Girlfriend (30f) keeps turning down my proposals (48m)
My girlfriend and the mother of my son and I have been together for four years, and she is the mother of my 2 year old son. After we dated for a year I asked her to marry me. She said no. I thought we were still early in the relationship so that was okay.
The second time I asked was when our son was born. She said no. I thought with the pandemic and new baby maybe it was too much.
Today, I took our son and bought her some flowers. I had him run to her with them and I came out with the ring.
She said “I wondered when you’d ask again!” Happy as could be, and then she said no…
I couldn’t take it and started crying. I went in another room away from our son so I could really let it out.
She came in later and played with my hair and started telling me any woman would be lucky to be my wife. But, it’s probably not her.
I don’t understand. We live together. We are great in bed, we talk, we laugh, we have a baby! And she still says no. What I doing wrong here?!
I’m so sad. What do I do? Whenever I ask why she shrugs and gets quiet and leaves the room. I just need advice, I can add to this as needed but I can’t think of anything else to say. Thanks…
A Facebook post by a local musician, Khim Ng, emerged online, exposing Cathay busker Jeff Ng for allegedly being “entitled”, according to AsiaOne.
Here is what the musician said
Disclaimer alert : My post stands here as an opinion of mine. You can agree to disagree. Also, I did not post in any TIKTOK OR FORUM. Just in case , cos some tiktok fella linked me Imao.
This Jeff Ng thing is so perplexing . Especially for people in the industry.
I sincerely wanna feel happy for him for getting his ” Respected Moment” n quick fame from busking. ( Gotta credit him for his hardwork in his craft, not to the extend of self proclaimed 0 but good enough to survive and do well.)
But then again all of us that “knows him” also can’t stand his DIVA and entitled attitude in the music and live bar gigs industry. Talent is 1 thing, but work Ethics , self awareness and attitude to ANYONE AND EVERYONE is EVERYTHING to survive.
If he succeeds as an artiste, GOOD for him.
But 1 thing for sure, no major LIVE BAR outlets will dare to hire him. Because up till now, he still doesn’t understand that, people go the bars with livemusic to ENJOY and PARTY with your music and their company of friends, not to WATCH UR CONCERT QUIETLY. They paid to enjoy.
Apparently he still SCOLDS patrons for “making noise” during his sets. ( evidently) I mean, there’s no entitlement for any of us that’s been in the scene LONGER than him to behave this way. So why should he be?
Bar owners will understand, as entertainers, our customer’s fun and pleasure is our priority. Maybe the Busking scene does suits him cos its not a bar setting and no one is intoxicated with alcohol to “misbehave”. And he deserves that love received with the right setting he is comfortable in. Kudos to that.
Will he succeed? If he does, good for him. If he doesn’t, he brought it upon himself. No matter how he and his “fans” wanna help him delete n report negative comments(which are NOT UNTRUE), his bad behaviour be it in the past or now will come back and bite him again n again if he doesn’t change or apologise.
Well….. what a guy… And all the best.
Other allegations emerged
Ng also purportedly wrote a lengthy Facebook post, blasting the sound crew following a performance at the Esplanade Concourse.
He described the sound crew as the “worst” and said that it will be his last time performing there “even if I make it big one day”, before adding “unless they can guarantee they tour me around and give me the best sound”.
Veteran actor Terence Cao, reportedly sold a $12,500 Rolex watch in 16 seconds, according to Shin Min Daily News.
The actor does live-stream sales on his e-commerce and F&B platform Sibay Shiok, which he co-founded in 2021.
Speaking to SMDN, he said that he is “forced” to do live-streaming because nobody has hired him for acting jobs and that he doesn’t have an income.
He told the Chinese paper that he went into selling luxury watches for a company on their platform, and was surprised when he had 3 takers for $12.5k Rolex, which was sold within 16 seconds.
The transaction was also successfully completed in 3 minutes.
He was asked if he considers himself an actor or a live streamer, the 54-year-old said that “it’s hard to say, it’s all up to God.”
Another local musican, Ariane Goh, shared about how she was with 2 of her friends in Taiwan verifying their check in details at the airport for their flight back to Singapore, when they were told that their return flight dates were changed, and authorised by another passenger under the same itinerary.
The itinerary had 4 passengers listed on it, with 3 of them being present at the airport, and the 4th being a man named “Jeff Ng” who cancelled his trip with them due to personal reasons.
The tickets under the group’s name were changed except for Jeff’s, and his ex-girlfriend then told them that he had changed all of their return flights by “accident” while making changes to his own return flight.
The netizen then questioned his motives, asking “Why would you change your return ticket when you did not even depart in the first place?” Seemingly insinuating an attempt at sabotage.
Some netizens have claimed that the Jeff Ng from this incident is the Cathay busker, who was earlier exposed by his ex-girlfriend for being the “worst person” she has ever met.
Here is the netizen’s post
To those who are concerned, I have touched down safely in Singapore at 1am after what is possibly the worst that can happen to anyone of us. Thank you to all who has raised your concerns and to friends who even came down to pick us up at the airport. I speak on behalf 2 of my friends who were on flight with me.
As we were verifying our check in details at the counter enroute for our flight back to Singapore on 29/8, we were told by the counter staff that our return flight dates were changed from 29/8 to 24/8, 2 days after our departure flight date, authorized by a passenger under the same itinerary.
The itinerary had 4 passengers listed, with 3 of us present at Taoyuan International Airport. The other passenger was Jeff Ng, who chose to cancel his trip with us due to personal reasons. We then found out through a phone conversation with the Jetstar customer reprentative from Singapore that a transaction of SGD200 was even made for the above change and changes were made on our day of departure, 22/8 while we were on the flight to Taipei, with no wifi access on board.
We were told that only tickets under our names, excluding Jeff Ng’s were changed. Mistake? Coincidence? I really doubt so.
We were left stranded and panicking for a good amount of time at the airport under tremendous emotional stress before deciding to purchase return flight tickets on the same flight at a hefty sum.
I was then told by his ex girlfriend who confronted Jeff Ng that he made changes to all of our return flights by accident while making changes to his own return flight. Question: Why would you change your return ticket when you did not even depart in the first place? Then again, you did not even make any changes to your flight, did you?
Thanks to this girl, our money was reimbursed by Jeff Ng almost immediately upon touch down. Then again, SGD1800 is nothing as compared to the pain and the emotional rollercoaster that we had to face in the last 6.5hours, rushing from counter to counter and from gate to gate.
As much as I am trying to keep this post as ‘a matter of fact’ post, I have to say that I am utterly ashamed that I was once kind and patient to someone like that. Getting back at me this way for helping your ex girlfriend move on from you is definitely creative.
Dear Jeff, 你真的很厲害。
UPDATE (30/8, 7.50pm): We called Jetstar this afternoon to try to retrieve the transaction history. According to another Jetstar customer representative, it was certain that Jeff Ng made the change of all of our return flights, including his, on our departure flight date on 22/8 at 6am. Our departure flight was scheduled at 7am, where he had no intentions to fly that morning as his final decision was made known to his ex girlfriend through a phone conversation at 6.14am.
Though we have some clearing to do with Jetstar as to why their information provided from the same branch can be vastly different, we still question the motive behind the change of return flight dates to 2 days after the departure flight date made by Jeff Ng 15 minutes before check in closes, especially when he does not have the intention to fly.
I really would like to believe that it was an accident that 3 of our return flights were changed along with his, but logic tells me that it is not possible with all the supporting proof we have from reliable sources.
A video emerged online showing a resident allegedly trying to jump out of a HDB building somewhere in Yishun.
SCDF rescuers were seen at the scene climbing over the windows and down the building, deploying nets to cover the affected unit where the resident was allegedly trying to jump out of.
An inflatable safety life air pack was also deployed at the foot of the block.
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Singapore Minister of Defence Ng Eng Hen responded to former Malaysian Prime Minister Mahathir’s recent comments about “claiming” Singapore and the Riau Islands, saying that it was taken out of context.
Speaking to the media, Ng said that Dr Mahathir wasn’t talking to us, and that “If you want to jump up and down each time Dr Mahathir speaks, then you will be jumping like a jumping bean,” according to Straits Times.
He added that Mahathir deserves the respect that he is due, as he is a known entity who is respected as an elder, who has dealt with previous prime ministers, including PM Lee.
He added that Mahathir himself has said that those comments were not for Singaproe and that we should just take it at face value.
Recap
Speaking during a speech on 19 June, Mahathir said that “however, there is no demand whatsoever of Singapore. Instead, we show our appreciation to the leadership of this new country called Singapore.”
Mahathir said that the government of Malaysia deemed the control of the Sipadan and Ligitan islands more valuable after winning control over it at the International Court of Justice, while giving up the Pedra Branca island to Singapore, calling it “the size of a table”.
Mahathir added that “We should demand not just that Pedra Branca, or Pulau Batu Puteh, be given back to us, we should also demand Singapore as well as the Riau Islands, as they are Tanah Melayu”
He said that the Tanah Melayu used to stretch all the way from Southern Thailand to the Riau Islands, and Singapore.
But now, he added, it is confined to the Malay Peninsula.
Mahathir then further added that he “wonder(s) whether the Malay Peninsula will belong to someone else in the future.”
The biggest nightclub in Singapore, Marquee, reopened last night (1 July) and saw throngs of people visiting the nightclub on their reopening.
Videos of the crowd situation inside and outside the club emerged online, showing the place being packed like sardines.
Marquee is currently operating at full capacity, with long winding queues to enter the nightclub, located beside the Sands Theatre at The Shoppes in MBS.
The club was previously closed in March 2020 due to the deteriorating pandemic situation back then, and has since reopened.
MOH previously announced that with effect from 14 JUne, patrons will no longer need to produce a negative ART test result to enter these venues.
The capacity limits have also been lifted for nightlife establishments with dancing, although vaccination differentiated measures continue to be in force.
Patrons are also required to put on a mask while dancing on the dance floor.
Affection is a strong feeling that pushes people to do what they normally won’t. A photo circulating on Facebook stated that a man gave a bouquet of money to a woman from a night joint.
According to Vaster News, the page stated that (Google Translated):
“Singapore’s night entertainment venues ushered in revenge spending, a high-stakes customer gave a S$40,000 “cash bouquet” to a night girl! (as the picture shows)”
Original text:
新加坡夜间娱乐场所迎来报复性消费，一豪客送4万新元“现金花束”给一名夜场女郎！（如图所示）
Netizens who saw the photo were not pleased:
Some of the netizens raised the question if the man is also as generous to his family.
Netizens said:
“$1,000 you can get one, $40,000 you can get 40. It’s possible to spend 40,000 daily. 40,000 is enough to have fun for 40 days. Even if you have alot of money, you should not spend like this.”
“When a man is itchy he can go bankrupt also no problem”
“If the woman received this for 10 days she can play for early retirement”
Too much money
It is unclear if this story is true but whether you are giving this to a woman in a club or gf or wife that is still alot of money.
My friend (F20) will not stop flirting at me (M19), even though we are both taken. It is making me feel uncomfortable.
A bit of background first, I (M19) have known this girl (F20) for a few months. When we first met we were both single and flirted heavily, almost leading to a friends with benefits situation.
We didnt however, due to her being mad at me saying no to sleeping with her and her disappearing for 2 weeks due to me starting to go on dates with my now girlfriend (we have been seeing each other for 1.5 months now).
She came back and she started seeing someone too. Her ex. But she keeps making flirty comments and jokes towards me, and it is eating me up.
I told my girlfriend everything and she isnt giving me advice, only letting me vent. Once I started seeing my girlfriend, and the ‘friend’ came back I refused to flirt back, instead deflecting it, bringing up how we were not single and changing the topic.
Whilst she keeps making flirty comments and intentionally adult jokes. For instance, today she made a joke about having a house at 20 whilst i didnt. I said ‘f you’ for banter, which she replied to as ‘yeah, I told you that you have to ask nicely’ which i deflected by bringing up her boyfriend and how he feels.
Apparently he is okay with these jokes. I dont know what to do, I want her to stop but she wont. It is eating me up inside heavily. I know it is obvious what i should do, if hints arnt working I have to ghost her. But I have no idea how. Any advice will help.
20-year-old Tan Yan Rong pleaded guilty on 1 July to a charge under the Arms and Explosives Act, with another charge being considered for his sentencing on 10 August.
He was found with 19 replica guns during a police investigation, as well as selling at least 16 other similar weapons.
Tan had gone on Taobao, an online shopping platform, to buy the replica guns for the purposes of keeping them for himself and reselling them online.
What happened
The ICA detected four sets of airsoft guns during an operation at Lam Soon Industrial Building in Hillview Avenue on 7 September 2020, and reported it to the police.
A consignment with Tan’s address was found by the police during their investigations, with a plastic toy revolver and three plastic toy rifles being found inside a container.
Tan was arrested on suspicion of having committed offences under the Arms and Explosives Act on the same day that ICA made the report, and 19 replica guns were found at his home and seized at about 10pm that day.
ST Engineering Synthesis assessed the guns as being capable of shooting pellets and were thusly defined as “arms” under the Arms and Explosives Act, which Tan was not authorised to possess.
He bought the guns either to keep or resell to local buyers via Carousell, where he could deliver the items to the buyer in person and accept payment via PayNow or Cash on Delivery.
Tan admitted to buying the guns online from 2018/2019 to about a few weeks before his arrest, and investigators retrieved his WeChat and Taobao logs, showing that he had at least 5 customers from March to Sepmetb 2020 to whom he had sold at least 16 of the guns and accessories.
