made me a better person to who I am today. And I have you to thank for that at the very least.
Yes, we were together for 4 years in a relationship that was always on and off. We broke up and patched back many times due to many disagreements and faults with me. I was the one that was being dumped most of the time and being the one apologizing for my mistakes. She will always make it a point that making the same mistake is not a mistake, it’s a choice. And so, I have to learn to live with my choices and bear the wrath of her.
Our most recent breakup was in October 2021, when I had to “obtain” a minimum of $80,000 I kept back with my parents if not I had to leave my family for good. Well, I was about $5000 from hitting the target (I had $5000 worth of gold but she only accepted cash), eventually, I moved out of the house but she decided to break up with me again because I pissed her off and I ended up back with my family. This money would be used to purchase a resale HDB in a good location (her list of criteria on the property includes, balcony, good location, appreciating property, friendly agent, North-South Orientation, and good rental yield) , on top of CPF and whatever else cash in hand.
We only got back together in November 2021, and I was given a budget of only $300 to plan a proposal. I still had to find a photographer. Also we recently quarreled in December 16th, also her father reminded me that my time was almost up and that he would kick me out from the house and I will never be able to enter it again. So with all the quarrels, instability of the relationship and frequent outbursts of anger due to my mistakes, how would I feel about a proposal? I’m sure many guys would have already given up, but because there’s still love left for her, I decided to stick with it and do what I can. As time was of the essence and the budget was too, I did with what I could find.
I admit I am not the most detailed on the design of the ring and should have went with a better jeweler, but she was not comfortable on me spending a lot on the design of the ring, hence I went for the most affordable option. I spent quite a bomb on a diamond, despite it being a lab-created diamond it was pretty big (1.8+ carat, VS1, Ideal Cut) and impressive to me, and as a bonus, I decided to upgrade her diamond earrings to a bigger one at the same time. But guess what? She said she preferred a NATURAL Diamond because it retains value and wanted to return the ring and told me to sell them off. Because a natural diamond is real and a lab-created one is not.
I work 2 jobs in a day, in the day I would be working as a sales executive trying to close deals and hit the target or I’ll get kicked out, and in the night I would be working as a marketer running my own small business with my GF. I am busy AF, I still had to squeeze in additional time to look at property and start planning for a wedding. The wedding does not include my family in the list, because my family is against her and she is against them. Apart from the fact of trying to keep my GF happy and also needed the time workout to get fit for a pre-wedding photoshoot, I have too many things going on that I can’t focus. Is there bound to be mistakes? Yes. But again, she would say, a mistake repeated is a choice. So I guess it’s my choice that I made a mistake.
Most of the profits from the small business goes to her salary (I agreed that I would contribute $1,500 every month to her in the early stages of the relationship when she left her job) while I don’t take any except for the occasional small bonuses. I pay for everything else in the relationship, groceries for her and her mother, food, bills, everything using money earned on my own.
Throughout the year of 2021, I have bought for her many gifts to keep her happy. The latest being a brand new Chanel Boy. In total, she has 5 LVs and 1 Chanel.
I have paid for all the trips we went overseas and stayed for a few months back then.
I would like to say that I’m not a perfect person let alone a perfect boyfriend and a future husband. I am bound to make mistakes in my life and will continue to do so until the day I die.
A woman shared how she wouldn’t be too sad if her parents died because they mistreated her over the years and still expects her to do everything for them.
Here is the story:
I wouldn’t be too sad if my parents died
If my parents died, I would be sad, but I’d get over it quickly. I don’t think I’d miss them at all.
Some days, I imagine life without them and I think I’d be happier. No one around to make passive-aggressive comments towards me, no one pestering me for money, no one belittling me.
I always feel down after I have to spend too much time with them. I wish they’d just…. disappear.
I don’t see eye to eye with them on anything. They’re alien to me. They mistreated me physically and emotionally, but pretend like they did nothing wrong.
I can’t wrap my head around it. How can they put me through that much violence and still expect me to do everything for them?
I just nod and go along with whatever they say, but deep down inside, I want nothing to do with them.
I hope they can get what’s coming for them in the afterlife, I hope karma gets to them and they are punished for it.
But because of them, I know I’m a good mom because I know what children need… unconditional love.
Netizens comments
Oh, man. Don’t wait for their death to separate yourself from them. Can you separate now?
Unless there are ties that bind you, there’s no reason to stay (or stay in contact) and let them continue to treat you like crap. You deserve better.
I’ve cut off manipulative family members. It was like ripping off a bandaid…a bit painful for just a bit, but then it was done and I’ve been free from that BS ever since.
A netizen shared how her husband was “over-zealous” about giving out angpaos and she asked what’s there to be excited about?
Here is the story:
First CNY as newlyweds, we are now “required” to give ang baos to our younger/single relatives, and my husband is being so annoyingly over-zealous about it.
I mean, what’s there to be excited about? We are giving away our hard-earned money and by no means did any of it come from them.
My husband even took the effort to queue for the new notes, when I told him we should be environmentally friendly and the notes from atm are just as good. Furthermore, he even ordered customized ang baos with his surname on it and made me stay up late with him to pack the ang baos.
Everything just feels so meaningless and I can’t seem to gel on this with him.
Is it me? I just can’t seem to immerse myself in this CNY fever like my husband has. I didn’t want to pour cold water over him, therefore I’m just sucking it up and trying to be participative and trying to ensure he doesn’t overspend (i.e. justifying that our ang bao can just be $8 instead of >$10 since we do not have a child yet and this is our first year)
Hoping for 15 Feb to come sooner so we can be over with this CNY.
Netizens’ comments
People have no idea what your financial situation is and think this is a chance to flex how generous they are.
The holidays are feeling… different this year and you’re not alone. Maybe you can work out a lump sum as a budget, from there he can decide how much $ he wants to put into each..and who he wants to distribute it to.
What matters is that you are putting in the effort to meet him halfway. Don’t let a disagreement over $100 affect your CNY if you can help it.
Cyclists in Singapore will be required to follow new restrictions enforced by the Singapore Land Transport Authority (LTA) beginning in January 2022.
The rules will apply not just to bikers, but also to users of unpowered personal mobility devices (PMD) like kick scooters and skateboards, powered PMD like electric scooters, unicycles, skateboards, and hoverboards, and personal mobility aids like motorized wheelchairs.
Sometimes on the road, we are often annoyed by a number of vehicles, especially E-scooters or bicycles. A cyclist was seen hogging the lane without keeping the lane and even challenging the driver to a fight.
Fines for errant cyclist is SGD $150.
Here is what the netizen said:
At around 1:50pm today at Yishun, a foodpanda rider was hogging the left side of the road(the only lane that can make a left turn) for a long time.
Despite the other lanes being completely empty. There were other cars behind wanting to make the left turn too. After my vehicle was stationary, he pointed his middle finger and started to come towards us. Upon seeing that he wanted a confrontation, I winded down the window and the first two thing he said was ‘chao jibai Lai ah and that’s the road so what?’
A man shared how he hates working in a home for the physically and intellectually disabled, and he says that they add nothing to society and that they are a burden.
Here is the story:
People think I’m a good person because of my job
For a living, I manage a home for individuals with physical and mental disabilities. When I tell people what I do they typically say something like “Oh that takes a really caring and compassionate person to do what you do.” OR “That must be so rewarding.”
I actually hate my job but I’m good at what I do and I’ve been doing it for 11 years. So it would be difficult to get into a new field. When I tell people I hate my job they then ask why…
I personally believe that the types of individuals I take care of serve no purpose. They’re not adding anything to society either. If anything they’re a burden. They just shouldn’t exist.
Once I tell people that, they say something like I’m evil and that I shouldn’t exist.
Well, my mother who is mentally disabled herself but is very high functioning tried to get rid of me but things didn’t work out, so here we are.
Netizens comments
Your soul has been branded and tarnished with the horror of rejection by your mother – this has caused you to seek to experience that original rejection and betrayal in your life – by working in a domain that to you in a sense contains some portion of the original essence which violated you.
You have needed to be continually familiar with it. Your personal sense of the validity or value of your clientele has not prevented you from rendering professional treatment to them.
There is no problem as far as I can see. Your destiny unravels before you as it does for all of us.
Scammers who pretend to be Police officers have been very annoying, they call us none stop and many of us know that these callers are from overseas.
But the level of annoyance is so high sometimes we just want to get back at the scammers.
A man was called by a scammer and the scammer’s Whatsapp call requested that the call be switched to video. The man wears a police cap while waiting for the video to intiate.
Full Video Loading…
“You pretend to be Police I also can”
The scammer was shocked for a few seconds after seeing the Police cap before turning off his camera.
The man who pranks the scammer can be seen smiling before the video call was initiated, probably knowing that this is going to be good.
Perfect smile for the win, this round of winners goes to our local man, wasting the scammers time can be fun but we need to be always alert from this kind of calls.
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A girl shared how she was on a first date and the guy helped her order a salad, telling her that he doesn’t want to be with a fatty when he’s 50.
Here is the story
Guy on my date last night: “The lady will have a salad. I don’t want to be 50 and married to a fatty”.
This guy asked me on a date and took me to a steakhouse he said had been wanting to check out. When the waitress came to take our order he ordered a tomahawk steak plus two sides and then told the waitress “the lady will have a salad”.
My jaw dropped. I told him I didn’t know if he was joking or maybe trying to be “gentleman-like” but I can order myself whatever I decide to eat.
He then said he expects the women he dates to take care of themselves and be feminine, not eat 100 grams of fat in one sitting in front of him because “that’s not feminine”.
“You’re very hot but this is a red flag for me. I know women who look like you and the moment they land a man they let themselves go. I don’t want to be 50 and married to a fatty. That’s why men cheat”.
Lmfao talk about red flags. The whole thing was so offensive but I couldn’t help but burst out laughing because he was just beyond ridiculous and so full of himself. I told him his behaviour was off-putting and thanked him for showing me so quick who he really was.
He said “I don’t have to apologise for knowing what I want” and when I was getting up to leave he told me he has Bitcoin and I’ll never have another chance to “snatch” another man like him. I said “that’s the idea” and left.
I’m still laughing about it.
To answer a few questions: First date, met him at a coworker’s BBQ. I walked out before ordering anything, stayed there for less than 10 minutes.
Drove to my sister’s home, ate homemade lasagne and watched a movie with my nieces. The waitress didn’t find it funny at all either but she was working and being professional, but you could tell though…
On the table next to us was an elderly couple and the woman was looking daggers at him. I almost peed myself laughing at his face then again while telling the story to my sister and then my friends.
Hello, me and my gf have been dating for a little while now. She just recently informed me that she is pregnant. She was on birth control and i thought it was safe, so i thought, apparently she lied to me, she will not give me a straight answer on why or how long she stopped taking it.
I believe, along with other reasons, that she purposely got pregnant without my permission.
But, pregnant nonetheless. I have not approached her on this and have only supported her so far. She is very anti-abortion and obviously wants to keep it. I personally, am not against kids, but seeing the way she did it, I don’t want to be with her.
She also has a condition called PCOS which makes miscarriages higher and getting pregnant hard to begin with. I guess im just looking for advice on how to move forward with this as its a lot to take in.
Here are what netizens think:
This is a big breach of trust. Are you absolutely sure she was on BC and then stopped? You should definitely approach her on this. While you might have a kid with her, that does not mean you have to be with her. The fact that she would lie and misdirection about something this big and life changing is giant red flag. She is willing to lie to and manipulate you to get what she wants.
Get rid of her, She decided that her wish to be pregnant was more important than your consent.
So did the conversation start with, “did you get pregnant on purpose?” Or “when did you do off birth control?” Cause I can see why you might not get an answer.
Did she say she was ever off her bc? Bc, while highly effective does still have a failure rate. If she accidentally skips a day or takes it at a different time or even takes it while on antibiotics can affect the effectiveness.
