I’ve been with my new girlfriend for 5 months now and we have regular intercourse, she always finishes and I always finish after her.

However we came to a road block and she wants me to do more foreplay which I have been trying to do she says she want me to be more dominant which I am being.

But last night she was trying to initiate the mood but I didn’t want to I told her no and that was that.

She later was all quiet and didn’t say much. I asked her what was wrong and she said that she just thinks I am boring in bed, which shocked me cause it was out of no where.

I asked how I can improve and spice things up more for her but she only replied with I should just know.

I said I don’t know what you want me to do if you don’t tell me, which she replied to by saying her ex was a virgin and he knew how to keep it entertaining and that he was actually good and better than me in bed.

This hit me extremely hard in my chest and I didn’t know how to respond made me feel like I just wanted to break down and cry.

Does anyone know how I can spice things up with her and how I can get over this heavy numb feeling??

Netizens’ comments

1. that’s immature and hurtful..
2. Yeah, she’s mad that she got turned down. How sad. She also sounds incredibly spiteful. That was a very low blow. Continue at your own risk.
3. Yeah no, I wouldn’t spend any more time on her, communication is massively important in a relationship and especially with intimacy. No one “just knows”
4. She’s hinting that she wants to hook up with Professor X i guess.

My girlfriend (33f) is getting an abortion. I think its to hide the fact that she’s cheating on me (34m).

I’ve been in a relationship with my current girlfriend for 10 years (i think at this point were basically married in all but name).

We’ve been trying to have kids for the past few years unsuccesfully, including one attempt that ended with a stillborn child.

We took a break from trying after that but resumed about 7 months ago. Im not infertile, but do have a genetic disease that makes it unlikely.

Two weeks ago my girlfriend tested positive on her pregnancy test. Things have been rough between us recently but I was so happy because i thought this was both a chance to patch up our relationship and for me to become a father.

Today she told me she was going to get an abortion.

Like i said, the past few months have been rough and, to be frank, i think she’s cheating on me with a coworker. Ever since things got rough she’s been spending a lot of time with him, including going on “platonic” date nights most saturdays.

I think i kind of knew all along, but we were still trying for a child so i ignored it. I think the abortion is because the kid is his and she doesnt want me to find out.

She says its because she cant deal with another stillborn but then what were we trying for for the past 7 months? She knew how important this was to me so why an abortion? Why not just let me raise the kid if she doesn’t want it? I’d be happy to do that but no.

I’ve been thinking of telling the coworker. Im sure its his and he has the right to know. I also thought of telling her parents – theyve been rooting us on the whole time but i dont know. Im so lost.

This was supposed to be a happy time in my life and i feel like everything ive been working for has been taken away from me.

Any advice on how to handle this is appreciated. She has an appointment for the abortion on friday.

I (m45) have been mentoring this girl (f27) for 5 years. Yesterday was my last day in this job and she offered to hook up with me, which I took.

I think it was a thank you gift from her as she’s always contributed her success to my guidance.

Yesterday, the office had a farewell dinner for me as I was a long-time employee with them. She was the last to leave and we had a long conversation where she kept repeating if there is anything she can do to thank me for what I’ve done.

At some point it became obvious she meant f-ing as she’s became flirty and I responded as well and she invited me back to her apartment.

Both of us are single and it was consensual. At the moment it felt passionate and beautiful but the guilt started to creep in when I left as I have always viewed her as my daughter over the past 5 years.

I don’t think I will see her again as I am taking another job overseas. Was it wrong of me to accept? And how can I get over this feeling?

Netizens’ comments

1. It’s because you feel responsible for her, and you feel like you took advantage of that trust. Most likely, she has an unhealthy view of father figure type men and interest and that also will make you feel a little gross.
2. If it felt wrong, it was probably wrong (for you personally)
3. Even though you are leaving, the issue is she may still reach out to you in the future for like a letter of recommendation or may even reach out to you for a job. How are you going to react then? Are you going to feel obligated to do it because she slept with you? Could she use this as leverage against you in the future in some way? There are a long list of reasons why you should have declined.
   At the end of the day, it could have been innocent. She probably was attracted to you for a while but didn’t initiate because she works closely with you. Now that you are leaving, she probably thought that was a better time than never.
   Obviously pay close attention to the post nut clarity as it will guide you in the future. I think this sort of thing is akin to close friends sleeping together but then one of them regrets it afterwards because they felt they f-ed their sibling.

I once broke up with a girl because she turned the bathroom into a biohazard every time she took a dump.

A few years ago I was in a relationship with a Korean girl. I’m not talking about someone who has Korean ancestry.

She was actually born and raised in Korea. So she ate a lot of kimchi, bulgogi, garlic, spicy food, etc.

The first time it happened, she got up while we were watching a movie. When she came back I needed to pee so I went into the bathroom and immediately almost threw up.

It was legitimately one of the most horrid smells I’ve ever experienced. I didn’t say anything though because I didn’t want to embarass her.

I started buying air freshener and spraying the bathroom top to bottom every time she used it. It didn’t help much.

Eventually, I started to associate the sight of her with the rancid poop smell. I couldn’t be around her without being disgusted.

So we broke up. I told her it was because we were both busy in our personal lives, but it was actually because whenever I see her I think of poop and the smell.

I just couldn’t put up with her ‘crap’ any longer.

Netizens’ comments

1. I’ve been married 24 years and still time my shits to keep my wife in the dark as to the pure evil I’m capable of producing
2. My wife literally tells me to stay away from the toilet after she takes a dump so it doesn’t change my perception of her lmaooo
   Crazy that she actually has a point and it might very well make me break up with her /s
3. Had a housemate who would get up at 6am to poo and it would destroy the whole house. Never smelled shit that bad.
4. If you are afraid of stinking up the bathrooms just flush as soon as it hits the water. Flush multiple times if you need too.

boss expects me to text her when I leave my house

My boss has repeatedly tried to get me to come in 10 minutes before the start of my shift so she won’t be late for her other job.

At first she demanded I do so (until I spoke with her boss lol). She dropped it for about a month. Last night before I came in (7 minutes before the start of my shift, exactly) she called me 5 times back to back.

When I came in she asked me to text her before I leave the house from now on “if you’re going to be late.” I corrected her and let her know that I wasn’t, in fact, late.

I clocked in on the dot. We argued back and forth about me texting her before I left my house. She didn’t seem too happy with my refusal lol.

I’m literally never late, I usually arrive a few minutes early. I just don’t see myself continuing to do so if she’s going to harass me when I don’t do her bidding immediately lol.

It’s so frustrating being told I’m doing something wrong and not being courteous. I’d say calling me 5 times in a row when I’m driving and trying to keep an eye out for my exit is discourteous but WHATEVER.

Netizens’ comments

1. “So you want me to start my workday by texting someone at work? So you will start paying me when you receive my text? If I text you when. I leave at 8 to arrive at 8:50 you start paying me at 8 right?”
2. Tell her “I’m sorry but you and this company don’t exist to me outside of my working hours.”
3. Why don’t you set your phone to block her when you’re off the clock, since you are off the clock?
4. “If I get a bunch of calls and texts from work, I gotta pull over and answer them. That’s gonna make me late”.
5. i would take this to her boss again, and as others mentioned, make it clear that you’d be willing to do so, if that text then counts as you clocking in. her boss will then probably dismiss the whole thing.

My girlfriend is cheating on me ! I found her texts with another guy because I had been seeing they were talking for a few weeks. This is the first time I’ve checked her phone since we started dating over 2 years ago.

Yea she’s been seeing this man and talking to him about how much she regrets sharing a place to stay with me. I confront her the first she didn’t say anything, I go the second time she gets mad at me then apologizes shortly after. Couple days go by and she acts like nothing happened, then at the park while we’re with her mother I see his notification pop up. I act like I don’t see it, I check it again and she gives the man our new address. I confront her and she just gives me a million reasons why she can’t talk. There’s so much more I wish I can add for you guys to better understand my situation. Either way I’m not sure what to do now!

She soon got pregnant and I had this gut feeling that it was not mine, I went to the doctor and found out that if I were to do a maternal test before the baby is born there will be some risk involved.

So I waited till she give birth and I refused to marry her even then. So finally after giving birth I decided to do the test and found out that kid is not mine. I was kind of bluffing myself hoping that its not true and I have since gone MIA on her.

She belongs to the streets. I have a Career, school to finish and life to live. She made her own decision it’s time for her to go.

Talked to her this morning again she doesn’t know what she wants apparently and doesn’t seem willing to co-parent and wants to dump the child for me to take care as the guy she slept with has a family.

She won’t really acknowledge or respond with anything so it’s basically talking to a brick wall. I’m just trying to figure out what we do with our during this situation she put us in.

My dad just saw a browser tab with some adult videos playing that I had forgotten to close on my iPad. I now want to curl up into a ball and die.

So I was um… doing things earlier and I had a tab open on my iPad and after my business was finished I completely forgot to close the tab.

Later, my dad came into my room to sort some banking things out and got me to open Google on my iPad to do it.

As soon as I opened Google, we were both greeted by the thumbnail of a man and woman completely wearing nothing with absolutely no confusion as to what they were doing.

Having realised my mistake, I quickly fumbled to close the tab while my heart was pounding and after missing the X a few times, I finally managed to get it to close.

Afterwards while sorting out said banking thing, he didn’t make any mention of what had just happened. I’m not even 100% sure he saw it as the iPad was slightly angled towards me, but I’m pretty sure he saw it.

He even seemed to go silent when it showed up on the screen. When he finally left my room, I just wanted to curl up into a ball and die due the embarrassment.

Overall, things could have been worse as I wasn’t watching anything weird and he’s not one of those parents who would care about me watching such things

he probably already knew that I do as surely he’s not stupid enough to think that me as an 18 year old male has never watched it but it was still an extremely embarrassing moment all the same.

Netizens’ comments

1. He saw it and it isn’t a big deal to him. If it makes you feel better I once walked in on my dad watching those videos. We’ve never spoken of it because there’s no need to.
2. He is having a quiet a chuckle at your freak out face (yes it was obvious, you are not as smooth as you think) and then he has moved on. If he is a normal parent as you describe, it is not worth freaking out over.
3. As a 57 year old woman I’m going to give you a piece of advice. Repeat after me…
   It never happened.
   You will repeat that for at least the next 10 years. Sometime after 10 years you can laugh about it with your father, but only if he brings it up. Until then, it never happened.

So I was getting nasty with my girlfriend in bed and the condom slipped off while we were doing it, and it got stuck inside her.

She’s so mad about it I don’t know what to do. We were switching up positions and when I pulled out there was no condom on me anymore.

I didn’t really notice it was gone but thinking back it did feel a bit different. So I tell her it’s gone and she freaks out at me where is it. I looked around in case it was in the bed but it wasn’t.

I had to dig around inside and it took some time but I pulled it out. It was like jammed up there. So now she’s mad and we didn’t finish.

This is like literally the first time this has happened and wondering what I can do to make sure it doesn’t again?

Like do I really need to keep an eye out for it to make sure it’s always on? Am I 100% at fault here? I never came in her so we should be good right?

Netizens’ comments

1. You’re not at fault but find a better fitting condom 🙂 Try one until it works well
2. Use cling wrap next time.
3. But seriously, I think they should be glad not mad at each other. Imagine how he would have framed the question if they didn’t change positions and he came as though the condom was still in place.
4. This happened to me with my boyfriend. I didn’t get mad, I did freak out temporarily because I couldn’t reach it myself and he had to fish around to find it but it happens!
   When you’re in the moment, sometimes you’re not paying attention to things like that. We’ve also had the condom break but my boyfriend will immediately stop because it “feels too good to be true” when that happens. No reason to be angry though!
5. Wait. Is she mad at you because of this accident? I’d understand being upset at the incident, but it sounds like she’s upset with you, and that… doesn’t really make any sense.

Dishonest Hawker. What Should I do?

Recently went to a well known hawker center and one of the store (not going to say who scare kena sue for defamation) was extremely dishonest.

Gave me $2 change for $50 note when the meal cost $8. I swore to the gods that I gave $50. So I looked at the reviews of that stall online and there were reviews from others saying that the owner was dishonest to them as well.

One guy even commented that he paid through paylah and the stall owner said she didn’t receive. Not the only bad review too.

Also, I’m thinking of calling the police but maybe I should stage a situation to gather more evidence first to send this “evil spirit in human skin to the gallows”. What should I do?

Netizens’ comments

1. $50 is a tangible amount. What a scam.
   I might or might not have made a scene depending on the environment at that time.
   But it’s no joke to just blatantly take someone’s $50 and do this kind of things.
   I really wish you would be inclined to reveal more, but I acknowledge your hesitation behind it as well.
2. Paste a decal sticker warning about this hawker on every table at the hawker centre. W move.
3. If you didn’t call the police right then and there, you’ve got no recourse I’m afraid.
4. OP sacrifice yourself and buy from them again, record the whole thing
5. I was gaslighted when I gave a $10 for a Teh Peng and got a few cents back. She insisted I gave a $2, and kept asking me to check my wallet. I was sure about myself coz I remembered it was the last $10 I had. I didn’t back down, and in the end she returned me the proper change. That same week, the runner shortchanged me for my Teh Peng.
   I got annoyed coz I’m usually cordial with my favourite coffeeshop Lady Boss and the runners. I wonder if it was a thing they were “trying out” but which didn’t work out, coz these incidents hadn’t happened again. Price increase happened instead

i might die in 7 hours, and I’m not afraid.

I (14M) have a bone disease known as Multiple Hereditary Exostoses (MHE). It causes benign bone tumors to grow everywhere on my body. Although they aren’t cancerous, they are very painful when they are near a nerve.

A lot of these tumors have grown in my knees, fingers and ribs. You can probably guess there are a lot of nerves and muscles there that can be pinched and pierced. It hurts quite a lot. I am constantly at level 5 pain (scale of 1-10). I can only walk for up to 2 minutes, I can’t write (with a pen, if I couldnt type this post wouldnt exist lol) and I’m basically in agony.

We have decided I will go for surgery to saw off some of the most painful tumors in my knee. Hopefully this will restore my ability to walk. The doctors have also decided we should remove 2 of my ribs, which have cracked due to the tumors. They’ll be replaced with metal I think.

There is a 20% chance of death with all these very complicated procedures, and of course, a chance this surgery doesn’t change anything, or even makes it worse. Rolling less than 6 sided dice to determine if I live or die. But to be honest, I don’t really care what happens in this surgery.

If it works, great, I can walk again. If it fails and my condition stays the same/deteriorates, I’ve adapted to this disease enough. I can probably handle a few turns for the worst. And if I die, well, I suppose then there is no more pain.

My friends say it is wrong for me to feel okay about dying. I don’t exactly care if I die at this point. It’s in fate’s hands at this point.

In 7 hours, I’ll be on the operating table that’ll determine my destiny, see you on the other side

Netizens’ comments

• A very good friend of mine has this. She went through surgery to remove some of the very painful ones around her spine I think.

She made a 100% recovery, and she was 27 years old and a smoker/drinker.

• I probably have the same disease. When i was 15yo i had two biggest tumors removed, one from my arm and one from my leg. They were really big but in couple of days after the surgery i was slowly walking again. Today, more than 20 years later everything is still fine even though i have some more tumors left. After i stopped growing, they stopped growing. I guess what i am trying to tell you is to be brave and not give up. It will be better, you are stronger than the disease.

Credits: CaptAndrew