A young man shared his encounters with a woman that is much older than him.

Here is the story:

Hi I’m 21(M) and I was matched with a 44(F) in the dating app and I was there for fun. So we met up after a few chats.

3 months later I went to her place and I spent a night with her. I’m surprised she is so good in bed.I thought women at her age passed childbearing, so I dared to do it. Now I regretted it because she told me she was pregnant a month plus later. I suggested her to go for an abortion because I am not ready to start a family, and since she is older than me, she should be able to pay for the abortion.

She got angry with me and stopped contacting me thereafter.

I got to know a few days ago she didn’t go for an abortion, and she is pregnant with my twins. What shall I do? To get back in touch with her again? I still not ready to start a family, especially with a woman much older than me.

Here is what netizens think:

• Nicely done. U had your fun and then U decided to walk away and let her handle the abortion fees.U are 21, U are too young to start a family. I can already see your future going down the drain.I believe the logical thing to do is not to get married, but be there for the twins when they are born. No one says you have to be a husband, but U definitely need to fulfill the role of a father to provide.Lastly, there are other holes to upload your shit if U really dun want to be a father. Please exercise some self control, it’s becoz of people like U that some kids will grow up unhappy and become rebellious.

So you did it with someone old enough to be your mother, and because of you she’s going to be mother to a pair of twins young enough to be her grandchildren…

• Boy,one moment of shiok dong dong give u life time of seow ding dong.You will live with the stigma forever in your life

• If I’m you, I will get back with her cos I will not have to worry about her getting pregnant during her pregnancy period.

• She can sue you for child support and you will be financially impoverished for the next 21 years! And at 44, she is at risk of pregnancy complication or giving birth to baby with special needs.

Back then I believed in true love but I started to see the comfort of another woman, they have boyfriends to chauffeur them around and I’m taking bus and MRT with my boyfriend.

Soon I got a bf with a car, but it was an old broken piece of junk he calls it a “car”. It was so noisy and the aircon was never cold. I ended it with him because I did not feel comfortable. I needed some more atas car to fit me.

So, I’m a gold digger. But not the way you’re thinking about it, I’m a pro. I check the newspapers for financial transactions, then “bump into” someone who’s just made a lot of money and ask them out, that’s how I met my current husband, but he was a player for most of his life so he genuinely thought i was into him (or so i thought at the time).

he implied that he was exhausted from the drama and just wanted a homely girl to be the mother of his children, so i played the part and kept up the charade as we were dating, and then as we got engaged, then married.

Unlike a lot of professional gold diggers, my final goal wasn’t some doormat workaholic husband who will fund a lifestyle of luxury for me as he toiled endlessly while I swiped his credit cards all day. I just wanted to live an upper middle-class lifestyle as a stay at home mom, i genuinely wanted kids, and wanted to be the best mom i could.

But slowly i found myself falling in love with my husband. I lived a pretty brutal life and developed somewhat sociopathic tendencies as a result like being able to use people without feeling guilty and not caring about people, but one day as i woke up next to him and thought about how i would be really broken if he died, or left me somehow i realized my feelings for him were genuine, i felt bad about manipulating him, and after a few weeks i gathered up the courage and told him everything, how I’m a gold digger who wanted him for his money, and how i played a part the whole time so he would marry me, but to my surprise he just laughed it off and went on with what he was doing

He told me he knew all along, and how he was already cynical about relationships and “understood” that whoever he married wouldn’t be 100 percent genuine and that’s just “something you have to deal with” I’m partly relieved that he’s not gonna divorce me, but I’m also bummed out, it’s totally reasonable to not trust me because of what i did, but it’s a bit too much to not trust anyone. Is there any way i can show him that I’m genuinely into him now, and invested in the relationship?

So my GF and I have dated for just barely 3 years. She has met my immediate family and but she has never met my extended family.

So we have a tradition where once a month my grandmother hosts a Sunday dinner for the entire family at her home. We all show up and if you’re old enough to use a stove you cook.

My girlfriend has never attended until very recently, the first time she did was in December prior to Christmas. This is because my grandmother would prefer to not have non family and partners that haven’t been around for a while present.

When she attended in December, I got word that my grandmother didn’t approve of her choice of clothing and won’t welcome her back if she doesn’t dress better. My aunt told me that grandma thought she dressed, “whorish”. Now I fully disagree and so did my family and my aunt. My girlfriend was admittedly dressed slightly less conservative than the other women but I wouldn’t call what she was wearing immodest at all.

So I told my girlfriend and asked her if she would dress more conservatively next time. So come January the dinner is this Sunday. I wanted to not have a repeat of what happened last time as I want her to get FaceTime with my family.

I asked my girlfriend to show me her dress before this weekends. She did and the dress was less conservative. Again, it wasn’t immodest, but just less conservative and I know it’d piss my grandmother off again. She said no as she really liked the dress and it was modest. I told her that what’s modest to her isn’t going to be what’s modest to a 89-year-old woman. I told her if she wanted to buy a dress I’d pay for it.

She refused. After some arguing, she proved that she was not going to budge. I told her that I’d she didn’t change it would be better if she just not show up and we try to find a solution for next month. She then said she wasn’t getting a different dress and I told her that it’s best she not come and I’d go without her.

She told me I was being unreasonable and putting an old woman’s outdated views over her freedom. I feel like I was being very reasonable.

There is this saying, both sides of my palm is my flesh. whichever side i got pinched is gonna hurt.

What should I do?

I’m 30 and live with my husband and three children (m8/ f5 / and m2). I work as a freelance artist from home and my husband works long hours driving. As a result, I do the majority of housework and look after our three children. Though when he’s off work and home, he takes on his fair share. Our lives mean that we don’t have much free time.

I enjoy cooking and as a mum, I make sure to give my children a wide variety of foods to eat. I want them to appreciate different cultures, flavours and different types of cuisine from all around the world, and to grow up kind and respectful of others, so a few days a week, (3 out of 7 )my children and I cook together and make a recipe from another country. We all enjoy this and it gives a perfect segue into learning about a foreign country.

My husband on the other hand has a more plain palette and prefers simple dishes that he grew up with, such as fish and chips, bbq chicken etc. We eat plenty of meals like this too.

A week ago, we hired a babysitter and went to a friend’s house for dinner. (All Covid tested and negative) They cooked a beautiful vegetarian pie, with mashed potatoes and vegetables.My husband turned to them and said “Oh god, finally! A decent meal for once! My wife is always cooking these awful smelly dishes.”

Hurt, I looked at my husband and asked him what he meant, and he said that ” he only puts up with it, because he doesn’t have time to cook something decent for himself”.

The meal was a little awkward after that, but neither of us brought it up again while there, until we came home. I told him that I “wouldn’t stop cooking foreign food with the kids and if he didn’t like it, he would have to cook something for himself.” He once again said that ” he didn’t have time for that, and I should just cook him something he likes at the same time, ” which I refuse to do, mainly because when he comes home after work he spends all his time, up until bedtime, gaming (this is around 4 / 4 1/2 hours of time after he comes in.) and has plenty of time to cook a quick, but decent meal for himself and enjoy his hobby.

Once again this week, I cooked with my kids and like I told my husband, I didn’t leave him any. He was pissed, but ordered take out. The second time he went around to his parents house and his mum cooked for him. The next day, I got a phone call from my mother in laaw saying I was ” a bad wife for not cooking for my husband, and that I spent all day doing my hobby (my actual job) and why shouldn’t he enjoy his hobby? ” Which again, he still can and does do. I also still cook for him on the days I’m not cooking anything foreign.

So am I in the wrong? He need to bring his mother out to settle small things like this. I think i married a child.