So recently I started seeing this guy I have a huge crush on. He likes me back, or at least he did up until this point.

Earlier today we went on a lunch date at a restaurant. Afterwards, we walked to the park together, where we just sat and chilled. As we were having a great convo, I had to go to the bathroom, but I held it in because I assumed there would not be a bathroom nearby and I could make it until I got home.

However, as time went on, I realized I couldn’t hold it in any longer, so I asserted that I needed to use the bathroom. I checked for the nearest bathroom on my phone, which was close enough, but he offered to go with me, since it was a little ways out.

As you can imagine, this stressed me out, but I couldn’t reject his offer. So we started walking (and I did so at an embarrassingly brisk pace while wearing heels, which were killing my feet).

Unfortunately for me, he was quite close to me, and within about 7 mins of walking, I felt I could no longer hold it in. I told myself that I could make it, and that I couldn’t embarrass myself any more, especially because I only needed about 3 more mins until I made it to the bathroom.

To my demise, however, as my date was walking right next to me, I let out a shart in front of him. My heart sunk into my stomach as my date just made an involuntary expression of disgust. Quickly, he tried to compose himself, but I sharted again. I wanted to cry and run off, but he reaffirmed me that everything is ok and that accidents happen.

I just told him that I needed to go home and he said that he understands and we parted ways. He texted me if I got home but hasn’t texted me since then. I literally can’t face him anymore and the amount of embarrassment I went through feels intolerable.

Please help me.

I went out with a guy last week that I like, we actually met a few years ago at a bar and kissed when we had been drinking, but it didn’t progress into anything and we just stayed friends and talked occasionally on social media.

I didn’t see him for almost 2 years because I was studying overseas, but then I just moved back to Singapore, and we went out on a date last week. He was really nice, we went to dinner, he paid, and then we went to a bar to listen to some music with his friends. Afterwards, we went to his apartment and were watching TV in his bed. He didn’t try to pressure me into anything, but I could tell he probably wanted to hook up because of some of his body language. lol, but I just kinda ignored it because I didn’t feel like I know him well enough at this time to do it with him. We kissed for a while but that was it.

I haven’t heard anything from him since last week when I left his apartment. I did text him first once that day about something random but his answers were really short, so I stopped trying to make conversation. Before we went to his apartment (still during the date) he kept talking about “oh we should do this together” or “we should take this trip!” together so it seemed like he was interested in pursuing a relationship may be or at least getting to know me more.

Do you all think he just wanted to hook up and isn’t reaching out to me anymore because of it?

I feel kinda disappointed bc I feel like we had a fun time and I like spending time with him, but if he was just interested in a hookup I guess I shouldn’t be wasting my time with him anyway. I don’t know.

Here are what netizens think:

• Maybe he felt you were uncomfortable with him?

• Reach out and start a normal conversation. Then you will understand what he feels or needs

• You gave him the ultimate blue balls, u kiss him went to his apartment and leave him hanging, now your expecting him to give you more effort? Give and take.

• leave him alone. You gave him messages on date night and he interpreted them in the most respectful way possible. Now he’s given you some: you should respect them.

• It is a great idea to try and clear it up with him. And it would be even better to start that conversation by explaining the reason for your actions, which he likely perceived as a lack of interest.

For context, my husband and I have been living apart for 6 months as he found a job at Jurong Island and he is on a 12-hour shift and it makes no sense to travel 1 hour plus 2-ways just to come home, shower and to sleep less than 8 hours. Luckily, his company provides him with an allowance and he uses it to rent a room in the Jurong West area.

I would wish that he could be staying in our flat, however, I am working at Changi and my contract is not due yet so we agreed to commute back and forth until I finished my current job (which will be next month). He moved purely for financial reasons and not due to any relationship issues.

I live in a normal HDB apartment in the east. However, as I’ve been lonely and sad I’ve been sleeping on the couch in front of the t.v. I only go to my actual bedroom to change clothes.

My husband came back yesterday to visit me. This morning he was in the bedroom and started asking me about a pair of men’s trousers he found. I was confused and said they must be his. He started to get more agitated and said they can’t be his trousers. I started laughing as I said they are definitely his trousers. I haven’t seen them before but I said they must be an old pair he had forgotten about. He got angry and said this is impossible.

I asked him if he thinks another man was here and he didn’t answer, he just said whose trousers are these? I told him no other man was here and it hurt me he could think of me like that.

Also, I said if another man came why would I just leave his trousers there like that? Also, he can check my phone anytime I never stop him.

He is angry and said to just leave it. I don’t know what to do as I really never had another man here and I never cheated. Additionally, I compared the trousers to his other older trousers and they are the same size.

But he is still angry. What can i do?